Do you think I've learned some good lessons and/or had necessary experiences?

Question

(I'm a Senior in HS) I feel that in the past year with this girl that I've really liked, (who now doesn't want anything to do with me and we haven't talked for ten months) that I've learned

What it's like to fall in love
What it's like to love who I feel is the perfect girl for me
What it's like to be rejected by the perfect girl
What it's like to lose and be without the perfect girl
What mistakes not to repeat
Humility
How to forgive
How to accept
And most importantly, but the hardest lesson to learn
How to let go.
I think that maybe the reason this girl came in y life was for me to really like her, and that maybe had I not met her I wouldn't be as confident around girls as I am now, I wouldn't have learned so many things about them like for example they do prefer a sweet guy and have told me or stated in my abscence that I'm sweet (I overheard a girl saying "he's so sweet" as I left the room and asked about it later :)). Maybe I was supposed to get hurt so I could be

better prepared in the future when dealing with girls and affairs of the heart.

Answer 1

I think you are looking at the situation in a healthy way. The future will be better; you can use what you've learned to have happier experiences. Good luck!

Answer 2

I think you're learned a lot of good things. I also considered you blessed that you are now single, and ready to encounter the real world.

High school is a dream world where (I'll say it again) lunches are a dollar, teachers chase after you, and security keeps you safe. A dream, compared to the real world.

Relationships forged in High School usually break apart when the real world comes for many reasons. A simple reason could be that you two can not find time to be together. Another could be that you two realized you didn't actually like each other.

Not that dating in High School is hopeless, but it is mostly designed to fail. Without ever being in the real world, how can you even know yourself?

I trust you'll be fine dude, good luck :)

Answer 3

Hey I know wut u mean man. I've first experienced these things in high skool too last year and I havent talked to my ex for the past ten months too ( and dont want to). I've learned most of the thing you've listed esp. about losing and not repeating same mistakes again cuz wen i wuz with this girl I started being with her all the time ditchin my best friends and in the end i knew she wasnt perfect for me and i ended up losing all but one friend. it wuz the the most mistake i ever made in my life puting in all my time and energy into somethin that would not work out and at the same time neglectin those who were really important to me. so its still stuck with me til this day and that's a mistake that i've learn and will never repeat again.

Answer 4

Hey dont u think u learnt these things 4 ur better coz it will b easy 4 u 2 choose ur life partner in future..... 1 more thing not all girls r like tht..... there r many girls who really love their bf's n ready 2 marry.... if u meet any girl just dont think of hvin fun with her but try 2 love her 4 wht she is..... then i think u will feel the most luckiest person....try 2 b good with her ... then u will see tht she will b the 1 who will ask u 2 b her bf..... i hope u will go through.... good luck....

Answer 5

I'm in my early 40's, and my boyfriend of 7 years just ended our relationship by moving to a different state with his parents instead of staying here with me. When he decided to break the news to me, I was devastated! I called a good friend that I could call and tell my feelings to. My comment to her was, "Seven years of my life WASTED!" (Seven years is A LOT to a 40 year old!). My friend replied to me, "No, it wasn't 7 years wasted, it was 7 years of EXPERIENCE." I haven't felt sorry for myself since then! Those are words of wisdom! These past 7 years I have learned a lot of things that I won't put up with in another relationship, what I expect out of a relationship, what I'm willing to give in a relationship and what I will give in a new relationship. You've learned at an early age. You've earned a lot of experience, use it wisely! Good luck in your life, sweetie! You will make someone happy and proud to have you in your long future!

Answer 6

particular you have, certainly. And have confidence me, there are a number of greater those that bypass by that than you'll be able to think of. now and back you like that one journey to lose a number of your innocence. there is often somebody obtainable nonetheless you will fall in love in basic terms as lots or much greater, nonetheless, and you will forget with reference to the girl you omit now besides the undeniable fact which you will cherish the memory. you won't see it now, in spite of the undeniable fact that it does come, in many circumstances a touch extra down the line in existence.

Answer 7

Girls "like" sweet guys" however they 'fall in love" with the cheating, lying, controlling bad boys

It's all about evolution and genetic survival - do don't expect any logic to it

Monogamous, sincere, non-controlling "nice guys" are deemed in evolutionary terms (via DNA) by females to offer poor prospects going forward - basicall non-seed spreading dead-ends who decrease the chick's genetic odds

Answer 8

You sound like you've learned a lot and when you do find the one true love for you you'll be a great friend, boyfriend, and husband. Way to go!

Answer 9

Hmmmm

Answer 10

Yes u have learned from ur experience. Nice for u to have learned that from one girl and not many. (",)