you know why guys can be such a holes, because they know that even if they are they will still get girls. why are girls so needy sometimes
2007-02-27 20:00:03 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The sad part is that girls are often what make other girls do this. By looking up to, envying, or making popular the girls who have boyfriends or who have a lot of boys liking them, we create the idea that girls are worth less unless they can get a boy interested in them. Even worse, it doesn't stop when girls become women. Then it's who gets engaged first, who gets married first, etc. It's all pretty pathetic but we do it to ourselves. Then we wonder why guys sometimes treat us like crap. Because we let them, that's why.
All I can say is do NOT be one of those girls. You obviously know better or you wouldn't be asking this question. Guys may go out with girls they can treat like crap, but they don't ever take them seriously. I mean, if you can't show any respect for yourself, why should they show any for you?
There are nice guys out there though. A few will actually learn something along the way so you'll have more to choose from when you are older.
Remember, we teach people how to treat us.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 20:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by Eris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some girls are suckers for love. Sometimes they can't see through the deception. While others see that this guy is a jerk, that girl sees differently. Girls aren't needy. They're just lonely i guess.
2007-02-28 04:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by iAnswer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is pretty normal.
It is not really self esteem, though I am sure that many others will disagree. It is also not true that girls are attracted to abuse, or violence – most girls are really repelled by that sort of behavior.
A lot of it has to do with confidence. The “alpha male” type is invariably confident – though not usually in a terribly cocky way – and confidence is the sexiest thing a man can have. If a man is confident in himself and his abilities – chances are I can be too, but if even he is unsure of himself – then I should be much more wary of him as well.
Not only is confidence sexy, but lacking confidence guarantees failure. A confident guy will ask almost any girl out – and she may go out with him as a result (she may not but that is life). The guy who lacks confidence, who never asks the girl out – will never date her. I have lusted after a LOT of guys who I know liked me, but who never got up the courage to ask me out. If you saw the last Harry Potter film, or read the books, think about why Hermione(?) didn’t go to the dance with Harry – not because she did not want to go with Harry, she obviously wanted to go with Harry, but Harry was too afraid to ask her – and so she settled for going with the lout who DID have the balls to ask her.
Most girls, are terribly insecure and more than any thing else, want attention, they want to be wanted by men. The thing is, that very frequently the guys who are “alpha male” types – the ones who tend to be more violent, and abusive to others, are also the ones who are least afraid to express their desires for a girl. The “nice guys” the ones who “play by the rules” are more likely to believe that they need to “respect” a girl by not expressing and keeping his “desire” for a girl in check.
A part of this also has to do with the myth that girls don’t like sex – the “bad boy” doesn’t care if she doesn’t like sex, he is going to get his anyway – and in the process satisfy the girl. The “nice guy” will “respect” a girl and not satisfy either of them.
There are also a small number of girls who were abused as young girls who find the abuse to be attractive, in a very twisted, and unconscious sort of way – but that is a small number of girls, and I don’t think that is the population you are asking about.
Though it IS important to remember that most girls do find the occasional slap to be at least mildly erotic. Don't believe me? watch a chick-flick some time.
2007-02-28 04:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by ***** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's the same question to you: why do guys still let girls be bitches? as much as girls are needy, guys can get really needy physically and mentally too, so pls take note
2007-02-28 04:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by pee_bag 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Low self esteem.
2007-02-28 04:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Suzanne Rides 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thanks to public media and interest, girls feel insecure with themselves and are forced to believe that they need to settle for whatever they can get because they aren't Paris Hilton or Lindsey Lohan.
I think thats why.
2007-02-28 04:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by Rhythm Nation 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Several reasons - the "I can change him" myth, they are dependent on him for money, low self-esteem, and the guy might be real sweet when they are alone.
2007-02-28 04:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by Paul Hxyz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some girls do but most girls don't.
2007-02-28 04:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by thatsraven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Biddelcastro is correct
2007-02-28 04:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
>> Coz they're Jerks too.. And I may say that they're easy to get.. GRrRrr..
2007-02-28 04:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by ApCyuMz_05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋