seriously. she thinks hes no good. but i love him alot. i trust him with my life soo....whats a good counter-arguement?
2007-02-27 16:47:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you all have really good points...
thank you for your support.
and you're right...my mom does know best. so i'll see where it takes me.
2007-02-27 16:59:40 · update #1
ah my mom doesnt like my wife but if you love em it doesnt matter
2007-02-27 16:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out what it is that she doesn't like about him. Why does she think he's no good? Then go from there. Are her reasons valid? And if they are, what can the two of you do to show her that he's changed? If they aren't valid, then you must find the root cause for her dislike of him. Does she think you are too young, etc? Only when you figure out the reasons will you be able to make a good counter argument for her. Good luck.
2007-02-28 00:53:04 · answer #2 · answered by stseukn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHen this happens, you have to stop for 1 minute to think..."is she right". Does she see something in him I dont?
Take a step back and a day off to reflect. Chances are, your mom sees this not as you do because you are in love and she isnt.
Im not siding with your mom, but I have been there before with my mom, and she was right. The girl I loved and she didnt like, turned out to be a total jerk in the end and this girl really shafted me in the end.
2007-02-28 01:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Alan W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she doesn't like him and outline the reasons that he's good for you. If she has more reasons to dislike him then you do to like him, maybe you should give some thought to what she says. She's probably just trying to protect you from having your heart broken. It's probably happened to her and she doesn't want you to go through it. Explain to her that while you appreciate her concern, you have to make your own mistakes and learn your own lessons so you can grow as a person. If this guy turns out to be a mistake, don't be afraid to go and cry on your mums shoulder. She won't say 'i told you so'
2007-02-28 00:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Telling Mom THE GOOD AND RESPECTABLE aspects of your boyfriends background, family, school, work, etc. might sway Mom's opinion. Whatever you do, don't try the "but I LOVE him mom" arguement - that will only make her dislike him more. You have to show REASON he's a great guy, NOT emotion or feeling. She will respect YOU more too!
2007-02-28 00:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years from now when he's gone and you're with someone much better you will look back on this and say, "my mom was right". For now, there's nothing you can say to change your mom's mind. It is different looking from the outside in.
Been there. Parents hated a bf and I kept him around too long...wasted my time and anoyed them. Happily married to someone much better now.
Good luck and always stay on mom's good side. She loves you unconditionally.
2007-02-28 00:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing because i thought i was the only one. my mom hate my b/f for the same reason. they will never like them, because they know that they can take us away from them. and believe it or not i have actually learned to listen to my mom becase after 24 yrs i have realized that she is right about EVERYTHING. they just dont want noone to hurt us and if they think somehow we are going to get hurt by the men we love then, they aint goint for it so. just deal with it but i bet u there is something about him that aint right or that u dont know and will find out in the end and go to ur mother and say u were right.
2007-02-28 00:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by misseshodges 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your mom. She has a lot more chances to learn about guys than you do, and she loves you more than a guy. It's easy to be blinded by your feelings, but you should listen to you mom.
2007-02-28 00:54:42 · answer #8 · answered by thinkingriddles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur mom's right >> u shouldnt have a bf in the first place but its okay ... ur just probably one of those girls who want it x-tra..lol
listen to ur mom (if ur a teenager) if not then do wht ever u like..and get a life..
if ur a teenager then i would say use him for few nights and get rid of him if ur mom dislikes him then y take chances if something goes wrong than she will say "i told u"!!!
2007-02-28 00:54:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take one step back from your relationship. There might be some truth to your moms' concerns.
2007-02-28 03:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by charley128 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋