Is this normal?

Question

Ok. I'm an 18 yrs old male who tends to relate and communicate better when interacting with members of the same sex (Males). On the contrary, i feel so nervous (shy) when interacting with girls and i can't even maintain a good eye contact. Is this normal? How do i overcome this weird behaviour?

Answer 1

Yes it is normal. That because you have been around boys a long time....

Maybe one day, you should ask girls to do you a favor...
ask them if they let you hang out with them alone for several
hours in a room.... And just be yourself.

Answer 2

Well it's ok... except I'm sure you would like to talk to the girlies. :]
I'm sorta the same way, but I've gotten better. I basically only have friends that are girls, but I can still talk to guys. I just get a little nervous because I worry that I won't have enough in common sometimes to carry a conversation. However I've been learning that's not true, I now have a few guys that confide in me and stuff so it's pretty chill. I think they like the fact that I'm sorta sensitive and I'm not just whimsy about their feelings. No worries, you'll get over your "girl shyness". In actuallity everyone is different so instead of looking at a girl as a girl, look at her as a person. See what topics you could be able to talk with her about. Because chances are, she may be dying to talk to you! But shy as well! So don't let the poor girl (person) feel blue, brighten her day with at least a simple smile and a sweet hello, then go from there. :]

Answer 3

Ah. An important topic for most guys, lol. Well, in my opinion, your situation is quite normal for a guy like you. Most guys ARE in fact more comfortable conversing with people of the same sex because its easier to relate 'guy stuff' to guys, isnt it? Its the same way with most girls as well, believe it or not. Like, take girls like me for example, most of us are shy around the opposite sex but we can all talk comfortably with each other about 'girl things' -- like guys and all that other stuff. As to overcoming this 'weird' behavior (although I do not really believe that it is at all that weird), I suggest that you actually get to know some girls. we are really not that bad. I know some guys who are like you, shy and nervous around girls. Dont worry about it. The more you hang out with girls, and the more female friends you have, your 'problem' will more than likely disappear on its own. Besides, there are many things that guys can talk to girls about. If you just stay away from gray areas and compliment them a lot and seem friendly, you shouldnt be so nervous because Im sure that they will like you. =D
-Cat.

Answer 4

Date more.

Answer 5

Does this behaviour occur around all girls or just the ones who you are interested in?

The reason I ask is....if you are like this around all girls I think it would be best if you find some ladies who have similar interests as you. Hang out with them doing the things you enjoy! That way you can see(somewhat) the inner workings of the female mind and hopefully be able to interact better with the ones you are attracted to!

I'm not horrible around guys I just find I get along alot easier when Im just chilling with them as opposed to being attracted to them.

Just be confident with who you are (not cocky) and everything will fall into place!

Answer 6

Its okay man, its normal, You communicate better with the same sex is because you don't have any interest in them to impress them. Around a female, epecially one you have interest in is going to put a little extra pressure on ya and its going to cause you to be a bit more shy. To overcome this behavior you just need to get used to be around the same sex a bit more, You'll get better at this just from doing it more, just like anything else.

Answer 7

us girls act better around girls too. of course u'll feel comfortable around the same sex because u dont try so hard to plz them. girls are also more critical of a person (some are). hey all u need to do is gain some self-confidence?

answer these about urself? do u think:

ur attractive in any way?
have a great spunky personality?
ur athletic?
fun to be around?
smart?
ur deserve respect?

if u answer positively to these answers, girls are sure to like u. remember get ur esteem up and be confident or girls will stray away. and no this behavior is not weird at all. be urself.

Answer 8

I don't see this as weird. You may just relate easier to males at this time of your life because you don't have much experience with females. If "normal" means usual and common, then it sounds normal for someone who is shy. Keep working at your social skills and you'll get better at it.

Answer 9

I think your doing just fine. I'm a 64 year old female and I have always been more comfortable around men than women.

As a general statement --- I have always found men easier to talk to because they are good listeners, do not make me feel like they are judging me, and seem more interested in the world around them than just themselves.

Women make me sweat because I feel they can't wait to chop me or others down to make themselves more important in the eyes of their bosses, especially if they are male.

I don't think it's weird behavior --- I think you do it out of self defense!!!

Answer 10

dude that is so normal. i do that and im hetero. it is like that for girls too. u just get along easier with guys cause there is no chance that u will go out with them or no reason to impress. u can mess up in front of guys, and have a good laugh about it, but if u do that to girls they'd stick with it and think ur wierd or would act accordingly on how you messed up.