my love left me, my sister cheated me and she thinks i am her enemy and left our home 1year back ... there is no one whom i can share... even to whom i trust most and need most that is my love,,, but he also left me and i am feeling so hated that nobody loves me... nobody is there in this big huge world from whom I can have a sense of security and who can ease my pain... i am feeling isolated
i feel like nobody needs me, i am useless even though i devote my whole to save my relationship with him...
i hate my life , i hate my self ... i cant concentrate on my studies.. even i try to cry so that i can feel little better but tear doesnt come out. i am feeling heavy heart...
2007-02-27 20:07:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i am fighting all this more than 1year...
i am taking care my parents caz when my sister left us they were very hurt... and emotionaly weak. but i cared for them alot. i always try to smile in front of them and never show my feeling to them ...
but now i am feeling that i am loosing
i can hide my grief anymore
2007-02-27 20:21:26 · update #1
Your love leaving you is not a reason to hate yourself :( I know it is hard to get hold of the fact theyve left but you shouldnt hate yourself for it. As for your sister, thats her problem, not yours. It doesn't sound like you've done anything wrong. Just try and be pleased that you are in the right, let her be how she is and leave her to it. Maybe if she thinks you're her enemy, send her a nice letter explaining that you are not and you loe her very much?, and maybe tell her how you feel, no matter how much you think she doesn't care - tell her how you feel and say that you feel like she is the only person you can talk to. This should make her feel like more to you than she originally thought.
I know it's hard to concentrate on your studies when things like this are going on - whilst I am writing this I am skiving a college lesson because I have things going on which make me feel really s**t and I know I can't concentrate. This is a bad example. Please, don't let the upset win and ruin your studies/life. You need to try and be strong becaue, hopefully, the grass IS greener on the other side.
Try and find something to do when you're feeling down, like watching a funny / entertaining tv programme, or if you've got any particularly close friends, then invite them out. Or you could just eat some cake :)
Sorry if this doesn't help. I know I am a complete stranger to you but I am willing to listen so if you want to talk more, IM me.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 20:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by Domina 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have gone through times like that right now i am 19 years old with a baby im going through things with my mother at home im facing 2 more years of school because i messed up in high school .. but even when i go through all of this i keep the faith that things will get better .. sometimes prayer or talking online just to some complete stranger sometimes helps ease the pain .. they even can tell you something u are doing wrong .. or they can help u with the situation all together .. my guess is your young or you wouldnt be thinking these things if u were older .. u have your whole life in front of you so many things to discover and experience just because u have a few minor set backs does not mean it is the end .. what doesnt lead to your demise only makes you stronger ...And my favorite thing to say .. is if that special person is meant for u they will come back thats if they are meant .. to hold onto something that isnt going to work anyway .. is only going to make things worse for u and that person .. if he wants to leave you thats his problem .. But dont sit and pine over him U go on and live your life
2007-02-27 20:19:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you just steal this out of my brain and write it here? You sound just like me. I am learning that no one can give me a sense of security or ease my pain but myself. It really is true that you must love yourself first and then love will just come right to you.When you feel this way remember YOU are not alone. I hate that feeling of isolation and being trapped. The anger the hurt the utter frustration-the wanting to die but really wanting to JUST LIVE.Find the good in your life every day. Even if it is something very little, like how beautiful the trees look with snow on them or wherever you find beauty. I don't know if u are spiritual at all but everytime those words pop into your head(negative self-talk)i hate my life, myself etc. start praying or doing something totally relaxing.I was dying to talk to someone like you a few weeks back. We have a lot in common. See you made me feel better knowing Im not the only one and I hope I make you feel better by saying I LUUV U pammi PPS Ive wasted 16 years on my guy- how many will you waste? Fall in love with yourself and you won't have to spend 16 years devoting your life like I have I'll pry 4 u go to thesecret.tv Its an awesome book and story on how the universe gives you what you put into it neg=neg pos=pos good luck
2007-02-27 20:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with someone that won't judge you and you can be yourself in front of.
Don't listen to smart alec comments that may appear here (I usually answer questions very sarcastically, but not in your case).
Realise that things can sometimes feel very bad and that bad things tend to happen all at once.
A time will come when this is in the past.
*Don't* feel that you have to do this by yourself. Your friends and some of your family surprise you by how much help and support they can offer.
One other thing coming from an older person - the first love is the most painful. You *will* look back on this and be glad of the experience one day.
Life is beautiful and sometimes we need to feel lows to really know what a high is like.
2007-02-27 20:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by Green Man 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about what happend. I have had similar experieces. I feel the same way about nobody loving me. My ex boyfriend has nearly raped me and then he left me. That's probably what's all screwed up with my head, I have scars all over my body from where I have hurt my self because I hated my self but, I realize that that was the wrong thing to do. I talked to some one I trusted and I quit hurting myself. I see my ex at school just about every day and and and strained myself from punching him. Even though he did all the bad stuff to me, nobody beleives me because every body thinks he is a goody-two-shoes, that f***** b******. I know that's not a Christian attitude but can anyone blame me? I wish you the best of luck. You are not a useless person, God has made all of us special and we all have some purpose in life. We sometime don't know what that purpose is until later, I have yet to find mine but I have been told that I have a purpose.
2007-02-28 01:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone does need you. You need yourself.
Know that these feelings will pass and you will realize that the only permanent sense of security that is real comes from within yourself.
Feel comfortable with yourself and enjoy your own company, someday you'll enjoy your 'alone time'.
If you are feeling in despair, write about it. Talk about it with someone you trust, then go have some fun for heavens sake!
Not too much fun though!
You have studying to do, and you owe it to yourself to make the most of your studies. Don't let anyone take that from you.
Love yourself. Do what is best for you and your education.
2007-02-27 20:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
- Try to find happiness within, try to find out how much you're worth by helping someone, being helpful to others can make you feel good.
- Don't devote your whole life to a relationship. A life must be made of many things.
- Talk to people. Talk to anyone you know and you will find out that everyone has problems, big or not. As we say, everyone has to roll up their sleeves and build their lives. It doesn't come by itself. You can do it. You're a woman! :-))
- Start your life all over again, and make plans. You can do anything you want!! Your future is like a white sheet, only you can write the story!
Good luck.
2007-02-27 20:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by Silvia N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hug and kisses to u dear... u are not alone, God is near u to help u, and u have parents around u...
i know how u feel when your lost the love, u feel that u are nothing, i felt that way, but i get over him, when i believe in myself more, the one he make u cry he don't deserve your tears, he is happy now, and u blame yourself, he don't deserve u, and u will find better dear... allot of guys waiting u outside dear... believe in your self...
about your sister, go to her and say sorry to her, u feel in pressure because u are alone, tell her that your parents need her, they are sad without her...
tell her i am so sorry i feel lost in this world, let her listen to u, don't be angry don't blame her.. just relax and i am sure even she is far she feel the same way like u, because she is far from her family....
dear one year it's not short time, and it's time to tell her come back to his normal life, tell her that i can't live without u, and forgive me what i did, i am sure will both cry and come back like before...
u hate yourself because u feel it's all your fault but u must to love yourself to love the other and respect them... u are not less than them u are equal...dear good luck and tell me what will happen.
2007-02-27 20:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple....
Take it one step and day at a time. Call any of your freinds or acquintances. Focus on your hobbies. Go to school. Focus on work. Go out more. Do different things. Take a vacation to visit family. Keep your mind distracted. Dont do anything stupid....
2007-02-27 20:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by Johnny Lincoln Park 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Feel sad for you. sometimes this happens inlife. take it as it comes.life is that way.try to get busy in work or any activity for that matter. talk to your friends.this will help you. life is butifull.go for a long walk after dinner.try some soft music also.best of luck.
2007-02-27 20:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by guuudboooy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋