my friend's mom has been diagnosed with blood cancer and has only a year to live. she only had 4 sons and no daughters...i was like a daughter to her. i really want to make this last year VERY special for her...i want her to enjoy this year instead of spend it in despair...any ideas???PLEASE
2007-02-27 17:06:33 · 13 answers · asked by crazyydaisyy<3 3 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
BREATHE. She's not dead yet, nor does she have to be. As a holistic doc, I've helped more than one patient labelled terminal change their destiny. Find a good naturopath/holistic doctor. You can clean the blood, and extend her life span. Don't buy into that 'expiry date.' Thoughts create reality. And don't underestimate the power of prayer and positive thought.
For blood cancer, I would put her on blood cleansing herbs: red clover, yellow dock, burdock etc. I would do acupuncture for blood and immune system, and energy work to elevate her body's healing ability.
Try this affirmation: "I give thanks for ____'s complete recovery, and I accept it now." It works. Make this your reality, and make it hers.
Get the book, "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay.
Sending you prayers,
Doc M
2007-02-28 15:47:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you can, within the sphere afforded to you by the rest of her family, to encourage her to continue to set and keep goals, be they itty-bitty day-by-day goals, or month- or year-long goals.. or even goals she might decide to set that she can't possibly finish in the year that she's been promised. Doctors have been known to be wrong about such things. I've known cancer victims who have lived two or three years beyond the year they'd been promised, and I think it was because they kept on making and working toward goals that would take them longer than the time they'd been promised they'd be gone.
Huckleberry is right, though. Make sure that she makes goals that are hers, not yours.
And that includes any and all kinds of treatments.. or not. Spending the last however many months of your life fighting a terminal illness might be considered nobel and heroic for some, but some people don't WANT to be rememberd as nobel and heroic, but as sharing and loving.
Just be there and be supportive.
Oh!
And don't forget to be selfish every once in a while and demand a hug of her, just in case it is your last.
2007-02-27 17:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by Robert G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt was diagnosed with breast cancer 8 years ago....it has spread to her bones, bone marrow, and her blood. She gets transfusions and platelets all the time but can not get treatment because her platelets are too low needless to say she is coming to the end of her battle but back when she was first diagnosed they only gave her a year and it has now been 8. On the other hand my uncle died of lung cancer 8 years ago. When he found out he had it they gave him 6 months he only lived 3. It can go quick or short. Painful or not. Good luck my prayers are with you guys. Just treasure every moment and don't hold back any feelings. Make sure you say everything you want to before its too late. I wish you guys the best and I hope you find a way to make it special.
2007-02-27 17:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
#1 - she's NOT dead YET
the doc's don't know how long some one has - help her to understand what she has and the treatments and the "trials" coming out.
I was suppose to be "dead" in 3 years from blood cancer and that was 35 months ago - and they are now telling me they don't know.
#2 What type of Blood cancer - there are many, then find a local support group or ".org" and get information - FIGHT.
#3 Be with her, LISTEN to her and be her "helper" - make sure she does everything she wants etc.
It is NOT over; keeping going.
Jewells
35 months and still here
2007-02-28 01:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by jewells_40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest continuing on being like a daughter to her. Spend time with her and help keep her mind off of it since this is can be hard to deal with mentally. I also would like to say that you shouldn't treat her as if the days were being counted down. Of course the doctor says she only have a year left but you never know what God can do through prayers. She can recover so well that the doctors would be shocked and just say she was "lucky". I seen it happen to many people. It is all about having faith and believing. Just help her appreciate and reflect on life. Especially help your friend because she is probably worst off dealing with this.
2007-02-27 17:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by babyapple2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what SHE wants to do with her last year. Don't superimpose your ideas on hers. I would suggest that she talk to a holistic doctor too because he or she may have some suggestions on things to do to prolong her life. And the year doesn't mean 365 days. She could go sooner or much later too.
Again, take her lead first.
2007-02-27 17:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her and help through all of this. Talk of the good times and maybe make a album for her of all the things that you all have done along with her children. I am so sorry to here of this.
2007-02-27 17:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be a friend to her be there for the good days and the bad days. She is going to need your support.
2007-02-27 17:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by CHAEI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Research for those cases of people who have beaten the disease and do what they did. Role model. Hey, it's a battle for your life. Do whatever it takes. Best wishes and best of luck.
2007-02-27 17:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by question everything 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her some medicine. Get some cesium chloride with rubidium and DMSO. And get some ip6 pills, oxygen drops...And get her an aloe vera plant. Have her cut the pricks off. Then cut up the plant and throw some in a blender. Blend it with ice cream and drink it. Its going to be extremely bitter.
2007-02-27 20:07:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋