2007-02-27 17:47:59 · 13 answers · asked by ak25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on how long and how much you have tried for a commitment. It also depends on why the commitment is important to you. The best advice wuld be to talk with him directly about it. Don't give him an ultamatem (sp), but make sure you have direct, open communication with him. He may have a fear that you can help him resolve if you talk about it. There's a book called (I think) "The Commitment Papers," that classifies all commitment problems into four categories. It was written by a relationship counselor.
2007-02-27 17:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by jimmyjohn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are a few things ushould ask urself before deciding what to do.. Can u live like this forever? Do they love u? If they love u why won't they commit? And once u have answered them then u should decide what to do.... like if u dont think u could live without the commitment from them then i think it would be best to leave now... trust me i know how much it will hurt but imagine how much it will hurt down the track.... if they dont love u then there is no use being there.... if they do then why wont they commit to u? It is a hard one to answer because this is ur feelings we are dealing with.. but when it was me i got out and i am glad i did and didnt waste the rest of my life waitin for them to commit to me and only me
2007-02-27 17:59:59 · answer #2 · answered by angelindisguise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you've been waiting. If you've been waiting for over 2 years, and the conversation is going the same (not yet, I don't know, give me time), try a separation. I don't mean a week or a day. I mean like 3 months or so. Take time to find out by yourself what it is that you want out of life & a relationship. Give your significant other time to do the same. If this time apart does not bring about a desire on their part to commit to you, move on.
You wouldn't keep throwing money in a hole in the ground, especially if you knew you wouldn't get it back. Your love and time are far more precious than that. Find a relationship that is balanced. Give and take is important.
2007-02-27 18:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by sillkee1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation but if your relationship is already that serious and its just serious for you not for him to commit.
I would also say move on, there would be someone who could give you the commitment with all the love that you need.
Have a good day!
2007-02-27 22:46:20 · answer #4 · answered by chill25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been there. i loved so deeply a man who sees being committted and free means the same! i was able to stand it for a year or more but i always end up during the day wondering where would this relationship go? It was really hard to fall for that kind of guy unless you're ready for the circumstances like being hurt... I always thought that my love for him before could be enough to keep us together, but i was wrong. i ended up breaking up with him than suffer the pain of wondering each day where i stand in our relationship. anyway, if being committed and free means the same to him, i'd rather be free. because it means less expectations, less pain.
that's my personal experience. i dont know if it will happen to you too. The decision is all yours. But be ready for all the consequences....
2007-02-27 18:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by boobsy star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe you could be moving to fast for them and they haven't reached to your level of love yet.If this is a friends with benefits situation he might feel that he has it made and doesn't want to give that up.But if you two have been together for a while that person might just be stringing you along.I don't force a man to be with me but if he feels that he doesn't want to make a commitement because he might feel tied down or not free to do what he pleases,I would do us both a favor and free him.Do you get what i'm saying to you?Hope so good luck!
2007-02-27 17:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by TRUTH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you know what you can deal with. if you know you want a commitment and they don't move on. if you stay you will only fell like you are wasting time and be mad at yourself in the end.
AND if they loved you too why not make a commitment. think about that.
2007-02-27 17:56:31 · answer #7 · answered by showstopper18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You accept their feelings, take in a deep breath, and move on.
God bless you.
2007-02-27 18:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by scottyusa1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you recognize that this person isn't likely to give you what you want and need... that you can't count on them... and you steel yourself to move on.
2007-02-27 17:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if u want committment... ask for it... if he is not ready u wil be dissatisfied and wil end up fighting
2007-02-27 17:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by niks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋