I am really upset and worried?

Question

I Have a great boyfriend who treats me like a princess...we are best friends and we barely ever fight..he is the love of my life... and i know he cares and loves me very much....but sometimes, i dont know if he unintentionally disreguards me sometimes. he has a habit of going places, and not calling... and places like, work for instance....lets say he was only supposed to work until 9pm, and before you know it, its already midnite and i didnt hear from him yet... I call his work, and he's still there... OK SO WHY DOESNT HE CALL AND TELL ME THIS.... his family gets worried, i get worried, its like, can you pick up the damn phone and call to let me know your staying at work until midnite? why do i have to go nuts... does he do this on purpose? does he forget? i mean, our love is strong, and we have no serious problems, but when things like this happen, i get so frustrated and I DONT KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THE SITUATION...how should i? i tried talking to him, but maybe my wording isnt great.

do alot of guys do this with their gf's? ladies, what do you do? i need tips, bc this is the guy i am going to spend the rest of my life with, and we like to work out problems instead of running away from them... any helpful tips, i would really appreciate it! thank you!

He HAS a cell phone, and no we dont live together, but we have been dating for 2 years so its my right to know where he is and what time he gets off of work... im not demanding, but we're in a serious relationship and this is an understanding we have... he just called me now and i asked him why he didnt call ANYONE to let us know hes staying late, and he says he cant use the phone at work...normally, i would understand this,but with him, theres always an excuse for everything... do i just let this one pass again...or do i talk to him some more? he started getting mad bc i was yelling at him...well maybe i shouldnt have yelled, but damnit im frustrated its always like this and idk if its gonna change... guys suck.
its a cant live with em, cant live without em situtation.... also, what happens if talking just doesnt cut it? breaking up isnt an option, so HOW can i give him a taste of his own medicine and teach him a powerful lesson once and for all???

Answer 1

speaking as a single guy here. guys tend as a rule not to clock watch. if we are doing something that interests us we tend to let time fly by, one man minute = one real world hour on average. so try not to be too hard on your guy, but try telling him that it worries you when he does not call you to tell you he is going to be late. ask him to call you each and everytime he is asked to work late as soon as he asks he calls you as soon as he knows about it.
it may take him a few weeks to get used to doing that, but all being well if he loves you then this little change for the better is going to benefit both of you.
try telling him when he does not come home when you expect him to you automaticaly think the worst a car accident etc. tell him you have called around the hospitals to see if he was admitted. That should shock him in to realising how much you seem to care about him and as i said start to make him change his ways.
if he fails to change then either learn to live with the fact you are in love with a typical male or find a guy who will call not only to tell you that he will be late but he will also call just to hear the sound of your voice.

all you can do here is talk to each other about this and what you need from each other and come to a compromise that will work for the both of you.
you might like to get his boss involved, and ask him/her to remind your guy to call you should your guy need to work late.
but then working late can in some rare cases mean something completely different and could mean he is with someone else. but in your case it sounds like he is actually working late and has just be forgetful, thoughtless.

good luck i hope this resolves quickly.

Answer 2

First of all, do you live together, if not, I don't see why he has to call to say he is staying at work. Also, I DO THAT TO MY BOYFRIEND and he goes nuts wondering where am I, so it's normal (I guess) for this to happen. You must take into a count that he might need his own space, you know, don't leave him loose but give him the chance to go around, like when you walk your dog (no offense), you don't let him go, but you don't over control him either, in time he might learn that is not a good to do, and also, you must let him know how this makes you feel, and if he doesn't change you'll just have to learn to live with it, bc you love him and accept him the way he is.

Hope it helps

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Answer 3

As long as you know he is busy working, that shouldn't border you. My own experience is when I am caught up with a lot of work, the last thing I want to do is to pick up the phone and waste more time, knowing that I am already very lack of it.. Maybe you could call him instead of waiting if you are worried.

Answer 4

Train him to make QUICK calls. Thank him, tell him you love him, and get off the phone fast.

That will make him more inclined to call the next time.