I have yet to ever find a steady girlfriend. I'm 31 now and my hope is waning now. How can I ever get a woman around my age who loves good culture, cartoons and looks good at the same time (preferably an artist herself to boot) to love me? Do I search for love or do I let love find me?
2007-02-27 18:07:56 · 20 answers · asked by mbosn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't look for love ... instead, just look for friendship, lots of good friends. Believe me, friendship is the SINGLE most important ingredient in any relationship and love is able to blossom in a good friendship. But friendship doesn't always exist in love - so that is why it is so important to have a good friendship with the person that you want to be your life partner. Friendship will endure everything - if you like each other, then you can weather all the ups and downs in life that wear other relationships down.
So my advice to you is to join lots of clubs where single women looking for friendship might be - walking clubs, camera clubs, art clubs, anything like that. Make lots and lots of friends with women - you might not end up in a relationship with them but the more women you know, the more of their friends that you will get introduced to. Be perceived as a nice, friendly, interesting, kind chap and your reputation will spread.
So that is what I would advise, going out and looking for friendship and casting your net that way. And hopefully, out of a whole load of girl friends, you may find a special girlfriend.
Good luck. You sound like a nice chap, I wish you well.
2007-02-27 20:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are women out there with the same interests as you! I read your interests, and they aren't out of the ordinary according to me! Being 31 is still young, (I'm 42), and I know of people my age that still like cartoons and are artistic! And I don't mean "nerdy" artistic. There are women out there for you. Hey, even though you are already an artist, try signing up for an art class and meet women that way. Whether she's the same culture or not, it could be interesting to learn your culture, you learn hers, and keep the flame going! Good luck, you will find someone as soon as it's meant to be.
2007-02-28 02:17:12 · answer #2 · answered by Shhhhh.......... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see, there are lots of people in the same boat. You're a good person. Maybe try Match.com or something. Those things get people together for better or worse I guess. I never tried it cause I'm married but my secretary did and she has more dates than she can handle.
UPDATE: Maybe exchange emails with Jessica above. Seriously.
2007-02-28 02:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off...Be A MAN DUDE! There is 6.5 billion people on this planet in which 57% are female and you can't find one women? Take a trip to mexico or phillipines on a singles cruise. Those women will not only love you but treat you 1000x better than any women from here and will love the ground you walk on no matter how you look. Not to mention, they have never had sex and their 18 years old.<---clean! Its a win win situation. You get a hottie and they get a man from the US. Women won't rain down out of the sky! Get on the web and google singles vacations and WALA! You'll be a happy satisfied man if you catch my drift. Good luck!!!
~moraltiyisrelative1~
2007-02-28 02:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by moralityisrelative1 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
don't give up hope! In this world of ever - decreasing age limits, we tend to think 30 something is way too old, bbut most of my happily married friends only met in their 30s'. They are happy because they waited for each other, rather than ran off with the first teenage crush that came along. I am sure you will find the right one for you -probably sooner than you think!
2007-02-28 02:38:12 · answer #5 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I often ask this question of myself. As soon as I think I have found it, something happens or I say or do the wrong thing and it's all up in the air again. I think it's best to let love come and find you. You'll know it when it shows up.
2007-02-28 02:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by The Alchemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As funny as this may sound and cliche too but the trick is not to look for love but to let it look for you, Trust me when i say this...I was looking all my life and just one day i woke up and said that ive had enough...three days later i met the love of my life and we got engadged five months later, we are married today!..good luck and im sure some lucky lady will see you for who you are and fall head over heals inlove with you...;-)
2007-02-28 03:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mercia L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love finds you my friend. But it finds you when you are ready and prepared for it. So don't worry just keep living your life and don't waste your energy thinking about this matter.
Somebody here mentioned you Jessica (the first answerer), I agree with him. Maybe she's your true love :)
2007-02-28 02:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to join the DHARMA free public forums to discuss all these things.
Get to a library of some kind and start reading up on all these things. Better to go into a relationship wellread.
You are still young enough to find a nice girl and give her a kid. Then you can take care of them for the rest of your lives.
2007-02-28 02:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes. there are billions of women out there. you must be with at least half of them to know who your true love is.
you search for love, because the other person is asking the same question. you both will search and find eachother.
2007-02-28 02:12:14 · answer #10 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋