i know it doesn't really matter and it's the past....ok my boyfriend has been w/ 16 people (not bad for some guys...but thats quite a bit to me) and i've only been w/ 3 guys......we havent did it yet....but prolly will soon...but i just always think about how many girls he's been w/ before. Is that bad? I dont think it makes him a bad person or n e thing...i think he's great and i know we will be togather for a long time....but still...that is in my head.....what do u guys think about this?
2007-02-27 18:07:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way he is 25 and im 21
2007-02-27 18:22:51 · update #1
i think for him as guy it is not big # because guys dont get attaqched easily to such things as emotion when they have night stands or friends w/benefits, it is more easy for guys to have night stands(they dont analize too much or overthink, or have guilt). U said he is great guy, and u may have long relationship so why would u let it stand on the way of how many partners he had. I dont know ur age or his but as older u grow than more simplier u accept ceartan qualities in guy. If u told me he slept with 50 women and his age 22, now that kind of alot, so he was so easy to ahve sex w/other most likely he would not settle to long in relationship and would sleep w/other while w/u. In youg age guy wanna experience things.....so maybe that why he had that many partners 16.
2007-02-27 18:16:35 · answer #1 · answered by M A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I have no idea how old either of you are, so I don't know how long you have each been at a sexually-appropriate age. But I do think that if he told you how many women he has been with because he wants to be honest with you, and if you feel truly right with him...comfortable, safe, loved...then those 16 women don't matter because he is really really only with you now. And, as others have said, assuming he has grown some sensitivity and skill by being with other women, then good for you!
But, if you feel that he has told you about 16 other women because he is bragging, you need to be careful...you want to make sure you are being treasured and not just another notch on his headboard. Listen to your heart.
If this helps...when I was in college, a new boyfriend and I took a quiz in Cosmo magazine. One of the questions was, "How many people of the opposite sex have you been with at the same time?" I was pretty shocked when he answered he had been with two women at once. I took a chance with him anyway because my heart said he really cared for me...I was right, and he was a truly loving boyfriend...and a wonderful lover.
2007-02-28 02:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by arianna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a really good thing.
Think about it!
This guy is obviously very experienced, right? Therefore, he will probably be a better lover.
And most importantly of all, he probably know what he wants in a woman so he will probably never cheat on you. An experienced man usually know what he wants and makes much better decisions before making a commitment to a woman.
2007-02-28 02:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well are you sure he telling the truth and if he is you should have a good night pulse i think its never a good idea to ask how many partners someone has been with just mess up the way you look at some one if you hear the wrong answer
2007-02-28 02:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by golf_tango83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone knows that when a guy tells you how many sexual partners he has had you should divide the number by three and when a woman tells you you should multiply it by three, so really he has only had five maybe six and you have had nine. Ooooh maybe he should ber the one worrying ;o)
2007-02-28 02:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mad Scientist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on what you're looking for.
he's obviously not interested in being your boyfriend for the long haul. if you just want a "hook up" hes probably your guy.
personally, i say thats nasty. for one, its probably not true. thats a lot of women, especially for a 16 year old. he's gotta be infested with all kinds of STDs.
i say stay AWAY!
2007-02-28 02:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by nanabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dpends on if he is sirius about you.
it would also probably be good to talk to him about it.
anf like those other dudes said: maybe you can benefeit from his experience.
although, if he's been with 16 people, that might also mean he has bad/no experience
2007-02-28 02:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by wanna no 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think he is a bad person. i dont think it sbad that you are concerned about how many people he has been with.
first in foremost you need to protect yourself, and if he cares about you he will be honest with you about safe sex. sex is a lot more valuable than treating it like its 'a hand shake.' id make sure he is clean girl.
just becareful. please.
2007-02-28 02:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by Queenly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be #17 on his way to #18 next week. Have fun!
2007-02-28 02:14:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, as long as protection is used, I wouldn't care. That's all in the past, and unless the past is highly contagious, you don't have anything to worry about. :)
2007-02-28 02:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by Jack S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋