so i'm with a guy, and he is nice and everything, but when we have sex I'm not enjoying it. I am kind bored because I can never orgasm. I never faked it, but I guess he thinks it's ok and I don't want to talk to him about it and make him feel bad. He wants to have sex every day and for me that is just a waste of time... what should I do? should I just end the relationship?
2007-02-27 16:35:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well maybe you could make suggestions to make it better, you don't have to say it's lousy boring sex the way it is, just tell him you'd like to try some new things, no hurt feelings and better sex unless he's just a lousy lay, and if that's the case I'd never be able to stay w him. It depends on how important sex is to you. Of course I'm assuming you can ordinarily orgasm and that it's his performance. If that's not the case then maybe you should see a doctor, they do have viagra type meds for women these days.
Another concern may be the fact that he doesn't seem to notice you aren't getting off !!! You really want to be w a guy like that? A guy you have a future w would be more in tune w you I would hope.
As far as I am concerned, I gotta have my O or he's gotta go, need my satisfaction too, many times over preferably. Women have to put up w periods, childbirth and menopause so we deserve our multiples !!!
2007-02-27 16:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Polly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's remarkable how important sex and sexual compatibility can be in a relationship, but it's rarely considered by couples that aren't doing having any.
I don't think you should just end the relationship; it doesn't seem like you've made any effort to help him improve his technique. If you don't talk to him, then how can he know that he's not pleasing you? It doesn't have to become a confrontation, but you have the right to your pleasure. At least allow him the opportunity to try and do better.
SHOW him what you like, and gradually he'll start to get it. There's a strong possibility that he's not aware you can never reach orgasm with him. Have you ever reached it with anyone else? The difficulty may not be all his.
Never underestimate the power of bad sex to destroy an otherwise wonderful relationship.
Alternatively, never underestimate the power of great sex to continue an otherwise dysfunctional relationship.
2007-02-27 16:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to talk to him about it because he'd feel bad? WTF seriously, you'd rather break up w/ the guy than tell him what you want in bed? I'm sure that will make him feel wonderful. Here's a better idea why don't you communicate with him and teach him what you like instead and you will be doing yourself and him a huge favor. Unless you like being bored and miserable.
He probably doesn't have a clue, so why don't you help him get one and then you will both enjoy yourselves more.. A lot more.
Sex is definitely important to me. Which is why I don't just lay there and expect my bf to read my mind. Point out to your guy that girls need something called clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, and that you'd like him to start practicing some skills in that area. It also wouldn't hurt to lead by example—show him what you want him to do to you by doing it to yourself. Tell him to want him to do oral on you. Pick up a sex book and read it with him, and show him things you want to try.
Unless he's a total moron, he'll quickly realize that it's a lot more fun for him when you're having fun too. If he can't figure it out AFTER you've done that, THEN dump him, 'casue he'll deserve it.
2007-02-27 17:16:25 · answer #3 · answered by kyla_bean 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whats the point in staying, if your not enjoying the best part of the relationship, [sex], there is something wrong with you or him, have you tryed spiceing thing things up a little, maybe a bit more foreplay, tell him what you want, how you would like itgiv it a whirl
2007-02-28 02:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stra8 up. dont continue to lead him on and have him thinking that everything is ok and its not because then that is going to lead to u cheating and him really getting hurt. so before it goes any further you need to just let him know that its not working for you and that you guys should just be friend. he cant do anything but respect u for that because you were real, and you also walk away with a clear conscience
2007-02-27 17:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by misseshodges 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the whole point to being in a relationship is being able to talk to your partner and the fact that you would rather just end it instead of talking to him about it tells me that you are either very young or immature .
2007-02-27 16:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by sexymumma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wOw , h C , if you are not enjoying sex ....its time to move on
making love should Never be boring
2007-02-27 16:42:06 · answer #7 · answered by klunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm..why don`t you just try some new things && don`t be afraid to be really open. just wondering how long have yall been together??
2007-02-27 16:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by Brooklynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋