I'm 18 (since last December) and a senior in high school, my boyfriends a sophomore and just turned 16 on Valentines day. I assumed he was older and it wasn't until after I started liking him and getting to know him that I learned of his age so I told myself: it's no big deal. We've been dating 4 months and EVERYBODY says I can and should do better only because of the age difference. But I really do like this guy and aside from his age, he looks and acts older and is the sweetest guy I've ever known. I'll be graduating May and he'll be a junior in high school. He made me promise to never leave him and I felt like I had to promise him that....so WHAT should I do???? Is our age difference really a HUGE deal????
2007-02-27 16:08:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, don't have sex....(check the law in your state). Second, a 16 year old can be more mature but his need for you to promise him to never leave is an immature attitude. Age difference is a big deal if it causes problems you cannot handle. Do you want to stay with him or is his pressure a problem?
2007-02-27 16:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by Over The Rainbow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your age difference could be a big deal in some States because 18 is considered adult and 16 is not. The law considers 18 as being an adult and 16 being a juvenile. So you need to discuss this with your parents to find out what the legalities are to protect yourself. I would wait until he was older if I were you, I don't care how mature he may appear. If you like him that much wait until he is legal. Do you recall the story of a Teacher who was going with a juvenile and all of the trouble that she got into, well she thought that he was mature for his age also.
2007-02-28 00:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was 16 when I first started dating my fiancee 3 years ago. But they say men's maturity levels develop slower than women's. It's great if you two get along, but now you are in 2 different stages of life. He's still in high school, you're getting ready to graduate (and possibly go off to college?) or enter the work force. It didn't make a difference to us that I was a junior while he was working 40 hours a week as a construction worker. It just really depends on his experience and maturity, really. I don't know what the age limits are in your state.
2007-02-28 00:17:47 · answer #3 · answered by Buffy C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not really....
But i find it kinda weird....I'm 18 my girlfriend is 16 nobody ever says anything because everyone is comfortable with seeing a younger woman with an older man and not the other way around.....If you really like this guy then you shouldn't care what other people have to say.
Do what you gotta do!!
Good Luck
2007-02-28 00:18:50 · answer #4 · answered by Fromaggito 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no it's not. truly. 2 years is not that great.
as for reference, a couple of famous twosomes come in mind: demi and ashton & justin and cameron. the age difference between each pair is more than the two you are stressing on.
so, chill. it's fine.
2007-02-28 00:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by boohoo101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! it is a BIG deal... Your of legal age and he isn't... Stick to guys at least 18... or you could have some real trouble on your hands...
2007-02-28 00:14:03 · answer #6 · answered by pjmom652003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Big deal do what you feel is right. My gf is 9 years older than me. But if you want to go away to college there maybe a problem if you want to go away. Your it's your future.
2007-02-28 00:18:35 · answer #7 · answered by Rambo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not a big deal and as my lil cuzzin say " age aint nothin but a numbah" but think about your graduating when you go off to college ( if you do) you are gonna see cute boys maybe even cuter than your bf that are just as nice as sweet as mature but are your age if not older...."college parties" think you wont see him at skool everyday any more
me myself i couldnt make a promise to neva leave som one cuz if fate says it time 2 go its time 2 go or wat if somone better passes your way
i think you should leave your high school lust in high school
2007-02-28 00:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by physco_porsche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him, you love him. the age difference is no issue at all, how old are your parents? my parents are 8 years apart. the only reason people say anything is because of how proportionate it is to your age. nobody would say anything if you were 24 and he were 22.
2007-02-28 00:15:30 · answer #9 · answered by monotonous_life7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow you are every 16 year old boys dream...getting a hot senior...lol... i am an 18 year old boy and i went out with a 16 year old girl...lol...we broke up after a short time because i am in college and i found her to be inmature..lol...
2007-02-28 00:12:59 · answer #10 · answered by hey_thanks_you_guys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋