My toddler won't let go off me, what should I do? Please help!?

Question

He won't do anything without me. He doesn't allow anyone else to, hold him, feed him, he would not go anywhere without me, he won't play with the kids if I'm not right there, It's getting so frustrating, and I'm so tired, He wants me to hold him all the time, request my attention every minute, He will cry, and cry, scream and attache himself to my leg until I give in. I just don't know what to do or How to handle him any more.

I really appreciate any advice that has actually work for other parents or from professionals . thank you

Please help!

Answer 1

as a mother of 5 i went through this and all i did was put my foot down. and stopped catering and adding fuel to fire so to speak by giving in i placed my child into a preschool program that was 2 days a week half a day each time and slowley added more days and i left my child in the very capable hands of the child care givers there and after a few weeks i saw the change in my child tyr it. it worked for me do not give in to the child that only lets him/her know that if they continue you will give in and that don't help good luck try a paint and play or something in your area similar to that they are every where these days even a daycare center.

Answer 2

What you are describing is called separation anxiety and it's very normal. The best advise I can give you is to remove yourself from his sight and sound and let him cry for awhile. Find a babysitter or loved one and let them know that he's going to cry for awhile. At first you could go for an hour or so for a week. As he sees that you return for him and you keep coming back he will settle down more. You could then change the hour to half a day for a week or so then go to a whole day. To be honest he'll cry and worry but the caregiver will play with your child and occupy his mind. And him seeing you returning for him all the time will build trust. It's hard I know. But let him cry and walk away. You can call to check up on him 10-15 minutes later. If he doesn't calm down in 2-4 weeks then talk to your doctor. Most children do cry for about 3-5 minutes when their parents leave for work, but then they get busy playing or talking and forget about crying. Have a routine and stick to it. Children can't tell time by numbers only events in a day. The same caregiver would also help your child deal with the separation and especially if the child already knew the person. Or you could try putting him in childcare or with family for half days or all days half a week so he gets use to being separate. Socializing with other children is great for children and people to do. Talk to your doctor if you'd like more advise. You're child is normal and everything will be fine.

Answer 3

You're going to have to force him to do things on his own. I know it sounds horrible, but it's not. I had to do this with my daughter (now 4yrs) because she is so shy and won't let go of me.

I started her in a preschool program where the parents stay there with the child. For the first few weeks, I let her cling to me until she got used to going and the people that were there. Then I started making her go play with the kids and I would stay close by so she'd be comfortable. The next week, I did the same thing but I moved farther away from her gradually as the weeks went by. By the time the class was over for the year, she was running around with all the other kids and having fun!

It takes a while to overcome, but it will happen. Have patience with your little one and he will bloom right before your eyes.

Answer 4

I am a mother of infant so cannot give exact help. All I know is that at some point kids get very attached to mom and they wont let her go away at all. Whatever you do, do it with a smile. Only that will make him understand that being with someone else is not bad. Maybe something has happened because of which he is doing like this. Just remeber that he trusts only you so please don't be harsh on him at all.
Try to get away from his eyes for a few seconds. don't show him your reaction, keep smiling to him. He will react what you react to him. After sometime you will see that he will be able to let you go for few minutes.
Do you live with family members. Keep a close watch to see if he is scared of anyone or someones presence makes him uncomfortable when you are not there. Hope this heps.

Answer 5

my son also went through a very clingy stage....if he could not see me...he would scream his head off until he caught site of me again..just a phase...he out grew it. I know how hard it can be to get anything done in the mean time. I wish you loads of luck.

Answer 6

Stop giving in because by doing so you are giving him control over YOU. If you have a child gate put it in the doorway of his room and put him in his room. Then get some headphones and let him cry and scream till he gets it all out.

Answer 7

DEAR
PLEASE READ THIS OK. (1ST) LET HIM NURSE CHANGE HIM LAY DOWN WITH HIM UNTIL HE GOES TO SLEEP OK. (2) GET YOU A BOOK DRAW YOU A BATH WITH BUBBLES SOAK IN THE TUB JUST BRING IN THE BABY MONITOR SO YOU CAN HERE IF HE WAKES UP OTHER THEN THAT TAKE TIME OUT FOR YOU (15) MINUTES WANT HURT FOR YOUR TIME OUT BY YOUR SELF.(3) WHEN HIS FATHER GETS HOME AFTER RELAXING IN THE EASY CHAIR GET TO SIT DOWN ON THE FLOOR AND PLAY BLOCKS ARE BALL WITH HIM ARE SOMETHING FOR GUY TIME OUT THEN GO RE TAKE YOUR BUBBLE BATH AGAIN IT DOES NOT HURT THE DAD TO PLAY WITH HIS SON MINE DID ARE HOW ABOUT TRACTORS TRUCKS CARS TRAINS ETC. OK TAKE CARE GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

I think when we have problems with kids like that most likely we created the problem without realizing it. Have you husband take him somewhere or have him spend some one on one time with him. He needs to spend time away from you he is to dependent on you.

Answer 9

happened to many parents.

Find out what does he like (playing what, watching what TV program, talking or playing with who)

try to attract his attention to something he likes above.

then step by step slowly, step aside from his side while he is enjoying what he likes.

or try to find someone he likes, for example his dad, grandma/pa, uncle, aunt.
One of them or all must support you to attract his attention by their attendance.

hope it succeed.

Answer 10

something got to have happened. a bad experience or something. ask him. if no response, ask doctor or his dad or teacher, etc.