IS this a normal thing. we've only been together a couple of months now although we did work together several years ago for a couple of years. We both feel that our lives our now complete since getting together. Why is it so hard to be apart? Are we forming unhealthy boundaries? What happens next..we just live for the next time we can be together? Does everyone truly in love go through this?
2007-02-27 16:48:39 · 9 answers · asked by tunafish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Might as well face it we're addicted to love, but at least it's not crack and at least all of our responsibilities are being taken care of.
Ya baby!
2007-02-27 18:17:53 · update #1
Enjoy the time you have together & look forward to the next time. Keep busy doing other things when he is away. Congratulations.
2007-02-27 16:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by jimmyjohn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is unhealthy because you are two separate people and you need to have interests,friendships, goals outside of that relationship. I went through this from December-July 2006 then we broke up abruptly & my life is in total shambles. I look back over what I did the last year and most of it was obsess over the next time I would see,talk, or make love to this person. We have only talked once since then but have chatted about a dozen times on im. And guess what I still love him as much as I did when we were talking,chatting every day. Sooo, make sure you are achieving your daily tasks at work/home, working toward something that you want for yourself, and communicating your wants/needs to your partner. Although you feel like you and he are the only ones in the universe, you are in fact not. There is still a real world out there that needs to be maintained. Look at your relationship as a refreshing reward or getaway.
2007-02-28 01:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by q8336b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys might be having codependency issues and no it's not healthy. Are you in an long distance relationship? Being apart like that does hurt, but if you are saying "apart" meaning when he's at work for a few hours or something, that should not hurt. Being excited to see someone you love is good, but if that's all you are looking forward to plus the feeling that you are not complete or were not complete without the other one, that's not good. You must be happy on your own and you can't use someone to make you happy. The feelings you're having are not true love.
2007-02-28 01:12:00 · answer #3 · answered by graybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - I am in love with someone via the internet and we talk nearly every day. We act like teenagers, never want to log out, never want to hang up the phone. We cannot chat at weekends so we feel great pain when parted. If you are not normal you have two friends just the same
2007-02-28 00:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm.... it's normal to feel terrible when your partner is far from you. specially when he/she is out of the country or just out of town miles and miles away. but, thanks to modern technology, all that has changed. maybe a little bit, but at least you get to say hi and ask what you and your partner has been doing the whole day over the phone or over chat. but nothing compares to the physical presence of a loved one. as a friend of mine said... nothing beats a comfort given by someone close to you. specially when you need it the most, like getting sick or having grave problems... but, what i like most about being far from my loved one is that i have something to look forward to whenever we meet eachother again.
it's like being in heaven, and you get to prepare for it.. you get to have special times together and you enjoy it. the longing produces great affection towards a person. thus making you fall in love all over again... just give it time... if you believe in fate, then let it be...
2007-02-28 01:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Den Mark G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG....
I thought i was the only one that felt like this!!!!
I know jut how you feel!!!! my boyfriend and I are the exact same way.... i know it HAS to be unhealthy in so many levels!!!! .... and honestly.... i have been told this by many people:
"Ask yourself WHY it hurts so much to be apart"....
Uh... I personally haven't been able to find the answer yet - but i'm still looking for it! and if you find it before i do.... let me know please!!!!1
2007-02-28 00:53:49 · answer #6 · answered by gabster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i get physically sick when separated from my husband and i hate it but i love him and it depends on your personality if that feeling lasts but yeah its pretty normal so enjoy it while its there but dont rely on it to tell you that youre in love hopefully there is another signal
2007-02-28 00:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh **** yes ! . It will fade in time but enjoy it while you have it ! Cheers Pete
2007-02-28 00:55:27 · answer #8 · answered by Realist 2006 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but trust me it will hurt also if your together all the time
2007-02-28 00:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋