to stay in childcare or pull out?

Question

I put my child aged 20mths in childcare for one day but really only stayes 3 hours. But know we have started playgroup he love first few visits now does'nt like me out of his sight as he thinks I'm going to leave him like at childcare.. He only cries at childcare and cares are not really good with him... DO I TAKE THEM OUT OF CHILDCARE AND GO TO PLAYGROUP TWO DAYS A WEEK. I DON'T WORK ... SO DO I TRY childcare in a few more months or leave him in or do i get him to like playgroup first . I ONLY WANT HIM TO PLAY WITH OTHER CHILDREN...ANY IDEAS

Answer 1

Well if your not working and the whole point is to wanting him to play with other children then Play group is best. He doesnt actually need childcare right now. So why leave him there if the carers arent that good with him? Leaving him with carers that arent to good could be very detrimental to him and when it is time to go to preschool or childcare or school he could have issues.
So for now just attend play group and let him have fun and be reassured that Mummy is there with him. He is still only little and playgroup is perfect for him.
When it is time to put him in childcare make sure you go to one that has a good reputation and you think will take great care of your son.

Answer 2

Well I work in childcare 6 years now and I have an early childcare degree. It takes 2-4 weeks for a child to get use to the center, the other kids, the teachers, and everything else. You could stay and visit him at daycare or call and check up on him through out the day giving the teachers pointers. It's only been one day and work is good. He'll get use to it. But search your heart and talk with your family and go from there. Even if you wouldn't have taken him to daycare he probably would have reacted the same as he did at the playgroup. It's called separation anxiety and all kids have it some are higher then others but it's normal and it's curable. You just have to leave your child for awhile and he'll get use to being apart from you. If you and your family still don't like the center or see improvements after a month or two then find a new one you do like or keep him home. But at sometime in his life he will have to separate from you. I often times think it's easier for children and parents when the children are younger then older. There's also a thing called Infantile Amnesia where adults don't remember anything before the age of 4 or 5. I don't really know what else to tell you, it's your heart and child. Talk to your husband. Best of wishes. All will be okay. You can call, visit, and volunteer in his classroom when ever you want to see how things are really going.

Answer 3

I think a playgroup to start would be a great thing. When my daughter started childcare around 18 mos. she was having major separation anxiety as well. I switched from childcare to a nanny and then she had no anxiety. I put her in real childcare when she was 2 1/2 and she was ready to go play and participate in all of the acitivities without Mommy. My second daughter is now 21 mos. and having separation anxiety for me to step out the door to do laundry. I think it just might be the age.

Answer 4

My son was the same. Maybe try another day care? Otherwise give him a couple of weeks to get used to the idea. Maybe talk to someone at the centre and let them know youre concerned. They could try to make more effort and spend more time making him comfortable.
What worked with my son, is I went and bought him a cool wiggles bag and lunch box set and he can only use it for 'school'. I let him pack it and help make the lunch and it gives him something to look forward to.
It will feel mean for a while bur eventually he will get used to it, and it will be so much better when he starts school etc. Dont give up on playgroup tho cos theres nothing more valuable than your child wanting you to be involved in his life :)

Answer 5

I would wait until the child is 2/ 24 months. for childcare.
Go to the Play Group.

Visit lots of preschools, and see which ones you like best.

ask teacher/child ratio
class size.
daily routine -- what it includes.

do the 2 day a week thing, and by the time your child is 2, and September, will be ready for childcare!! and be old enough to be grouped in with his/her peers at age 2 and track with the same friends.

Ask the moms of your play group which childcare/preschools they like, or don't. Go visit them.

enjoy this clingy pre-2 yr old stage.!!

Answer 6

He is still really young so you do not have to keep him in childcare he will be going soon enough anyway. Like pre-school. Do the playgroup. That sounds good.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

If you don't HAVE to leave your child in daycare then why would you? If, like you said, you are interested in having him play with other kids then playgroup is perfect. Why put your child through that separation anxiety, thus causing insecurities, when you don't have to. Not to mention the number of children that are abused, neglected or even die in the hands of their daycare providers.

Answer 9

Your child is telling you something and you should listen. Your child is so young and you are fortunate to have the time to spend with him now, don't dump in childcare where he doesn't get your love and attention...at 20 months children don't really play with each other yet, they need their parents to help them develop basic human skills. They will have plenty of time later to learn to play with others, right now it sounds like your child needs you.

Answer 10

I agree with Angelica strongly on this topic. It will take time and it would be heart wrenching hearing him cry for you when you leave him at daycare, but he'll soon bond with his daycare providers and be able to be comforted by them, try taking something he can keep at daycare that reminds him of home so he doesnt feel like he's in such a strange environment. In care, children are provided with so many opportunities to further their development. Like social skills (sharing, parrallel play with peers) varied fine motor skills like drawing, painting, puzzles, blocks, gross motor skills like climbing, dancing, balance, hand-eye coordination. Verbal skills through carers and peers, cognitive skills like colours, shapes, memory activies like animal names and sounds. It's a good idea to drop him off and pick him up about the same time each day, I know he's young, but through daycare routine, will realise when to expect you. Maybe try more than one day a week, waiting 6 days before returning to daycare is a long time to a child, more consecutive days will allow him plenty of time to adjust. Make sure you feel comfotable with the people carer for your little boy, any hesitation or anxiety you feel, he'll pick up on too. If your not comfortable with his carers, find another daycare you do feel happy with. Best of Luck.