it goes like this for 2 or 3 years i dated a guy on yahoo. and we really got to know each other over that time, he was actually going to move here to be with me, but i got impatient and left him bcuz it was taking to long for the so called "paperwork", although i really love him. So in the time we weren't together i met someone new and we've been dating for almost a year now. I like him but i miss my old bf. my new bf is a sweetie but he acts like a lil kid all the time, doesn't have a job, car, or license at 25.... I feel like he drags me down a peg treating me like i'm his mom.... i dont want that but i do like him...i duno what to do should i leave my new bf for my old bf who is still trying to get me back and still loves me as much as he did when we were together those 2 years?
2007-02-27 21:03:59 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats all depends on you. ask deeply in your heart. which one do you truly love. is he the one you NEED or WANT? there's a big difference you know.
2007-02-27 21:09:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to break this to you but you cant date people over the internet. You have to meet them, touch them, kiss them or whatever else. Emails, IM and digital pictures do not count I dont care what anybody says.
As for your new BF, dont worry about trying to mold him into what you really want in a BF. He's gonna be a needy mommas boy the rest of his life. So if you dont want to be mommy to an grown *** man then you should start steppin away from him too.
Its not that hard to meet a real person. I honestly think you could do much better than both of these guys by just going on personals.yahoo.com you'll get to talk to a few and make sure they live in your city so you can actually meet them this time. Just one tip, if you do meet some, the first time just do it in a public place. I'm not trying to make you paranoid because regardless of what media or anyone says its no more unsafe than meeting a guy in school or off the street.
Please though, go pick out a real guy that you can have a real relationship with. Childeren and electronic giga-pet-guys arent what you are looking for. Dont settle, you're better than that.
2007-02-28 05:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the new boyfriend. He is a looser and you'll be sorry later on in life if you stay with him.
The real question is how much do you really love the first boyfriend? You don't really know him. He may sound like the perfect guy now, but if he is from another country he may be just using you to get to your country because it is better than the country he is living in now. So, if I were you I'd look for a new new boyfriend. One that you can be with in person and get to know him really well. Don't rush into marriage if you want to make it last. Divorces are messy and believe me I know. I've been there and done that. I hope you find some one soon. I found my love in Yahoo Personals within a 25 mile distance from my home.
2007-02-28 05:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about getting back with the old one, but if you still miss him and he still wants you, it might be stupid not to go back. He could be everything you've ever wanted.
As for your second man...you could probably abandon him at day care and forget about him. Every guy is going to act like a kid sometimes, but if at 25 not a smidgen of the man is showing through, it never will. Where do you see a future for this relationship? Seriously?
2007-02-28 05:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by glimpseofthesky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you want the old one. Go for him. Don't confuse gratitude and temporal satisfaction for love. You don't love your current boyfriend. You see him more as a substitute while the old one is unavailable. Please do everyone a favour and go back to your old one. It is not fair to your new boyfriend if you hang on to him as a substitute.
2007-02-28 05:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by lkraie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋