None of my friends are getting married and if me and my boyfriend do talk about it, its always in the future one day far, far away.
I'm 28 holy cow!
2007-02-27 15:44:10 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I FEEL THE SAME WAY ABOUT FEMALES ..BUT THEY WANT A MAN , WHO IS EITHER A DRUG ADDICT AND ABUSES THEM ..THEY DON'T WANT A DECENT GUY !
2007-02-27 15:48:32 · answer #1 · answered by Swm 39 4 Younger Swf Forever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm no expert but in my experience a man will talk about getting married when he's ready-and if you manage to steer him round before then, (or even get a yes if you ask), then you may well be heading for a fall later on down the line.
I'm not in my first marriage and I guess that truth be told when I married previously it wasn't for the right reasons-ie totally in love and just wanting to cement that publicly. When the right man decides he wants to marry you and proposes it will be a moment to remember-drifting into it because 'it's about time' or through a 'we've been together for ages so what do you think' type conversation is no way to go-trust me on this one!
Better to get married at 30+ (or even 40+) and get it right first time round than go through all the legal paperwork and heartache that comes with a divorce(or two).
My dad always took the view 'why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?' and I guess there are a few men(and women) out there who still subscribe to that way of thinking but on the whole I think it's just a case of being ready to (look away now here comes the 'C' word), commit.
When he's ready he'll suggest it-and if he doesn't and you end up going your seperate ways then it was for the that best you didn't walk up the aisle in the first place.
2007-02-27 20:53:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 29 and has lived with her partner for 9 years and they are so happy together.
Often when couples get married having lived together for so long you find that two or three years later they want a divorce.
As long as you are happy I cant see that getting married is an advantage.
I think that a marriage certificate should be renewable every 10 years. It would then give either partners the chance to get out but it would also perhaps make people try harder in their relationship.
2007-02-27 16:49:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jean D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty much the same for a lot of guys these days. It takes a good redeo girl to lasso him to get him to commit to a long term relationship, let alone going to get married. Men are always fearing that "L" word or falling into the marriage pit, as many put it. A lot of times, they don't realize how good they have it until the woman walks out on them then it's too late and they have to settle for something less. It's unfortunate, but I hear these stories all the time at wedding receptions. Those who do somehow get their guys to commit to marriage at a young age tend to divorce early on too. So being at 28, I don't think you need to panic yet. But it is closing in on your biological clock as many would say. If you don't live with him, see how he reacts when you are not around for a couple of days. Or change your habits where he would miss you more. Do things that he rely on with you and see if he can live properly if you weren't around. Guys sometimes needs to be placed in an environment where they need to snap out of it to realize what they truly are blessed with before it suddenly disappears.
Good luck =)
2007-02-27 15:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by indyhype 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatley men and women have different time lines. Women have their biological clock, which is ticking away silently in their twenties and starts to get louder in their thirties. By their late thirties the alarm bell is ringing pretty loud!
Men however, don't see the rush. And why should they? Life is good, they have fun with their girlfriends, sex without the responsibility of parenthood, companionship without the commitment of marriage ... so what is there in marriage for a man that he cannot have already WITH his freedom!
Unfortunately these two points of view will always clash. If you are hoping for children, however, then you are the one who has to dictate the terms of your relationship or find someone else who wants the same as you.
2007-02-27 20:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya Marie a.
I am 40 years old and have yet to find the right guy who is a real man, mature and responsible. Believe me, I am way above average in looks, body and personality and still not married. It seems to me that guys are becoming more immature and want absolutely NO responsibility. Why should they when the Internet offers so much cyber chat and sex? Television doesn't help either.
2007-02-27 16:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry babes, but us guys are getting wise to the fact that the law is totally biased towards the woman in divorce courts all over the world... we have learned to wait and make as good a choice as we can..
We have not gone off women, we are just being more cautious, we have seen friends destroyed by the courts when bad choices have been made...
I Hope you and your boyfriend are happy, and live long happy lives, but wouldn't you want him to be 100% sure???
And for the record 28 is not old at all, you have a few miles left in you yet... He He..
2007-02-27 20:34:42 · answer #7 · answered by John W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In today's life and the way we're living our lives, I think that marriage has lost its powers. The reason is that we are now living in apartments with our partners, we are raising our children with our partners, everything we do we do it with our partners etc...
We are doing nearly everything with our partners as if we are a married couple so I think that now everybody is saying that you don't need to get married to raise a family. Nowadays the marriage certificate is like a photo to be hanged on the wall in the living room with no importance at all.
We shall not forget either that the human beings are never satisfied with what they've got (both males and females) so when you want to change your partner you can do it with no problems at all.
Although I said all the above, I definately don't agree with it. I believe that we should marry only one person until death and not changing him/her as if he/she was a car. Btw not all men don't want to get married and many females don't want to get married too.
Hope this helps hun and Good Luck
2007-02-27 18:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says they want every thing but marriage my marriage was great till it went wrong, I would do it again but this time make sure i worked at it, we don't want everything except marriage most would like marriage but are frightened and at 28 you have plenty of time, so less of the Holy Cow! more of the Horny Heiffer
2007-02-27 15:50:10 · answer #9 · answered by decrepid1958 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it - when I was 28 none of my mates even had a girlfriend. We are all in our early 30's now and almost everyone is married/getting married.
It happens to us all.
Axl - your mother wasn't the Virgin Mary was she? Never touched a man's manhood indeed.
2007-02-27 16:15:25 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Kildare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think Its the marraige bit. I think most men just dont like the word COMMITMENT in general. They all really want to be one of the lads for as long as they can be. They forget that old age catches up on them eventually.
Hopefully as they mature and get to around 70 they will realise what they have lost out on lifes greatest thing LOVE AND COMPANIONSHIP
2007-02-27 20:22:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋