My boyfriend and I have been going out for 3 years, and are engaged. However, over Christmas break, he suddenly seems to have lost interest in me and is hanging out with another girl he knows. I was quite upset by this and started checking the online messages he was sending her; I was/ am shocked to find him sending messages like "I love you" and calling her adoring names that he rarely calls me. I even found pictures of them together online, having fun that I wasn't having. Every message he sends her upsets me, and I of course confront him about them. It generally leads to a fight and him changing his password again. It goes on even now, where my only insight into what's up is to check his messages.
I can't tell him not to see or talk with her anymore, I'm afraid this will only make him want to see her more and desire me less. And yet I'm terrified that once Summer break rolls around he'll go running back to her and spend zero time with me, despite what he's promised.
Please help!
2007-02-27 17:22:52 · 7 answers · asked by banvivirie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Next time you discuss it, tell him you aren't going to ask for any more information about his relationship with HER; you only need to demand that he provide more information about his relationship with YOU. Does he still want to be engaged, to marry you? If he can't provide you a straight (and honest) answer, you may be right. Relationship is doomed.
2007-02-27 17:29:34 · answer #1 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of yourself first the best thing you can do is have some serious talk with him about it, don't fight over the matter, talk like two matured people over a cup of coffee and let him explain things to you & if he doesn't then my dear he is not the right person for you coz if a person loves you he can never harm you, don't shed tears as the world is very beautiful around and needs your smile.
2007-02-27 18:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, deep down, that he's moved on -- so you should too. You can't keep someone who doesn't want to be with you, so go find someone who does. Or better yet, spend more time with your friends and family.
Staying with him will only make you more and more insecure -- don't let this guy break you down. He's not worth it.
2007-02-27 17:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by HeIsMyAllinAll 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to dump him now. Have more respect for yourself, you shouldn't put up with this for one minute. Do you really want to marry a cheater? Don't make this mistake, trust me you will regret it.
2007-02-27 17:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find another man...he sounds like a jerk...u should of figured that out earlier..i would of never done that to you
2007-02-27 17:26:27 · answer #5 · answered by hey_thanks_you_guys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT??!! You are engaged to this loser?? HE IS CHEATING ON YOU. I know it hurts, but dump him now!!! Save yourself. He is totally disrespecting you.
2007-02-27 17:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by maria s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. hes soo mean.
2007-02-27 17:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by poisonberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋