Would this be considered child abuse if my mother had spanke me with a paddled 20 times in a row for an incident that got me in trouble at school? Halfway through me getting paddled I was begging her to stop and I was screaming in pain to get her to stop?
I was 14 years old at the time and my mother made me pull down my pants but she didn't make me pull down my underwear, after I was done getting spanked I was in tears and I've felt that she didn't love me anymore and she was constantly being mean to me throughout the rest of the evening.
Was it okay for my mother to paddle me 20 times in a row for an incident that got me in trouble at school?
2007-02-27 20:14:22 · 12 answers · asked by Fell In Love 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
actually if you were my child I would have taken away something you really liked instead of hitting you. She really does love you but she was probly really upset and hurt and got so frustrated she didnt think about it and took her agression out on you. If you have friends you wouldnt have phone calls... id make you write pages from a dictionary id make you watch something really boring over and over or make you do a ton of chores.. hard ones. My son is 9 and i have found out that he hates dishes. and writing sentences... so he knows if he messes up... gets in trouble and it worth disipline... he wil be writing 100 sentences long ones and he cant get up untill he is done unless he has to use the bathroom. if its messy... ill rip it up and make him start over. you mom needs to realize there are other ways to disipline you ... but its really hard being a parent..Its very stressfull you will see one day and look back on life and understand why things happend. She loves you...she feels guilty enough having to do what she did but try not to put her in that situation to where she wants to swat you. you are now old enough to know right from wrong.
2007-02-27 20:27:58 · answer #1 · answered by misspookett 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You deserved it probably, and if you don't want to get paddled again, then behave. Good Job Mom, kids these days need discipline.
Its crazy how everyone assosciates spanking with abuse. At least it was your butt she paddled. Growing up if your face was the closest thing to slap thats where you got it, if you were bad in school, the hand. Kids get off so easy these days, time out for you, big deal. She did great is spanking you, taught you a lesson didn't it?? Do it again, get paddled again. Keep up the bad behaviour and the paddle may as well be glued to your a_$.
2007-02-28 00:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
you were 14, 3 swats on the butt wasn't going to get it done, was it?
20 might have been excessive, but I'll bet you didn't do it again!
I was hit for 15 minutes straight once....because my stepfather told me he was going to hit me until I didn't jump!
It's not right, but it seriously depends on what you did to deserve the "spanking". I have four kids, and I wouldn't hesitate to really SPANK them if they did something horrid to derserve it. I hate spanking my kids, I don't WANT to spank them, but I also belive that sometimes that's what needs to happen. Usually I can pop them on the butt once with my hand, and get my point across. But when they do something bad, that they KNOW is not okay, then yes I spank them. My kids are still young, so they get three swats on the butt. When they're 14 that's not going to work.
just as an example of what it takes to get a spanking in my house: This past summer my oldest set his brother's pillow on fire! I hollared at him and grounded him for a week. (He was 7) The next day he wants to go outside and play, and I told him no, that he was grounded for doing something he knew he should not have done. Well, he waited until my back was turned, and jumped the balcony! (Thank god we live on the first floor!) I had to call the MP's and it took them 3 hours to find him! That got him a spanking.
2007-02-27 20:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Patty O' Green 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow when I was 14 we got switches, we had to go to the bush and get our own.
No that is not abuse, it is punishment. She paddled you. Only on the rear end. Of course it hurt and you didn't want her to continue, most children cry and scream during punishment.
10 years ago, the teachers would have paddled you.
2007-02-27 20:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by kittenbrower 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
it sounds like your mom was probably spanking you while angry... not a smart move.
the point is not whether or not it was abuse.
the point is... learn from your mistakes. learn from other peoples mistakes. forgive your parents, because they are just as human as everyone else and dont always make perfect decisions. dont use your childhood as an excuse to be a pathetic human being. yesterday is over. either learn from it, or let it go. there is nothing you can do to change what has happened, but you DO have control over how you see it and learn from it. You can either let a stupid incident drag you down and ruin your life, or you can let it bring out your inner strength, and use it to get through more hard times and make you a better person.
2007-02-27 20:25:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Well, if you have permanent/or black and blue red marks... then yes. But otherwise, not trying to be rude, but you must've deserved it. I was never spanked. Did she swear at you? Jeez. I'd hate to be you. You probably deserved it. Not trying to be mean. O.o
2007-02-28 12:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by gabrielle(: 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she did the right thing. You should have been a better son to her you obviously was a nightmare for her. You should be apologizing to her for making her life a misery. Its tough being a parent, and i bet you did not learn from a thing start taking some responsibility.
2007-02-27 21:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by wonder 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If your rear was black and blue, or had any permanent marks then yes it was abuse. Permanent marks don't mean temporary redness. Your mom can choose to use what ever discipline she feels necessary until you turn 18 (if you live in the US) Child abuse would be what I explained above. My girls would get spankings too if they got in trouble at school, however i don't think that would be the punishment at 14, that's our choice. Your mom made hers, I'd start following the rules if you don't want another one.
2007-02-27 20:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 4⤊ 4⤋
No. I guess you won't do what you did in school to catch that beating again, now will you?
2007-02-27 21:06:26 · answer #9 · answered by Kenneth C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is child abuse
I m sorry for you
But try not to think about it very much
2007-02-27 20:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by xeibeg 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋