Do you think that it's bad to put registry info in a Wedding invitation?

Question

I personally would prefer for someone to do that. It saves time on trying to find it out. According to ettiqute people they say it's a bad idea. What's your opinion?

Well, I'm not having a wedding shower.

I understand where you people are coming from on the no part, but I think that you are looking only at a very traditional wedding. In my case I have family all over the place, as does my fiance. We don't communicate alot so the word of mouth thing tends to fall apart. My parents aren't very involved in my wedding either. They just want to get it over with. I was thinking that registry information would be easier for my family. It's not saying that I expect gifts, but that if you want to get me something, this is what I need. I saves from getting me alot of things that I already have. My family is also very redneck and most of them do not have the internet, so the website is out of the question.

I understand where you people are coming from on the no part, but I think that you are looking only at a very traditional wedding. In my case I have family all over the place, as does my fiance. We don't communicate alot so the word of mouth thing tends to fall apart. My parents aren't very involved in my wedding either. They just want to get it over with. I was thinking that registry information would be easier for my family. It's not saying that I expect gifts, but that if you want to get me something, this is what I need. I saves from getting me alot of things that I already have. My family is also very redneck and most of them do not have the internet, so the website is out of the question.

Answer 1

of course you should put it in it would be too hard to ensure that ppl knew where to go by word of mouth it is easier for the registrant and the gift giver if the info is included go for it

Answer 2

i'm no longer partial to eloping and then having a reception yet that aside this looks like a foul concept. in the experience that your sister needs to host a toddler bathe for you, then she could desire to do it at yet all over returned. I accept as true with previous solutions that it will seem such as you're information superhighway hosting your very own toddler bathe, which might certainly be incorrect. If I gained an invitation like that i could think of it became right into a modern grab for the two wedding ceremony and toddler delivers. i could maximum possibly no longer attend. although, I possibly could deliver alongside a toddler present quicker or later, looking on how close i'm to that individual.

Answer 3

Sensible. Just make sure you include a reasonable range of items in it. For example, don't have only 82" plasma screen TVs... Also have individual mugs (nice ones), photo frames, etc. Small things for small amount of money.

People can buy several, or depending on their budget just one or two. If you include them in a registry then several people buying one or two will be a set anyway!

I've been to more weddings than I care to name, and 90% would have included a registry card. And guess what - sometimes I didn't even buy from the registry!

It just gives people a guide and sometimes is actually respectful to people. It's very hard to choose a good wedding present. At least they know you want what is on the registry.

Answer 4

I think its a sensible idea.

I mean, for people who want to buy you a gift, it saves them the headache of trying to figure out what to get you, and they automatically know they are getting you something you want/need, which means its definitely money well spent.

Besides, just because you put registry info in the invitation - it doesn't mean they HAVE to HAVE to get you whats in there, or even anything at all (of course if they come giftless, thats another etiquette issue all together)...

But yeah. I like the registry idea.

Besides if everything on the registry is all super-high priced way outta someones budget, its back to Plan A - get 'em whatever the heck you want.

We're celebrating the union of two people - anything making the process smooth is welcomed.

Answer 5

Just read your additional comment: I am editing to my post to try to help you.... when I got married last April, I planned my entire wedding, and I understand where you are coming from....

If your family (his and yours) is backward and would have no idea about etiquette then just put it on the invitation because I understand where you are coming from completely! Etiquette in truth is really just a standard.... you will not incur a fine or imprisonment. A neat way to do it is to put your registry on wedding channel.com, and then order their FREE registry enclosures... you can put one in each invitation and take care of informing them while at the same time "accomplishing" etiquette because your registry info will not be actually on the invitation. I bet this could be your solution... And by the way, when you register at a number of places, ie Bed Bath and Beyond, they list you on weddingchannel.com regardless if you want them to or not. Your guests can still go into the store to purchase a gift for you, but by being on weddingchannel.com you then can order those free registry cards from them... OR make them yourself. :)

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Registry information should never be listed on a wedding invitation (formal or informal) because the invitation is coming from the Bride’s family (or the Bride/Groom directly).

It is inappropriate for the Bride/Groom or a family member to ask for gifts. Listing registry information is indirectly asking.

Registry information is listed on invitations for pre-parties because these parties are hosted by a friend of the bride or groom…. This excludes the Engagement Party and Bridal Tea, which is thrown by the family, and gifts are not expected at either.

To find out where a couple is registered, ask others or go to the link below and enter name of couple. Usually, you will find at least one place the couple is registered.

I hope this helps explain why the registry info is not on the actual wedding invitation. These days most couples have a website, and trust me, the Bride will let get the word out - not to "get gifts" but usually because she has spent HOURS working on it, and she is very proud of it! :) This site will have everything you would need to know about the wedding to include registry info. The website's purpose is to be informative but not asking for anytign specific so this is completely etiquette... Remember, money is always appropriate to give if you don't have time to get a gift, but you should always give a wedding gift even if you gave a gift at a pre-party.

Answer 6

All of these responses are sad and seem to represent the degradation of the moral and value system in America. This me me me attitude is going to be the destruction of America.

Please do not make yourself look tacky and greedy by going against proper etiquette and inadvertantly implying that you you you want want want by "slipping" your open registries in your invitations.

Please listen to the woman above me, as her ideas are modern yet still conform to proper etiqutte.

I was actually invited to a wedding that had a LIST of gift registries on it and I purposely did not go or send a gift because of it.

Answer 7

Oh, please don't.

No polite person is going to tell you it's a good idea; polite folk will simply call or write you to get your registry information.

Weddings are not supposed to be gift grabs. You're not supposed to assume people will buy you gifts.

I am far from alone in skimping on, or entirely bypassing, presents when a person has outright asked for one. Including registry information _is_ asking.

It's supposed to be a happy surprise if somebody buys you a present. Announcing that you expect them ruins that.

Answer 8

No Misty Dawn. A lot of guests prefer it as it makes choosing a gift easier.
Would you believe people are starting to set up registries for their children's birthday parties???

Answer 9

If tastefully done 'If you want ideas of things the Happy couple can use please check registries at Bed & Bath and Wington's' sounds fine to me.
'Please only shop at Lord's and Ladies for gifts' is tacky.
Maybe a seperate enclosure and not have it printed on invitations. I have seen it neatly done on the back of a directional map enclosed.
Just today--no joke--today I had to contact a groom's mother and ask where to find the kids registered!! Takes time for me as guest and that poor woman--who said 'everybody' is calling for that info..... This day and age Miss Manners needs to get a grip with what we *need* and get off her nit picky horse.

Answer 10

No... it's not bad. It is done all the time and is very helpful to the gift giver. It is the thing to do nowadays. Just don't ask for money instead of gifts. That is very unettiquette.

Answer 11

If you really want to use Eric Cartman as a model I suppose it's fine... remember this one?

At lunch, the students who were invited to Cartman's party compare invitations and discover that they have each been instructed to buy a specific Mega Man action figure for Cartman

How tacky can you get! It was bad for Cartman and it's bad for you!