My boyfriend and I have been together 6 months, we met each other at work (my old job). We had not been on a proper date, just the two of us, until last night, we went to the cinema and for a meal. I had to pay for this which did'nt bother me as he had no money till he got paid and said he will take me out when he does.
He smokes a lot of cannabis and this makes him lazy and he never wants to go anywhere or do anything . He also has a 5 year old daughter and takes her 3 days a week which limits the time I get with him.
He didnt even thank me last night for the meal and said the film was rubbish! This made me feel as if all my efforts to get him to go out were for nothing!
Despite all this he is a lovely guy and I do love him, should I put up with this or dump him? Or give him a chance? I get the feeling I could do better.
Any advice would be welcome!
Thanks xxxxxxx
2007-02-27 20:56:05 · 26 answers · asked by Lolly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Come out with me, and then compare. You can then decide whether to dump him or not.
2007-03-01 01:04:39 · answer #1 · answered by Rude 4 U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here's the thing: where do you see this relationship going? Is it serious now? Will it ever be a serious relationship,etc?
You've been together for 6 months and this is the first time you've gone out? Wow. How did you guys end up getting together without ever going on a date or something. I've hooked up with girls on the first night, but at least we went out, and we had a good time and I made her feel comfortable so she let things escalate.
So he probably doesn't have money cuz he spent it on weed. He's probably a nice guy but if you don't see this going somewhere and you're not willing to have some kind of a motherly role to his kid then you're both wasting time. The child will always be a part of his life, so a part of your relationship.
I hope it all goes well for you.
2007-02-27 21:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by mmatthews000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah! Sorry but I've been there, done that, bought the t-shirt and I'm telling you this: If at 6 months into the relationship things are already this bad, then how will it be another 6 months down the line???! The man couldn't even be bothered to take you on a date, but worst of all you had to pay?!?!?
Take my advice and raise the bar a bit higher. You can do better than some brassic weedhead for a boyfriend.
2007-02-27 21:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by rachel e 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he said the film was rubbish that might be him being honest. To not thank you is just the tip of the iceburg!
I don't want to say dump him or not thats up to you but personally I would discuss it with him and give it another go but let him pay next time and make an example of your thanks! Don't be clouded by love!
Ask him to stop smoking the cannabis if he loves you! If he does then you have been right and he has no excuses if it ends!
2007-02-27 21:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by Katey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him!
He's a druggie, hasn't made the effort to take you anywhere in 6 months, and is generally lazy.
Oh, and you get the feeling you could do better.
Run away now before you end up a Jeremy Kyle statistic!
2007-02-27 21:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is very ungrateful, he may be a nice bloke but surely nice blokes would thank a girl after treating him to dinner and a meal? also if you've been seeing each other for 6 months and he hasn't taken you out in that time i'd be extremly p***** off cos there are a lot of guys who would wanan wine and dine you, make you feel special. and thats the key thing, you want someone why will make you feel special.
i wish you luck on your decision x
2007-02-27 21:12:35 · answer #6 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you certainly need to talk to him tell him how you feel sounds like he is selfish and not very mature if after talking to him he does not change leave
i have been with my partner for 10 years he was a heavy cannibas smoker for the first 2 years thought he was funny at first but then slowly it got worse he didnt want to do anything in the end i gave him a choice stop smoking the weed or its over he stoped so dont give up just yet
2007-02-27 21:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Y ou sound like a smart girl and i THINK YOU ALREADY ANSWERED YOU OWN QUESTION, sorry I just caught the caps key. He is lazy and he has baggage , you said you love him after only 6 months, if your having second thoughts like this I dont think you know yourself he sounds selfish and if he has money for drugs why doesn't he have money for you, personally I think you should get rid, but you will probably ignore the advice given to you"like most females" and stay with him.
2007-02-27 21:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by Trev23 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can definitely do better. He's a lazy,thankless,pot head. Get rid and get with someone who's worthy of you!
Snowsurfer made an outstanding point-he's got money to buy cannabis-but not to spend on you. That says a lot right there!!
2007-02-27 21:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this something you even want to consider putting up with for any longer length of time?
1. 6 months - 1 date - you pay - can he show any less effort?
2. the drugs make him little better than a vegetable
3. he doesn't have time for you
4. you are asking a bunch of strangers for permission to do what you know you should do
5. you already know you can do better. why are you settling??!
Good Luck
2007-02-27 21:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by glimpseofthesky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to address the cannabis addition - it is addictive and mood altering - abuse can lead to schizophrenia. If you love him you should try and have a talk with him and see whether he is prepared to get some help. Give him a chance but if he isn't prepared to change then you really need to get out of the relationship. Good luck.
2007-02-27 21:01:57 · answer #11 · answered by DIANE B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋