Getting pregnant so he will stay?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now. we're both 19 years old. He is the most amazing person i've ever met but i feel the end is near.... because
1) we're going to different universities
2) his parents want him to find an asian girl instead
3) im not rich like him and im not accepted like he is
4) I dont see him as often as i like anymore

please help me... i dont want to lose him... he is amazingly RICH (dad's a real estate mogul), he has an amazing body, he is the smartest person from my highschool (going to med school now) and most importantly he is a gentleman and everyone i know loves him. I dont know what i should do, this is the only way i think he will for sure stay with me... HELP!!!

yes you can... premed.

Answer 1

Oh c'mon girl! be smart!! just look at those men who leave their wifes and kids for other woman or whatever, you can't believe that a man is going to be with you just for a baby! have dignity! if a man stay with a woman JUST because a baby I am sure this is for the blackmail from the mother!

Answer 2

I think u would be the biggest idiot if you thought that getting pregnant to keep ur man is the way to go.... Do u think it will make his family accept u? Have u thought he could end up resenting u? If u havent then u need to really sit down and take a long hard look at what u r thinkin to do... If ur relationship is meant to be then it will last regardless of what obstacles are thrown ur way... How would u feel if u got pregnant and he left u?
Would u then resent the child because u would be a single mum?
I think u would because that is what selfish people do and by the sounds of it u are selfish to even be thinkin of trapping this man with a child.... U need to let things run there course and see where it goes u are still young and have alot of living to do before u should think about having children.... By the way his family really have nothing to do with this cause if he listened to them u wouldnt have been together aslong as u have.....

Answer 3

You have to ask yourself if you are really in love with him or are you in love with his money.

If you think getting pregnant is the answer, think what will happen if it turns out not to be the answer.

You will be a single Mum.
He will hate you,
His parents will hate you,
You will be excluded from a lot of social activities with your friends because you have a child.
You may end up resenting the child,
You have to give up uni to raise the child.

These are just a few. This isn't some television soapie, this is reality.

You never know he may decide he'd rather be with you than some Asian girl.

You are only 19. Don't be so quick to settle down.

Answer 4

Where do you get off!? You are sooo selfish,let him have a career. You're thinking of yourself and not the guy you supposedly love. How do you plan on taking care of this kid?
How do YOU plan on going to college with a baby or even getting into a college? A kid doesn't deserve that life or THAT kind of mother! My mother was 18 and nearly died giving birth. She also went to college for a short time,while my dad tried to run. My mom had to get a job while my dad was in college with another girl. When I was with my dad he would take credit for how talented I was when he did nothing. Now let him have a FUTURE
you've been together a year. You'll deal with it,but you're NOT ready a kids a LIFETIME commitment. My mom WASN'T READY and admits she was TOO YOUNG! When she wanted an abortion it was 2 LATE!!!

Answer 5

you are not doing nothing but what his mother is hoping you will do. i am going to let you know what she thinks and what you should do. she thinks that you are not doing anything but using her son for his money. probably because you might not have as much $ as he does. and she probably thinks you are using him. then what every mother thinks about a girl when they know that they really want to be with their son is that she is going to purposly get pregnant so that you wont leave her. if you do she will never like you for one, and you better be careful because it could backfire and they take ur baby from u. nowadays a baby dont promise u a man. and secondly truthfully u need to analze why you really like this guy because you say that its not becaue he is rich but if you read your question the first thing you mention when describing why you dont want to loose him is that he is amazingly rich. are you sure thats not the only reason why you want to be with him? not bashing you at all. hope you make the right choice. good luck

Answer 6

when you are dating no matter how long you have been together,there is no guarantee that he will stay.The worse mistake you can make is having a baby from a man to keep him around if anything that will make him pull away,and you will be stuck raising a child on you own.If he is such a great guy there is no need for you to rush into bringing a child into the world.There is more to you than just having a baby to keep him around.If anything talk about getting engaged.You don't want to be a "baby mama".you should be encouraging him to surpass in his career .We to a certain extinct have control of who we end up with let the rest be up to your destiny.If he is that great of a guy and your relationship is strong you will stick together.My now husband but boyfriend then was in Iraq(marines)for what seemed like eternity but we made it work we are a team.

Answer 7

You don't use people to get what you want, which is what you are trying to do. You want to use this guy and use an unborn baby, treating them as though they are things. You talk about how great he is, but you treat him in a completely selfish and self-serving manner. All you care about is having him and what he has, and not about him. Believe it or not, a relationship is about two people and not just one. And any good relationship is founded on trust. Neither of these exist whereas you and him are concerned. You don't even say how he feels about you, which simply makes my point that you only care about yourself.

There is no way that you are worthy of him or any other guy at this point in your life, if you ever are. I hope to God he is smart enough to keep away from you before you ruin his life.

Answer 8

Why would you want to do that? Honestly...do you understand how much that decision would change your life? First of all, your pregnancy would not mean that he would have to stay with you. If he is as rich as you say, he could simply choose to give you the money to raise the child and go off to school. This child would suffer from the lack of father and would soon learn that they were not truly a wanted child...but born purely so you could stay with your amazing boyfriend. Your plan is dumb and I hope you decide not to go through with it, unless you want to ruin THREE lives!

Answer 9

The worst thing to do is get pregnant just because you want him to be with you, if he loves you he will do what he can to keep the relationship healthy, and alive. But if you only want him because of his money, brains, manners, and popularity chances are things won't work out the way you would like them to. A relationship requires love from both ends. Getting pregnant to keep him with you would only cause many more problems, and could complicate, if not destroy your life. I know someone who did this to keep her bf with her, he ended up denying the baby and moving to Texas. Please don't do this just to be with him, not only would it affect your life, but it would also affect the life you are bringing into this world. A baby should be a product of love, and passion for another human being, not a desperate act to keep the relationship going. Babies need love, and lots of it. Believe me having a baby will change your whole life. Wait until you and your bf are ready.

Answer 10

Either a man wants to be with you or he doesn't. You absolutely should not get pregnant to keep him. That is starting off a future with a lie. Deceit is a terrible way to keep a man. His family will never accept you if you trick him into marriage. DON'T do it. Realize you will be using an innocent child to get your way.

If things are to be, they will be. You should talk to him about how you are feeling. If you want to see him more often, tell him so. Do not act desperate. It is unattractive and can drive him away. Just enjoy what you have. Don't sabotage it by getting pregnant when it is not something you both want.

Answer 11

DON'T GET PREGNANT!!! That is one of the worst thing you can do to someone. How would you feel if your baby didn't have a father because he went to another school anyway? It isn't fair to the child. If you really think you're meant to be with each other, keep in touch. If you both find you want to be together after that, then I think you know your answer. But make sure you aren't marrying him for his money. One day that could be gone and you shouldn't be because of it.