Ladies, if you were involved with a guy whom spoke of making you his wife and having another child with you (he has 2 children from a previous relationship), then he gets you pregnant and he flips out acting demonic demanding an abortion upon learning he'd gotten you pregnant, but not sure if you want an abortion because your 40 years old next month and have no children, what would you do? Would you have the baby and raise your baby on your own even though he turned out to be a huge liar screaming "now is not the time to have a baby"?
2007-02-27 16:47:13 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No way I'm letting a man make that decision for me.
2007-02-27 16:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depending how much you want a child but I am presuming from what you have said that you do all I can say is believe me this is the last chance for you to have a child don't throw away a wonderful opportunity for a man who is I would say either married already or in a relationship, the ones that talk the talk usually are (sorry don't mean to hurt you) you are not the first and surely won't be the last single mother in the world get him out of your life have your baby and he need never have anything to do with it I know it is not ideal but this world is not ideal your at the last chance saloon when it comes to kids as you don't want to be an old wrinkly when your child is growing up i say go for it but hey that's just me good luck
2007-03-06 00:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make that decision for you, but bear in mind this inborn baby of yours did not ask to be made. Fourty is not too old to have a baby lots of ladies have babies at that age even older. This bloke sounds like a psycho and either way you would probably be better off without him. Safer too. Have a good hard think, being a mummy is the most wonderful feeling in the whole world. Good luck. xx
2007-03-05 03:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This man is just playing head games, and is trying to rule yur life by putting you down and ridiculing you.
If you are pregnant, and want this baby, then go for it. A child can get just as much love in a one parent family, (if not more) as to what they get in a normal functional 2 parent family.
You do what is right for you. If you feel the time is right, and you are able to manage to do it alone, well, why not? Im sure you would make a fantastic mum.
Good luck in whatever you decide to do.x
2007-03-05 03:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god! he obviously doesn't have a clue what he wants but be sure hunny that if you abort your child because of him and not for your own personal reasons you will HATE him and regret what you've done on the other hand if you think he is the most important thing in your life and cannot see your life without him then do as he wants if you can live with yourself after, its a simple choice,
him?
with the prospect of him leaving one day cos a relationship is never guaranteed,
or
the life long love of and for a child that you seem to want? be strong here babe, make the decision for yourself its too big a deal to take this lightly most of all DON'T BE BULLIED!
2007-03-04 03:18:21 · answer #5 · answered by RACHIE-D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know you asked the ladies to answer but i thought i should say something because i have seen this situation one befor. both situations sound percectly the same. and she got the abortion and never had a child. she was heart broken and never new the wonders of having a child of her own. she ended up adopting last on. so if it was up id keep it . for get the guy and love the child.
2007-02-27 17:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Boogie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would bin bag the man tell him were to go an keep your baby, an bring her or him up on your own, no man has the rite to tell you what to do, an after all can he really love you if that is the way he acts??? i had a close friend who was in your boot an her man done a runner when she found out she was preg she kept the baby an has a gorg lil 5 year old girl!! so dont do want you dont want to do!!! after all you can get a new man, but you cant get the baby back..so please think about it before you make your mind up!! good kuck inwhat ever you do hunny!!!! xxx
2007-03-07 02:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by miss shy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to bring the baby up on your own taking into consideration your age and wants from life, then do it.
Without sounding offensive, this may be your only chance and having an abortion will stay with you for the rest of your life.
Big decision.
If he's behaving like that - he doesn't deserve to be the father of your baby.....
Good Luck.
2007-03-07 03:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by lynn a 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him and his baggage. If you want the baby you go for it might be the last chance you have. and anyway a happy, loved and content child does not need the love of two parents if one can give the baby what it needs then why not. i wish you luck whatever you decide your to good for that guy and once a liar always a liar
2007-03-04 09:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep the baby your clock is ticking girl, hes a disgrace and you should be lucky hes freaking out now so if you have the baby then youll know what exacly he will be like around it...
its a life and you cant just take it away becasuse hes not happy there are thousands a people who pray to have children and here you have the oppurtunity please make the right choice
im going on 19 and i will never have kids my ovaries are two damaged to concieve you should be happy not considering
give him the boot his not worth it might be scary but plenty of people have raised kids fine ON THEIR OWN
good luck and sori to be so harsh
2007-03-05 22:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
considering the age and the fact abortions can lessen your future chances too in some people. I would have to keep the baby don't you renege on it too poor thing.this may be your last chance at a baby love but theres always more fish in the see and by the sounds of it your owed a catch hes horrible hun
2007-02-27 16:55:48 · answer #11 · answered by nendlin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋