to make a long story short, im 20, im a fulltime college student, part time worker, hes 22 and he works nights (10pm-5am) we never got to see each other && we never got to talk on the phone, i was constantly miserable, but i really like him - but we didnt have anytime to see each other or talk, and he finally broke it off.
when he was telling me our relationship wasnt working (which i agreed) && we should be friends and he told me he loved me and he loved my family, he said i was cool and a great girl & he really liked me and he would still like to come up to my house and he asked me if it would be alright if he could still call me.
what does it sound like to you? idk either to take it it that he doesnt want to be anything else but friends even if in the near future we did have time for each other -or- that he does like me very much and maybe we can get back together once we have some more time..
im not sure, whats ur opinions..
2007-02-27 17:38:20 · 12 answers · asked by Alisha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know we didnt have much of a relationship we barely knew each other when we got together and then we had no time for each other, but i really..really..really like him - but im getting it that all the boys who answered this question said that its code for he just wants to be friends and nothing more so i guess thats what we'll be.
2007-02-27 17:57:36 · update #1
I was going to break up with him saturday but i couldnt when i saw him, so then i was going to do it sunday but when i saw him i couldnt, and then he called me and brought it up and we broke up (i agree'd) it was the best thing..but i had hopes of "a future"
2007-02-27 18:00:12 · update #2
I think he wants to call it quits, is basically a nice guy and does not want to upset you, so he's saying all the nice things. but the bottom line is, you two didnt' make time for each other before, when you were in the relationship, so don't expect it to change. he'll maybe call you to tell you all about the girlfriend you didn't know he had.
you deserve better, and time will show you so...
cryllie
2007-02-27 17:44:31 · answer #1 · answered by cryllie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm no expert, but it sure sounds like the guy wants for ya'll to have time for one another. Although this question would probably be best asnwered by another man his age. From what I know from your story he really does like you and you like him it's just a rough time in both lives for the relationship to continue. A wise woman once told me "If you love something let it go. If it doesn't come back it was never yours to begin with. BUT, my dear, the one who does will be appreciate and appreciate you that much more." I know this may sound far fetched or unreasonable but you could probably do best by asking him what he'd do if you were to have time for one another again. Good Luck and always remember... better to have a friend than a loveless relationship.
2007-02-27 17:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he still Loves you, but knows the relationship isn't working because of all that's involved, school, work, etc. He's basically trying to be nice about the situation, without hurting your feelings. Like I said apparently he still has alot of feelings for you, and doesn't want to totally be lost of that. He wants whatever is available!!!, even if it's just a hit & run, casual sex, or whatever....he cares about you, but don't want to hurt you!!!, and he doesn't want to have total loss of you. So it's your decision if you want him in your life at his convenience?, what happens if you find someone else in the meantime, than his convenience of stopping over, definetly WONT WORK!!
So consider your feelings for him very close and you decide what you want-friends, or convenience for him???
2007-02-27 17:48:55 · answer #3 · answered by BRENDA B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really quite difficult. i dont know why guys (not all) have that kind of attitude that after the break up they want you to be firends. Take it from me, that happened to me too. i just had a break up recently then my ex-bf just emailed me as if nothing happened! as if we are friends! asking how am i! he also did that to me two years ago and i mistaken it that he's coming back... though we really got back to each other again... but in the end we still failed to work things out. and now we part ways again... it would be better to stay apart for a while. because if you always make yourself available to him, sometimes they dont see your importance.
2007-02-27 17:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by boobsy star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, as sometimes guys say one thing and mean another and sometimes they just say what they mean! I would take it that he means that he wants to be friends still, and that if that ends up leading back to romance then I would just go with the flow. It is hard to predict in love what will happen. I wish you much luck and I hope it all works out however you want it to!
2007-02-27 17:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by Leeza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you weren't seeing eachother made you strangers which based on what you said goes more for him than for you. Even if he hasn't found anybody else yet, it's obvious that he doesn't like you in that kind of way anymore. You are still dear to him and he respects you, that's why he still want's to be friends with you, but I wouldn't keep my hopes up.
2007-02-27 17:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by European in IN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that its difficult to figure out what he wants from you. he may just want to stay friends because you enjoys your company and thinks that even though a relationship isn't working out, you and him will remain friends for a long time. you just have to let things flow. you can't predict what will happen later on. you guys may turn out being perfect for each other later on in life, or end up being life long friends. don't stress over it and just let everything fall into place.
2007-02-27 17:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by rhody07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My impression is that he's trying to break it to you gently that he just doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. But his behavior over the next few weeks will be a better determinant of his intentions, so just be patient and observe.
2007-02-27 17:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a hard ? to be honest i would just wait it out real feelings come out after awhile im not gonna lie but from just recent experience once you let em know that u arent just tryin to tell him what he wants to hear so you think your better of with him and just say im not doing this at all and either you wanna work this out or just forget about me all togather i bet he will act dif
2007-02-27 17:42:50 · answer #9 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he really does like you but needs someone he can actually spend some time with. maybe one of you can change things so you can actually spend some time together... that's one of the most important aspects of a relationship... you have to spend time and interact for it to really be one.
2007-02-27 17:42:44 · answer #10 · answered by fullofsugaw 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋