Dear people of God,
Iam a 29 year old gentleman.My dad,a pastor revealed 2 prophecies for my marraige.1)the gal must be the only child 2)her parents shall visit my home.I met a gal before 7 months and fell in love with her only hoping she must be the one accrding to the prophecy.I met her parents and was abt to take her to my parents.But her parents were divorced years before and inspite of me and her praying for them to re-unite,they havent got back togther.though she is the only daughter,the 2nd prophecy aint getting fulfilled thru this gal.The issue now being ive slept wit her once.Now if i marry her i shall walk against God's will for my life.Ive told her enuf and she is not co-operative for a mutual split.Im getting pissed up with her cos she does nothing but accuses me for have slept with her.She also doesnt fit the bill of My-kinda-gal..now i cant even think of marrying her,how do i get out of this situation? Kindly help.
God Bless
2007-02-27 17:41:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
ps- i know this girl loves me still and trusts me lol
2007-02-27 18:00:52 · update #1
Time to wake up and get you own life. Your dad doesn't choose your wife you do.
If this helps: I prophesy that if you read this your dad's prophesy will not be fufilled in her. She is not the one for you and that you need to go on a personal journey to find yourself before you find your mate.
2007-02-27 17:50:21 · answer #1 · answered by G's Random Thoughts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is really very bad. U slept with her and now u r saying that u don't feel like marrying her bcoz the 2nd prophecy is not getting true. Why u didn't think of this so called prophecy when u were sleeping with that girl? U love her, so believe in yourself and ignore such prophecies. But if u want to keep believing in the prophecies then wait until that prophecy comes true as u can love only once in life.
2007-02-28 04:45:26 · answer #2 · answered by paruldeepak2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it has an easy way out. Sometimes when we take ourselves out of God's plan for our lives we invite a host of trouble to come upon us. It is the natural consequence of sin. But I do have some questions and thoughts.
First:Why is your dad making prophecies? And also why aren't they coming true? If they are from God, they will come true.
2nd: Why would marrying her go against God's will for your life? If you have sex with someone, you are married in God's eyes. Sex is the act of marriage. Not some ceremony at the church, but the actual act of intercourse. So to marry someone else and have sex with them would actually be adultery against your first "wife".
3rd:She doesn't fit the bill. I can understand that. I had to dump my first real love because I didn't think she was the one for marriage either. You however have fudged things up a bit by having sex with her. It isn't so easy to break things off after being so intimate with someone. This is why God tells us not to do it, it makes things a lot less complicated.
I think you need to talk to her about it. Tell her how you are feeling about the mistake you made. Remind her that she slept with you too, it isn't ALL your fault. Don't burn any bridges with her, she may end up being the one you want to spend your life with. But I can't give you an easy answer my friend. Mistakes can be costly. One thing you can do is pray for forgiveness. Ask God to get your life back on track. It may not be a miracle right away, but as he promises, everything will work out for the best. Don't make the same mistake twice, and really truly seek to find out what he wants for your life. God can work things out in spite of ourselves.
2007-02-28 02:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by The GMC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you exist in real world .. are u even educated ....or did u just study at home from your dad .....
If u slept with her promising a marraige then its not totally her fault .. I would not say her morals were low ..coz so where your morals when had sex with her ..or was it making love for you ....
Man come to terms. now dont expect that you dad will also tell you how to have sex in what postion to have kids .!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! yaaaaaa....
You are 29 years old already past your prime youth , you still cant take decesion for your life even now ..your dad must be around 55 or 6o ..guess he has turned senile ....
You know what man . the girl can even put a case of rape on pretext of false promise of marriage ... go get her man ... else she has all the DIVINE right to screw up your boney *** goodby ... who do u think ur ........ Be normal and be a human bieng .. respect yourself and respect life ......... Prophecies are prophecies ....excuses if they are falsifed and glorief if they become true ..which is anywasy a 50 50 in life .... the only thing sure is death and ...... she screwing up your ***... by filing a law suit against you and wish she sholud ...... Stop giving dialogues like she is not you r types ... what happned when you had sex with her and orgasiming away to glory ....!!!
2007-02-28 02:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by Smarts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your g/f asked the same question and I have replied to it. Now you are asking it. On what grounds do you call yourself a 'gentleman'?
Leaving all prophecies and scriptures aside, you have sex with her. On what principles did you have sex with her? Don't you know that sex before marriage is against the Bible, you fool? Having used her, you now say she doesn't the bill of my-kinda-girl. What kind of a hypocrite you are!! You and your father are fakes. You are a coward and don't want to face the reality. You want to hide behind prophecies? Prophecies should be based on Scriptures. What scriptures did your father give at the time of prophecy? Don't play fool with girls with all this nonsense. Ask forgiveness of God and your g/f and get married to her. At least, you will go to heaven, even if you are not happy because of your g/f. This is the truth. Take it or leave it.
2007-02-28 02:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by sunilbernard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Jay!
First of all you if you knew that the 2nd condition according to the prophecy is not matching you should not have slept with her.
Secondly, if it is a prophecy which is well discerned and tested according to the word of God then this would not be the girl, because if God had a plan for this girl to be in your life then God would not allow you to sleep with her and do a forbidden sin at any cost. As prophecy is a holy word of God that was spoken perfectly to be acheived in fullness without any sin. So I believe this is not your girl.
Thirdly, You slept with her purely as a result of lack of control on yourself.
Fourthly, In this case you should get rid of the girl with due respect, carefully and in love... not the sexual love...
Fifthly, I think satan is trying to drag you off of God's plans and ditch you into the miry clay of sin from where you would not be able to come out and he(satan) does not want that prophecy to be accomplished in your life, as he is always against God and he has plans against you... so don't mess up your life and don't be hard on the girl because the girl can be worse if she takes actions against you.
Sixthly, Now come to your knees with tears in ur eyes and ask God the ever forgiving Father to forgive you and believe that He has forgiven you ( and don't sin again). Don't entertain the guilt in your heart after you have asked God to forgive because the devil can make effective use of that guilt feeling in your life.
Seventhly, Never go back to sin again, turn from all your wicked ways as per the Bible. Because if we go back and do the same sin, its like the dog licking its own vomit (according to Bible)
Love you in Christ that is why I was honest and straight forward and tried to advise you as your best friend
May God bless you and help you in your decisions.
Paul
2007-02-28 16:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by paul v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must not get out of this situation. I will tell You what is marriage, better know. Marriage takes place for what you both did in the bed by mutual desire. The ceremony of marriage is nothing but just a formality of proclaiming by society, which is done by two of you. Now you are husband and wife but your duty is to obey the rule of society so let the ceremony be done now. The girl's demand is lawful otherwise you may will commit this with many girls again & again. People must not trust you?
2007-03-03 19:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by vishw_paramaatmaa_parivaar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear friend you can abuse me or you can curse me. but please you cant say yourself as a gentle man as you are not ready to accept her . you had a bed relation with her and now you think it is against god. so before you enjoyed her you might have asked god's permission . if it is so you can call yourself god fearing and gentle man. else at any cause you have to lead a life with her. it is love and relation which makes life and in that life only you will find peace and god. And your father is a paster not a god. may be it was your destiny to go gainst what your father revealed. be a man that is more important. If the girl is still able to forgive you and live with you that is more enough. and you will be saved in front of god. else you will be punished severly. that is for sure. better marry and live with her. May be what i am saying is good for you and may be god is revealing this for you through me................
2007-02-28 01:57:38 · answer #8 · answered by Raaj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your father is making prophecies for your life? That's a conflict of interest. Your father is telling you his wishes, dressing them up in prophetic garb. True prophets do not have a personal stake in the outcome of their prophecies.
You need to grow up and get your head clear of your father's domination. Otherwise, you will not be able to form a mature relationship with anyone.
2007-02-28 02:12:34 · answer #9 · answered by skepsis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second prophesy says her parents will visit you, it doesn't say that they will be a couple when they do so. Invite them both over to discuss wedding plans. Perhaps I am confused about this.
2007-02-28 02:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by St. Toad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋