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Question

Me ex of 7 years left me 8 months pregnant. This is kind of therapy for me because I love hearing advice..He moved 2 months ago to take a job with his daddy..then called a month ago to break it off with me..We was supposed to be moving there anyhow..I know it isn't another woman...which was my first thought. He calls all the time and tonight we got in a arguement about child support..he thinks that I am stupid...He doesn't want me to go to court. He wants to get a statement signed by witnesses. He is making almost 5 grand a month and only wants to send me 500?? ha! The convo first started off by me asking him if he was SURE that we wasn't going to ever be together again and he said "pretty sure...why" then I started about the child support and he flipped. I told him we shouldn't talk for awhile because we need to clear our heads and he needs to be sure he is making the right choice..Should I still go for child support or just give it a few weeks? I don't know if I can until I have him.

having the baby is what I mean. Has anyone ever went through this? I feel stupid because I want him back..Yes we was engaged and had the wedding planned before I got pregnant and he wanted me to get pregnant but the Dr. told me I wouldn't be able to ever have kids so I took this as a sign from God. I am concentrated on my child but I really hope he comes to his senses. Thanks! Also, his father also bailed on him when he was a baby yet that is who he has turned to...I think he might think he will be a failure as a father

Answer 1

First off to be with someone for seven years and then leave right before she is getting ready to have your child sais a lot about what kind of man he is and trying to fight with you about child support is him basically saying he does not want to take responsibilty for that child in any way because a true father would not care to what extent he had to go thru to precure everything for his child a dead beat dad to be is what you got. That right there if you think about it over and over again is enougth to make you get over this guy think about your child he/she is the only one that will love you unconditionally. Do the child support legally and establish it thru a child support agencie because at any point thruout the child's life if his income goes up you can re-do it to get what your baby deserves. Trust me I had the same situation that you have twice only with cheating and another girl pregnant with his baby at the same time as me etc. I raised two girls on my own for the past 13 years and it is the most wonderful and hard thing I have ever done and I don't get finiancial help because he won't pay the support ordered to him wont work or works under the table.


OK this is how child support works every state has a local child support agency you need to find that agency and prepare for your baby to come because you can't file till after the baby is born. The minute he/she is born you contact that agency and they will start up you case. First they will file a petition as a request for paternity your dad had a certain amount of time varies by state to respond to the petition or they will atomatically claim him to be the father. If he responds and denies it they will pay for a paternity test if it is his he will have to pay for it. Then they will take his income and base a percentage of living on it and trust me you will get a lot more then 500 dollars for a 5000 a month income that set's it up by law so if he doesnt pay he owes you that or the child for the rest of his life and the more in debt he gets they take things such as licenses and even gets to jail time after a large amount. If he does have a paying job not under the table they will always find him and garnish his checks if he likes it or not. This is not mean he deserves to have to pay for this child as much as you do and furthermore you think you love him right know and don't want to be mean making him help pay for a child he wanted and know is refusing to help raise is not mean and 5 years down the road once you have moved on from this guy he won't be able to fully abandon your child and have to take on his responsibilty. This is not about you or him anymore it's about that baby you decided to bring into the world that will all come to you the minute you hold he/she for the fist time.

Answer 2

i wouldn't take him back if he begged. You deserve someone you can count on. As for the support, in Canada, you get a percentage and if he is making that much, you are entitled to way more then five hundred. I would try to keep it out of court if he is dependable with everything...b ut dont' sign anything with witnesses... he can sway you emotiaonllly into signing something less then you deserve. And he is being rude, flipping out on you, asking 'WHY' when you ask if you'll ever be togheter. That is just rude on top of him taking off. You should never take him back. As for the baby. Congradulations! Remember, no child is a mistake... as for the ex.. let him be his own problem, make him pay and leave him alone.

Answer 3

I think to get child support you have to prove paternity, so that would mean you have to wait until the baby is born. Don't let him do something like string you along because he thinks you won't take him to court if you think there is a chance you will get back together. Your child has rights and if your ex really cares about the baby he should be willing to do what is best.

Answer 4

as you said u r concentrated on your child if you two get back togethersothe power will be if not then its you and the baby. remember you did not have this child alone. he is just as responsible too your child as you are. if the courts could they would just cut it off soo he cant do this again. however as civil as the courts are they attack the guy where it hurts the most and thats his wallet. make him own up too his responsibilties. dont wait proceed with what youre doing. i have three beuatiful girls i knew what i was doing so did he shame on him for leaving such a wonderul time in his and your life. good luck in your future too hell with him get all you can get.

Answer 5

o. and alwyas keep God by ur side. at least stay aware of his presence. it'll help when u get...into the worst parts of the situation. also, don't listen to the people that "classify" ur emotions. i mean, yea, ur going through a grieving process, blah blah blah. U know how u feel. listening intently on that kind of stuff might make u become dependent or something.

Answer 6

Get an attorney and get that child support, he will probably qualify to give up to $1000.00. I would do that, no matter what he says or calls you. You get that child support. Don't take him back, he's a douche bag!

Answer 7

Is this the first chapter of your book?