I met this wonderful woman 6 months ago, and everything went well from day one. i had feelings for her and she also made it clear that she needs someone to fill her emotional gap and show a real interest and take a good care of her, which encouraged me to go further with my feelings and i fell in love with her, and am trying my best to make her happy.
Now am deeply in love with her, but she is always busy( work & college), and always confused about her feelings that i started to feel am giving her more attention than she can handle, and am afraid that this will have a negative effect on the relation. seriously am feeling that am expressing my love more than i should, and that am loosing my image or respect.
This is against my nature, but what should i do? Should i stop calling her or stop showing how much i care, am really confusing
Sorry for the long explanation
2007-02-27 20:43:36 · 12 answers · asked by Sami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way, am caring by nature, but am also realistic in relations, don’t expect others to show as much care as i do. i just need assurance from time to time , and it's not appropriate to keep asking for it. i think it should be natural from her side, right?
2007-02-27 21:07:59 · update #1
True love expects nothing in return!!
2007-02-27 20:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Phil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your the one puting all the work into the relationship while she takes it all for granted lol. I just posted a question myself about a similar deal. You should talk to her tell you how you feel express your feelings toward her and let her know you'll be there for her but want to know what she wants out of the relationship as well. If she wants the relationship to work she should express it so especially if she can't spend much time with you at least give you assurance the relationship is still strong.
2007-02-27 20:50:03 · answer #2 · answered by massure4hire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out if she feels the same way about you that you do about her. If not, then you need to back off. It is alarming that you say when you began the relationship she stated needing "someone to fill her emotional gap" - that is a HUGE red flag. Be careful and be honest to yourself. Try to get past the emotions and look at this situaion as objectively as possible. Good luck!
2007-02-27 20:55:27 · answer #3 · answered by Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be appreciated first. She is damn lucky.
You just talk with her once whenever she is free. Ask her opinion about you. Make her to tell frankly. Because she only knows the answer. Not you or not we all. Tell about your negative feeling. She will understand you. She tells you her thoughts. Follow her words.
First you stop thinking yourself negatively. You are showing her lots of care. Its really lovable by any woman.
All the best.
2007-02-27 21:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be as u are!!
and most importantly, try to be patient and cool-minded. its natural that she would be busy in works and college. u also utilize ur tym sumwhere else, lyk reading books, out for shopping, thinking for some gifts about her, messaging her etc..
am sure that even u will be busy and at last, when both are free, discuss the day, and what all have u thought for her!!
2007-02-27 20:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what is bothering her. If she says she wants you to back off do it, but she may just be afraid of committing to somebody when she has been burt by others who say they care for her. She might just be overwhelmed with work and school, mabe she just needs a while to clear her mind and rest.
2007-02-27 20:49:49 · answer #6 · answered by Hello 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you explained very well..
she's busy, so tell her that you two need to talk, as soon as she can, go and be clear with her and see if you two can work this by giving her a space to work and she gives you the love you want, be positive thinker, and grab with your both hand on this relationship, and make her understand that.. you'll do fine..
2007-02-27 20:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by steve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can show your care about her that will show you really love her but don't push her. Love will come slowly to you don't push it.
2007-02-27 20:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by Rizalcb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being you! don't change that! If you change let it be natural! Ween yourself away, if she loves you she will chase you!
2007-02-27 20:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by Katey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think both of you should talk and have to cool off or if cool off is not in your mind.....i think you should loosen up a bit .....dont focus too much on it
2007-02-27 20:50:39 · answer #10 · answered by geez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋