Hi everyone. my dad passed away a couple of weeks ago, on the 11th to be exact. he had a massive heart attack. his death was so sudden and unexpected and now my world feels like it has collapsed. i was just wondering if there was anything i could do to help ease the pain that my heart has suffered. i cry all the time and everytime i try to go to sleep my mind goes back to the morning in the hospital with my dad and the nurse coming out and telling me that my dad is gone and then seeing him lying in the bed not breathing. is this normal? is it just a part of the grieving process? and will it all pass or will i always cry everyday and have nightmares? i appreciate all your answers. thank you
2007-02-27 18:49:36 · 13 answers · asked by nicole 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi Nicole. I feel you. Take heart. Time is the greatest doctor. It heals all hurts and griefs. The grieving process is necessary but it will pass. Take consolation in the loving memories of your dad stored up in your heart forever.
2007-02-27 19:04:23 · answer #1 · answered by TOO HOT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nicole, you have my deepest sympathy, I'm so sorry for your loss! I've lost both of my parents also. What you're feeling is just a natural part of the grief we go thru when we lose a loved one, it's a process and we all handle it in different ways but we all experience it. This too shall pass and there is light at the end of the tunnel but accept that you will have a void in your life that will never be filled by anything or anyone else. Time will ease the pain and then you will find solace in the memories of things yall did or little things he taught you and smile when they cross your mind. The tears will never be far away tho and sometimes even after they've been gone for years the emptiness will wash over you from time to time, just keep your chin up, be strong.
Best wishes and sweet dreams!
2007-02-27 19:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that Nicole. Yes it is normal, you are still not over the shock of losing your dad and yes this is the grieving process. I am really sorry that you lost your dad that way without any goodbyes but do know that he loved you and always will. I am sure he knows you loves him too. Tears will flow most definately and when you are ready you can move on and please don't feel any guilt for being happy again when the time comes. Just remember that your dad will always be in your heart and wants you to be happy again. Also think back to the time you spent with your dad when he was here, think of the happy memories and cheerish them. First death in the family is always the hardest but be strong and live your life happily, I am sure that is what your dad would want you to do. Take your time and grieve, there is no time limit for missing someone who is gone, don't rush yourself, deal with all the emotions, cry as much as you need but also smile when you know that your dad will always be a part of you in your heart. Hugs Nicole!
2007-02-27 19:01:32 · answer #3 · answered by Carrine G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nicole, you are on the right track asking for help. I hope to God no one posts anything silly in here. It's great that you can express yourself here. I"m very sorry to hear about your dad's passing. I think what you are experiencing is a normal part of the grieving process, so you can relax. You are at the beginning stages of grief and you will feel many different things as time goes on. Just try your best to feel whatever comes up. Don't hide it. Talk openly.
This link might help you understand more about what feelings to expect.
I'm so sorry for your loss Nicole.
2007-02-27 19:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by daughter_helping 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar experience and I still cry and pain from the death of my love one. In time the hurt will heal but the stress of thinking can remain a very long time depending on the person.Indeed it is part of the grieving process and you could seek some help if it continues to become unbearable for too long.
2007-02-27 18:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about your Dad. That is exactly how I felt when my Dad passed away. The pain will eventually become lighter and easier, and go away with some time. You have to talk about it all the time, talking about it with others will make you feel better. Also, I took the "Valerian Root" supplement for better sleep. There is no way I would have ever survived without that. It can be bought at any vitamin/supplement section in a store like Walmart.
2007-02-27 19:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by OC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take courage, it will be over. Of course you no gonna cry everyday and have nightmares. Sooner or later, the memories of your dad gonna leave you.
In the main time, know that no one gonna live forever. Death is inescapable. It's the way of everyone. the bible says....."it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment" Hebrews 9:27
Deary, also keep in mind that God loves you so much. He's your heavenly Father. He cares about you......."Though my father and mother forsake me, the LORD will receive me" Psalms 27:10
Both of my parents are gone. So, i understand perfectly well what you're going through. To be honest with you, God has been my strength.
Be strong and know that God cares!
2007-02-27 19:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My condolences. You know unfortunately we had the same experience with how our beloved fathers passed away. My dad died so suddenly as well. When I learned that my dad died one morning when i wake up it feels like the whole world is about to fall on me. It feels like dying with him on that very moment.I was closed to my dad,daddys girl as they say.It's very hard to accept and it will need time for the pain and longing to go away.We can never be ready for such passing of a love one.But if we keep our faith together with the moral support of a family, friends and relatives it will never that hard to overcome.We have to accept the fact that our dads are in better hands now, no more sufferings from any illnesses,more at peace with God and so should we have the same peace within our minds and in our hearts.Knowing that our Dads are in heaven, happy with the lord, watching over us.Learn to accept each and everyday and have in your heart the good memories that you and your dad have shared together.Accept and move on and continue the love you have for your dad for he keeps on loving you from a far...That's for sure.
2007-02-27 19:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by earthangelmhae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grieving is a hard thing but it is healthy, Cry your little eyes out and just let all your emotions run wild. I am very sorry to hear about your fathers passing. It is going to be extremely hard for a while. But I am sure you will find your own little way to make it all settle down. It will get easier bit by bit.
2007-02-27 18:58:20 · answer #9 · answered by Fabeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I am sorry for your loss. You will start getting better in time. It has only been a couple weeks to be so hard on yourself. What you are going through is normal. In the future you will have days that you cry and that is normal too. Good luck
2007-02-27 22:08:34 · answer #10 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋