Maybe a GUYS Perspective would help? ... I hope.....?

Question

Boyfriend and I are arguing ...

What now?... Seems as if we are arguing over the Stupidest crap!... I know it's not that, it can't be... you know how certain things just Get to You!, and can get under your skin, but you can Normally brush most of them off?... most of the time at least?... well anyway, alot of little crap has been really getting to me lately that he (my boyfriend) does, or Doesn't do... I feel like I am Constantly repeating myself to him to get something done and it Never gets done, it seems like only those Certain Few little things he seems to remember, like asking him to reset the alarm for say 7:30am, since he has to get up earlier so I can go back to sleep, he can remember to do that, but when I tell him certain things that Really Bug Me that he does, it NEVER STOPS AND HE NEVER CHANGES IT!!!....

Makes me feel he doesn't care, or it just isn't important enough to him, yet, to do a damn thing about it!, and then it just ALL Seems to add up into one Huge ball of C-R-A-P!!!!!! to me!!....

and after I get pissed about something "mundane" now... I can't even seem to get through to him about it!!!!...

How the hell am I suppose to!!!!......

PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!..................

And to top it all, he gets pissed at me! like it's my fault!... aughh!!!!.... if it was, I'd take the blame!... but I can't even do that anymore because I'm so ******* pissed at Him!!! that he's so Fricking Blind about himself!!!!

I've tried to write notes, I've asked him to, he said he would, he owes me THREE LETTERS!!!, since 6 moths ago!!!1.. and he gets irritaded at ME! when I Mention that to him!, and he sas, "I have to be in the mood to write one to you" yeh whatever... and when he says, "I feel like writing you a letter now!, I'm in the mood to" HE NEVER DOES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

F**CCKKK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HELP ME OUT HERE!!!!!!...
ANY ADVISE, SHORT OF BREAKING UP?... If that ends up having to be so, then it has to be, but I'm looking for Advise here for right now, until I believe it is completely doomed to hell... so be it, if it ends up being so... I'd hate to see that happen, so please help me TRY TO SHED SOME LIGHT ON THE SUBJECT INSTEAD!... Please!!!!!!!!! ............ :-/

PS:

I am Not arguing over an alarm clock with him, ok, it was just an example of what he Does remember to do, and Not the Significant things... if you're going to try to help the situation, would you at least read the question as I wrote it, properly??? If it were to that point, I don't think I would even have to Ask question such as these...

Holly

And, No, I'm not "Controlling" either, as one "nice peron" stated on here...

Maybe some people need to step into reality here, and if you can't answer my question without being hasty, rude, inconsiderate, or judgmental of it, please, just don't bother then...

Our relationship is important to me, I'm not here for a "soap opera" conflict drama... I could care less about that.....

PLEASE QUIT TELLING ME TO GET AN ALARM CLOCK PEOPLE!!!... PLEASE READ MY QUESTION!!!! IT HAS NOTHINGGGG TO DO WITH THESE STATEMENTS, YOU ARE ONLY SKIMMING MY QUESTION AND I DO NOT APPRIATE IT!......

AND LOOK, IT IS ALL GUYS ANSWERING IT, YES, AS I ASKED... MAYBE I'VE ALREADY GOT MY QUESTION ANSWERED TO ME????...

AUGH!!!!!!!!.......... :-/

I sound Toxic???... Uh? that must be why my exes call me and email me wanting to be back with me and are still in love with me???... and yet, I have had to move on from them because it wasn't going to work...

yeah, ok...

Really with you were here to help, not to criticize me, Especially without knowing my whole life and our entire situation at hand, his and mine...

Good Night people...

Answer 1

Well, I don't know how long you and he have been living together but it sounds like he has gotten comfortable in the relationship and with you. The question is, if he doesn't do what you ask, do you do it or does it just sit. Some guys will not do anything because they know she will do it eventually. Not all guys are this way. I can see how you would be frustrated and get upset with him, he is disrespecting you by not doing what you ask and remembering what needs to be done. It seems he doesn't feel you are important enough to pay attention to what you want. The best solution I can come up with, if you are not to the point of leaving him yet, is to stop doing anything for him, remind him what it would be like if you weren't around. Hopefully he will realize what he has and will straighten up. Good Luck.

Answer 2

It doesn't sound like when you two talk that you get his undivided attention. everyone is searching for that certain level of respect. You should look at the four different love languages. gifts,service,words of affirmation, and my favorite the touchy feelly. Understanding his language and yours is improtant. I can't talk japanese at all. and that is what you are doing. you want back what you give him. he could also be a slug that can't see past his own needs. sounds like a sit down heart to heart. and talk about your feelings as you get totally p o ed . so the conversation can be healthy. you sound toxic but i'm sure you care alot about him. teach him to talk. good luck

Answer 3

get one of those clocks with 2 alarms. then he wont have to remember to reset it when he gets up. just turns his off and yours will go off later.

Answer 4

rofl. suprised he hasnt left your controling and insane self.