Im having doubts about staying with my boyfriend what is wrong with me..things are as good as they can get..?

Answer 1

Hi, I am sure that there is nothing wrong with you. Do you still have that spark in the relationship? Maybe this is due to the relatinship being a longer one and boredom has set in a little bit. I would suggest that you take some time for yourself, spend some time with your friends and give yourself some space to figure out what you really want before you make a rash decision. If you still feel you should leave then I would think you are just not in love with him. That doesn't make you a bad person - this is normal. I hope you can figure out what is best for you as although we can suggest things, iut is a decisiononly you can make. Good luck and I hope everything works out well for you. :-)

Answer 2

Thats hard.... sometimes when you are with someone for a little bit of time you get comfortable and things are not as excting as they once were. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and yes im sure there are times where he is sick of me and vice versa but those are the times where we try something different. For example when summer was hear we would go for walks at night like 1 hour or so and talk about issues that were on our mind things in general. This brought us really close and kept things exciting. We would also talk about what we wanted to change about ourselves (quit smoking), (Start excerising) etc.We then would help eachother through it. Hopefully this works for you but deep down inside you know if you want to be with the person or not. Dont make any mistakes and really think about it! Let it be your decision and know that if someone tells you to do something it usually isnt the best thing to do! This shows they see something that they want but cant have so they dont want you having it eathier! All the best
P.s Give yourself time and really think about it!

Answer 3

If your having doubts, definitely take some time to think about this BEFORE you move in with him. Doubts are gut feelings everyone has a lot like a built-in, radar defense mechanism that communicates to your conscious that dealings or situations around you aren't quite right. Our sub-conscience picks up on things our conscience doesn't catch so to speak. This is my belief anyway since I'm almost 40 years old and if I'd followed my gut feelings more, I would of spared myself massive amounts of heartache. Last but NOT lease, PRAY TO ALMIGHTY GOD IN HEAVEN to direct your ways, he will.

Answer 4

You know I really have no idea whats happening in your life,but I'm sure of one thing, never ignore that little inner voice it has saved me so many times through out my life I may have not always understood at first but the feeling was right. So be care full what your heading into really something must not be right..Good luck

Answer 5

There's something in your subconscience that is bugging you.
I was dating a really great guy when I was 20, he was cute, had
a good job, was a lot of fun and could knock your socks off
with his kiss. But when he asked me to marry him, while part
of me wanted to say yes, I kept having these weird nightmares
about waking up in bed with him and screaming "Oh my God, what
have I done?" It was freaking me out. So I finally took some time
to try to figure out what was really bugging me and realized that
it was the difference in our goals in life. He wanted to have a
conventual like, get married, buy a house, have a bunch of kids,
the whole house and picket fence thing. I really wanted to get
out of the small town we were living in, travel to different places,
see the world, try different jobs and otherwise be a little
adventurous. I figured that if we married, one of us would be
really unhappy, and I didn't want it to be me. It was really hard
to break it off, but I am so glad I did. I did get to see the world,
met the man of my dreams in a foreign country, we did get
married, - almost 20 years now. There was no second
thoughts with him, everything felt that it was meant to be.
I still love him madly, and we are still having adventures
and travelling around the world seeing the place we have
alrways dreamed of. We aren't rich, but we find a way to
get where we need to go.

So you need to sit down and figure out what is causing your
doubts, then see what you need to do to settle them. Maybe
its something that can be worked out but maybe you need to
move on. But you need to figure it out now.

Answer 6

You're probably not challenged. Most people get excited in the beginning of a relationship bcs they feel that they're with someone that they can "prize".

Maybe this guy has shown his "undying" love for you. There's no more challenge...so you want to move on.

Answer 7

maybe you don't love him enough to want to stay with him. analyze your feelings. maybe your relationship has reached the plateau stage-meaning, nothing interesting is happening anymore, or you got too comfortable with each other there is no longer any romance between you. try to make your relationship interesting. put some excitement into it.

Answer 8

marry him