Ok, explain to me why a very beautiful (I mean a really gasping head turner), highly intelligent, multilingual, intruiging, socially smart, and socially/intellectually/spiritually aware women CANNOT find a man, is rarely approached, can't keep a man....PLEASE explain this to me!
2007-02-27 16:33:30 · 12 answers · asked by kookoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...and not high maintenance...or full of herself (on the contrary since this problem is really getting her down)
2007-02-27 16:45:54 · update #1
honestly, GREAT question & I have the perfect answer. I was kind of in the same position about a year ago, but I experimented and talkd to ALOT of guys to find out the problem (NOT SEXUALLLY). Im a veryy attractive girl too :P.. . After talking to a few quys I figured it out.
1).TREAT THE GUY THE WAY HE TREATs. YOU
2). BULLSHIT them lol...Tell them what they wanna hear ("anything for you", "I would love to" "Of couse", "want me get you something to eat?")
3) use words like baby, babe, hun. EVEN if u might have to push yourself to way it
GUYS LOVE TO HEAR THESE THING
4) Dont be EASY guys think its sleezy and wont take you seriously
Im only 20 (im only date older guys too)
& I honestly Cant get guys to stop calling me
2007-02-27 17:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Minnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you don't refer to yourself as "very beautiful" to other people. lol. No seriously some men are intimidated by attractive women. Maybe there is an air about you that makes average men feel inadequate. I was Queen of the Winter Ball freshman year or college but have only been on a real date once since graduating in 2000. Go figure. I think these days women have to take the upper hand. Are you flirting enough? Are you portraying body language that says yes I am on the open market? Some people assume beautiful people must be spoken for...Good luck!
2007-02-27 16:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by q8336b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the information given I would suspect that many men are afraid to approach you, either because they feel someone that is very attractive is already taken or because they feel they are not attractive enough for you and are afraid of being rejected. As far as why you can't keep a man, it is hard to say, it could be either you are dating the wrong guys or they again feel inferior to you. Most men like to feel they are the better half of the couple, meaning smarter, stronger, etc.. and to find out that the woman you are with is better than you is more then they can take. Of course it is possible that you are "high maintenance" or something, but I wouldn't know since I havn't dated you. I am sure the right guy is out there for you, you just have to be patient.
2007-02-27 16:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beautiful and smart go together like oil and frozed yogurt. don't mix those two i live in NYC and i don't know any hottt women that are also smart. so don't say that. most women can't find a man because they are attracted to a certain kind and that certain kind is usually the ones that are hot and cheaters. then women ask why can't they ever settle down?
2007-02-27 16:40:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
either men are afraid of their intelligence and beauty... or their confidence is misinterpreted for being high maintenance or overbearing. Those are the only two guesses I can venture... kind of ironic since this woman you are describing sounds like most men's dream girl.
2007-02-27 16:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by Porterhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to much going on you sound very intimidating to aproach most guys see someone like you as ether out of there league or probably taken
2007-02-27 16:38:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are u? i will take u!!!! 23? lol anyways u sound smart most guys are turned off or intimidated by that!
2007-02-27 16:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by boss man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe be a bit more 'humble'. Dont act all pretty and smart with them. that is my suggestion.
http://www.relationship-affairs.com/single-women.html
2007-02-27 16:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Sofia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because a woman as blessed as that could make a man feel inferior.
2007-02-27 16:38:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
either she is intimidating which is why she is rarely approached, and could be too demanding in the relationship
2007-02-27 16:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by DannyC 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋