I'm 20 years old, junior in college, VERY shy, and have very few friends, none of them being close friends. I've actually been on one date, but the girl went from having the hots for me to getting pregnant by another guy in about 3 weeks. Whatever though, I'm completely over that. However, I have really liked quite a few girls over the years, and I've always been too shy and disappointed myself. I actually got very depressed last semester over this one girl that I liked, but never even had the nuts to ask her if she had a boyfriend. Ever since I went on my first date in december, I've felt pretty good, mostly because I was not concentrating on girls as much. Instinctively, I want a girl to be with and what not, but there's this part of me that doesn't want to be disappointed like I have been so many times. I just don't know how to shut that voice up and get out there. Any suggestions?
2007-02-27 19:12:10 · 3 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One thing I have always sort of done, as I was in those shoes, is looking at how it feels to think back and know you never gave a chance or took a shot, then also look back at times when you did take a chance and were rejected. Which one hurt worse?
Also its hard to really deal with relationships unless you are happy enough with yourself to be single. Just know that you can't force something to happen ever, and if you live thinking you "have" to have someone there, you aren't really living either.
My advice, take your chances when you want, never have regrets, and just know that eventually everything will work out for the best however it happens. Sometimes the best things in life come along when you aren't even looking for them.
2007-02-27 19:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by ppodjames 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are if you find a girl that you care for or enjoy her company maybe that voice would shut up and realize that she makes you happy. Just be careful though don't take things too serious at the beginning because you don't want to get hurt again. Just remember that somewhere out there, there is the perfect girl for you. Also, try and be more out-going and take a few chances, if you don't have a chance to build a firendship with someone first and tell them that you like them then, you'll never be able to find the right person for you.
2007-02-27 19:18:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be shy but you have time on your side. You found out that you could be hurt and something like that takes time to get over. In time you will wonder what you saw in her. TIME is the key to getting over this.
2007-02-27 19:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋