My friends from my last school have been in the same highschool now for a couple years, two of them are Junior's like me and one of my other friends is a Senior. A girl that's been sitting at our table likes him and has been flirting with him etc. for a while, it's evident she likes him. When he's not here, she's always asking my friends and I why he doesn't make a move or something, and just a few days ago he showed up at the table with his new girlfriend... the other girl was crushed.
The other girl has been in at least one of my classes ever since I was a Freshman, and I've always noticed how amazing she looks and how nice her smile is, every little thing like that. The thing is, though, I have a hard time talking... with girls especially, and I always know what to say, I just can't say it. I always stutter or something. I don't know what to do, though... I'm not the best-looking guy in school, and I don't have the best smile or anything like that. Any suggestions?
2007-02-27 20:52:54 · 8 answers · asked by David J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find a common interest and approach her as if she were another guy.
If she is receptive the conversation should flow more or less naturally. Show an interest in her. Ask her what classes she likes, what movies she's seen, and such.
I can't tell you how to build confidence, but it will come as you get older. By the way, in case you haven't noticed, you have a crush on her.
2007-02-27 21:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you are thinking of asking this girl out, please don't. She is clearly pining over your friend right now. Why set yourself up for a letdown? Sometimes it just isn't meant to be, and sometimes it just isn't meant to be right now. Wait a while, at least. You never know, things change. Just don't do it now.
As for the shyness - you will get over that as you get older, especially if you make an effort. I used to be very shy when I was young. I couldn't even go into a store by myself! But as I got older I realized that the world wouldn't blow up if I said something stupid, and I could have a lot more fun speaking up and making the occasional fool of myself that I could not saying anything at all. Plus, like you I knew I HAD SOMETHING TO SAY.
Now for the looks part - you may think you are not the best looking guy, but you don't know how others see you. And people may be initially attracted to looks but nobody falls in love with someone because of esthetics. Some of the most physically unattractive people get the most attention from the opposite sex because they are charismatic and interesting and fun to be around. Conversly, some who are considered extremely physically attractive never get more than a few dates because they lack personality, intelligence, are conceited or boring, etc. The surface stuff only counts until you get a chance to see the person inside.
Make an effort to develop the part of your personality that you let others see. I'm quite sure the part that's inside you is already pretty great.
And in case you didn't know this, it WILL get better as you get older and become more comfortable with who you are and how you fit into the world.
Good luck.
2007-02-28 05:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by Eris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for it. Don't worry about not being the best looking guy at school. Many times their personalities make them less attractive to women!
Make a list your good qualities & build up your self-esteem by looking at this list. Talk to her and if it was meant to be it will work out and if not you will not live with the regret of not trying & the what if's. You will also have gained practice talking to a pretty girl that makes you nervous so in the future it will be a bit easier! :) Here's hoping for the best for you!!
2007-02-28 05:14:35 · answer #3 · answered by libbey d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you try for her, maybe shell like you just the way you are when your with her, some girls dont go for the best looking guys all they need is a guy they can call thier one that would take good care of them and pamper them with love and affection. Talk to her about your true feelings! Goodluck!
2007-02-28 04:59:50 · answer #4 · answered by konfuzed_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hand her a friendly type of card. If you know what to say write it down in words. You don't have to be the best looking guy in school just get yourself some self confidence.
2007-02-28 05:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer. All the best. Show some confidence, may love guide you once you lose all rationality.
2007-02-28 04:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by lkraie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it and write a note.... that will get things going and if she's interested in your note, she'll respond accordingly. if not, at least you tried and you don't need to regret in the future for not making the attempt...
2007-02-28 04:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by ogg08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow some balls ,you should never die wondering,go for it
2007-02-28 04:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by matty60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋