He acts as if i'm unattractive sexually and when i do the first move his reaction is unbearable. it's as if i was about to punish him. I never had this problem with any of my ex bf .
now we have sex like once a month (not enough!!!)
he has cholesterol can it be it?
2007-02-27 17:26:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no i'm not fat i'm not ugly
sometimes he tells me i have bad breath but i always have a mint in my mouth
i dunno i'm really confused the wedding is soon u know
i love him he is great to me what am i going to do?!
2007-02-27 19:32:22 · update #1
he has had a lot of girls . women like him. he says he loves me becoz of my mind not my body... and he thinks that we are gonna have a solid marriage coz we understand each other etc etc but i mean come ooooooooonnnnnnnnn
2007-02-27 19:34:33 · update #2
I think there is a bigger issue at hand that he is not talking to you about. Has he met someone else? Could he be gay? Maybe he is having some sort of issue with his own body that is making him uncomfortable. Is he having impotancy issues? Maybe he has discovered he has an STD? There are alot of reasons it could be, but there is definately a reason. Dont assume that YOU are the problem.
2007-02-27 17:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by whissp_4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO and further more don't marry him sex is very important in a relationship and if someone does not want to have it this early into the relationship that means there not in it for the long haul some medical problems can cause loss of sex driver or impotency but if he turns you down when you initiate that is a bad bad sign you might want to think about trying to delve into what he does when your not around cause it sounds like he is focusing his sexual energy into other directions and maybe his heart to cause he won't have sex with you at all. This will ruin your self esteem in the long run if it has not already and unless drastic measures are taken to regain your love life back you will end up miserable no one is worth that.
2007-02-27 18:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's something you really need to discuss with him. you can't marry someone if your already having these kind of problems. Normally I would say it could be stress or working too much but if he's acting as though it's a punishment it sounds a lot more serious. Not to sound mean but is there a chance he could've cheated on you and maybe he feels guilty and so chooses not to have sex with you. or has anything "really bad" happened to him lately like a death in the family. I recommend taking this up with him and see what he says if it continues to stay like this don't marry him it will just end up in divorce good luck!
2007-02-27 17:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cholesterol should not effect his sex drive, it sounds like there is something more going on. You need to talk to him about his reaction and how it makes you feel. I agree, sex once enough is not nearly enough, but then again, once a week isnt enough either. It's hard to say what his problem might be, but you need to get to the bottom of it or things will never improve.
2007-02-27 17:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break the marriage off. He's clearly not attracted to you.
But also ask yourself--is it you? If you're overweight or don't bathe or have a horrible skin disease, fix it. All these can be fixed with healthy eating, exercise, showers, and medicine, so don't wait. Fix it. If you're already at a good weight, without stench, and with clear skin, then ignore that step. Then find a guy that likes you. Life is short.
2007-02-27 17:45:22 · answer #5 · answered by Arbor Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh please. Cholesteral? That's just an excuse! There are tons of people walking around with high cholesteral who can have sex just fine. Having sex once a month is not enough. He's your husband, and part of love and being married is having sex. you might consider marraige counseling. There may be underlying issues that you and your hubby may need to deal with as a couple.
2007-02-27 17:31:38 · answer #6 · answered by Buffy C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't marry him until this problem is worked out - completely. Be honest with him and talk to him about it. If you have trouble doing that, insist on pre-marital counseling and bring it up in counseling. It's not high cholesterol, but it is a vital issue that needs to be resolved.
2007-02-27 17:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by jimmyjohn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it could be that he just finds you unattractive... you said husband to be, at this stage he should be getting inside your pants ( or at least be trying ) every single chance that he gets...did you ever consider that he could be gay ?... whatever is the reason why he asked you to be his wife, i dont think you should be marrying this guy... cholesterol has nothing to do with it ( im a doctor ) ive heard of old geezers with very high cholesterol dying of a heart attack while having sex but still they went for it...
2007-02-27 17:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by Clive Roland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the power in the relationship back. He's not attracted to you because he knows he can have you when ever he wants. Make him work for your attention. You'll be fine in no time.
2007-02-27 17:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by orcena550 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't stand to touch you now> Forget him> It sounds like your a sensuous woman and it wont work between you.
2007-02-27 17:41:17 · answer #10 · answered by Leroy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋