For those believe in underwear down spanking when it is needed. Did you ask ur kids's feeling of it after the got the underwear down spanking? or when you are discussing with your kids?
1.Did they feel shy of it?
2.Did they ask u not to pull down their underwear?
3.Did you spank in this way as a child so that you believe in it?
4.If you are not spanked in this way as a child, why do u think underwear down is needed?
5.Did they use their hands to cover their private place when their pants down?
6.Do you think boys and girls should also be spanked in that way?
7.Did they fear that?
8.Did you say that you will spank them like that as a warning before you actually take action?
9.Did they turn out good to avoid this?
10.Did you turn out good to avoid this as a child?
Thx for your sharing~~~
2007-02-27 18:45:29 · 9 answers · asked by Tai Man C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Look man, I am not real sure what your question is but I am pretty sure you asked what the kids say after the spanking, like how it makes them feel. Uhhh, why would you do that? It is bad enough to bully and humiliate them then you think they want to talk to you about how that makes them feel? Is that what you are asking? Unfortunately I will have to formulate my own asumption as to what your question means and respond to my perception of it. If I have misinterpreted it I appologize for what i am about to say.. here goes.....
You need help. Your kids will need help. I am glad that you posted your question here because you will get a general consensus about how most of us feel I hope that after you read these posts you question and reevaluate what you are doing.
As an advocate for your children I will on their behalf answer the mortifying questions they will never talk to you about. The quickest way to shut someone up is to shame them.
1. Did they feel "shy" of it? They felt scared, ashamed outraged, totally helpless and then some....
Would you feel "shy' of if a big person who you needed and trusted did thast to you?
2. Did they ask you not to pull down thier underwear? It does not matter what the kid says. Even if the kid is terrified or numb and can not speak the big person is supposed to know that pulling down the kids underwear is wrong.
Ughhh, if a giant was yanking down your undees and beating your *** I doubt that you would be saying "Excuse me, fine sir would you be so kind as to remove your filangies from my draweres oh and by the way pass the grey poupon while your at it" That is really weird to expect taht kind of a coherant response from someone who is being victimized by their cargiver. They probably do not want to protest too much...why??? OH yea that's right you might beat their *** more!
Ok.. and so on and so forth to your questions. Look it seems like you want to know if it is ok. No. It is not ok. Do not do it anymore and get some help to patch the damage. You really need help because you have this idea that this is somehow permissable. If you want your kids to have low self worth ,sexual shame, tendancy to drug and alchohol addiction and **** relationships you just keep on spankin'! But listen to this ..... You are gonna be an old man one day and if you keep going like this you will die alone, perhaps in a **** retirement home because your kids hate you and would rather beat your *** than wipe it.
Finally... does it work. Yes spanking work for parents for the moment but if your kids have a lick of sense they will figure it out one day. I did. I was spanked as a child. I do not spank my children as a result of my mistreatment. You know what else I don't , i don't have a lick of respect for my parents...as a result of them mistreating me. Guess what.... they are both dead and I could not be more relieved to have them out of my life.
I am not sure I answered your question but I hope this helps you in some way for your childrens sake......I will pray for them and I am not much of a praying type of gal. so that's saying something!
GET HELP NOW!!!!
JD
2007-03-07 04:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by JD 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The blogbaba has six children in a 23 year marriage, no step children, all the result of my wife and I. There has never been an occasion for "underwear down spanking" and in truth very few instances for any "spanking" at all during the parenting of the six (two of which are now adult). Parenting, like any other skill is a learned behavior, and you get better at it with practice.
2007-03-07 07:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by blogbaba 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay if you MUST spank a child, just keep the frickin underwear on!!!!!! if you don't then TRUST ME..that kid is going to grow up with so much emotional problems, you're not going to know what to do with it! It's just plain humility...humiliating your child and lowering them...that's not teaching them a lesson, that's just exploiting your power as a guardian/parent.
2007-02-27 18:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I would never harm a child in any way. There are other ways of dealing with the issue than violence. It's pritty sick to think people like you do do this! Wait till they grow up and smack you right back which I hope they do.
2007-02-27 18:56:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would have you arrested for child molestation if you touched the kids butt for something that could easily be considered a sexual act.
2007-02-27 18:48:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it is a hideous practice and constitutes child abuse. I think spanking in itself is wrong but that is even worse.
2007-02-27 18:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
This is child abuse.
Your questions are repulsive.
2007-02-28 03:29:08 · answer #7 · answered by Char 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
GO GET THERAPY!!!!! you've asked questions like this before, come on with it.
2007-03-07 05:52:16 · answer #8 · answered by brandyswilkes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is horrible behavior, you must be totally ignorant
2007-02-27 18:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋