I'm talking to this boy and I don't think itz that serious but everyone on yahoo swares he's after me for one thing, which is sex because of our age difference and that is so not true Itz not even like he's 5-10 years older, itz just 3 years and that isn't bad at all. Between most of the guys i've talked to. He's a lot different. He's more mature. I like that he treats me so good. Itz just he's 18 and i'm 15. People are saying with their own experience he only wants one thing. But I doubt it.
2007-02-27 17:09:12 · 20 answers · asked by tRaCi3 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BECAUSE THEY SEE SOMETHING YOU DONT SEE LOVE IS BLIND
2007-02-27 17:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by lakeshia w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've only been talking to him, how do you know how well he treats you? You can't tell anything about anyone from just a phone conversation. You can't even tell how he will treat you after the first few dates; he'll be on his best behavior. It's how they'll treat you when the chips are down that will tell you about his true character. And the age difference between 25 yr old woman and a 28 yr old man is nothing. The age difference between 15 year old girl and an 18 yr old man is exponential. Do yourself a favor and find someone you go to school with that's around 15-16 years old. Good luck.
2007-02-27 17:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell it to you like this, it is safe to say that guys think of sex at least once every 10 seconds. And that is when there is not a pretty girl around. Here are a few questions to ask yourself. If he is so mature, why is he not dating someone his age? What do you have that an 18yr old girl doesn't? Why don't girls his age want to hang out with him?
Fact is he wants you for sex, he will stay around as long as he thinks he might gets some. Once that is gone, he will move on. Guys are not emotional like girls, it is not a love thing it is physical.
Sorry to break it to you, but move on. I know it will hurt for awhile. But better now than when it is after something you cannot fix. Do not discount the advise you have received.
2007-02-27 17:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by Chachito 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to give him a chance to prove them right or wrong either way. You shouldn't break up with him because of what people say but you should keep it in mind if thy are speakign from experience and watch for the warnign signs. If he ever says or does anything to make you uncomfortable or trys to pressure you into something you don't want to do then you should leave. If he ever says that if you won't have sex with him or do something he wants then he'll break up with you then let him go. In the end, your relationship with this guy has nothing to do with anyone else. It's your relationship and if you're happy then t's good.
Just be aware that there is an age difference and watch out for situations where you might get trapped into something your not ready for.
2007-02-27 17:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People in high school don't know what they want. The two strongest powers in the world are fear and love, and love is in effect right now.
However, what kind of love is the question. High school is a dream world where you are protected, and you are required to be there. From dollar lunches to teachers cleaning up after you, the list goes on. Having yet to have hit the real world, it is hard to realize what life is really like.
The guy you're talking to is probably in high school, or just leaving, but its obvious hes attracted to you. If you are only talking to him, then it is hard to say much else. If you genuinely know he appreciates you for who you are, and will support you while not getting in your way, then it should be fine. Know the difference between attraction and liking somebody, however.
Furthermore, it is common knowledge that seniors date freshmen for "one thing". Although it is mostly said circumstantially, it is also true for the most part.
Just be careful, and think things through.
2007-02-27 17:17:38 · answer #5 · answered by cjtamago 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i started my current relationship in your shoes kind of?? well i had just turned 15 the month before and he was turning 18 in 2 weeks. We started dating before he turned 18. No one was telling me that he was just after sex; i was a virgin before we met;the only thing that i ever done before meeting him was just kissing. && now i`m 17 going on 18 and he`s 20 going on 21 and we`re getting married on January 12th 2008. He`s not like all the rest of the guys out in the world..there are still good guys out there!! He`s the love of my life and there`s no one i`d rather spend the rest of my life with..i have no doubts in my mind that i`m doing the wrong thing. Some people say that we`re too young i just want to punch them; it just gets really old when someone you don`t even know is sitting there telling you that you`re too young to be gettng married but i try to ignore them..i mean it`s not like we`re having kids right now..we`re waiting for that until we have our big house then we`ll talk.. i guess what i`m trying to say is don`t worry about what people say just listen to your heart. Not all guys are dogs..to be honest with you i wasn`t even looking for a relationship when i met him...it was by luck..i guess!! i hope this helps..
2007-02-27 17:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by Brooklynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see at 18, guys are extremely active when it comes to sexual relationship that makes people think he is after you for it. Most of the boys at 18 who stays long time chatting in the internet could either be really shy to make friends personally or he could be just looking for fun. Guys at younger age are usually curious & likes to do many new crazy ideas to experience many things, like sex. I'm not saying all but at your age you should be extremely carefull in making friends in the internet... Take care
2007-02-27 18:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by nel_occiano 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie....everybody wants sex. Even you! Yes I said it...and you know it's true. Everyone you see every day has sex. The bus driver, your principal, your preacher, science teacher, counselor, the president and even your mother. It is a natural thing to experience sex and for that matter enjoy it. All one would ask is that when you do, with this guy or the next, use protection. Most cities have a planned parenthood (free clinic) or stop by your local hospital emergency room for free condoms. Good luck!!!
~moralityisrelative1~
2007-02-27 17:19:20 · answer #8 · answered by moralityisrelative1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because 99.9% of the time an 18yr old boy is a walking hormone and for him to go after a 15yr old kinda implies he is looking for someone who is more naive and can be manipulated. Everyone is different though so you may be correct. Just proceed with caution and trust your own judgment as best as possible. Being 18 he shouldn't be seeing someone that could lead to jail time though.
-NmD!
2007-02-27 17:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be different if he were 21 and you were 18...in my state he is considered held responsible for his action ...and yours...you being 15 , a minor, can not be held responsible for your action , your parent will be. There are reasons for such restrictions. Your what 10th grade and he is out of school...He needs to look forward to a future not in the past where he was three years ago...
2007-02-27 17:18:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the thing is that he is 18 and well hes at that age where boys like younger girls to get you know what. but hey just don't get hurt, alot of these people might be right. i'd just take it slow if i were you, nothing is wrong with it because imagine when you 18 he's 21. its the age thing that throws people off. but for now its okay just take it slow.
2007-02-27 17:15:13 · answer #11 · answered by Dory Ian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋