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Question

I am 18. I have a 5 year old baby brother. And my mom and dad. That's it. Just the 4 of us. I have a lot of worries...

1.I am scared time will tear me and my brother's relationship apart.
I am started college this year and I won't get to see him that much.

2. After college I am planning on going back to my country but my parents and my brother are staying here. What will I do there by myself without the people I love the most in my life?

3.What if I find my partner in college, will he be willing to move with me to a "strange" country, something he is not used to? Will he sacrifice such a big thing for me?

4.If I stay here (U.S.) than I am not happy even though I have my loved ones with me because I want to live there but if I live there I won't be happy because my loved one's are here so I'll be alone.

P.S.-I am not happy here because I feel like I don't fit in with the society like something is missing in my life here and I long for that life I had back there.

Answer 1

As far as your relationship with your baby brother is concerned, yes it will probably change some. I assume that you guys have a pretty strong relationship so as long as you call a lot and visit as much as you can, he'll know that he's a priority in your life even though you are away at college. Chances are that if he feels involved in your life he will be totally proud of his big sister being all grown-up. Koodos on going to college by the way!

I encourage you to return to you home country after college. Of course you will miss you family, but you will grow immensly. You will be required to think for yourself in a "new" enviornment. You will learn what you are made of and you will become stronger.

If your home counrty is not far, ie Mexico or Canada, you can always just hop a plane and be at your Mom's house in just hours. Or take a bus, whatever. Plus don't forget, we have phones nowadays, and e-mail too.

If you find yourself falling in love with Mr. Wonderful in college, be honest with him about your plans for the future. Don't just spring it on him two weeks before you fly out and give him this huge ultimatium or heart break to deal with. Give him time and talk about it together. Falling in love usually involves alot of talking about future plans and dreams. Maybe you two can come up with a comprimise if he's not ready for "forever" in a foreign country. Like maybe get married there and spend a year or two there to "feel it out" together. Who knows, maybe he'll love it and want to stay for life. That can all be worked out in the future, cross that bridge when you get there. But real love is stronger than border lines, it'll all work out.

You won't be all alone forever in your home country, you'll make new friends. You say "home country", so you must have some family there. Plus if you don't find Mr. Wonderful in college, maybe he's waiting for you in you home country.

Answer 2

whoa slow down first things first go to college don't worry about not being close to your brother I left when my brother was 3 and I still have a great relationship with him. He loves when we get to visit or talk on the phone he is 10 now. It will work out. Take a deep breath things change with time and you might feel differently by the time you finish school.

Answer 3

wow honey,

first of all I have a baby brother too and we are 14 years apart as well and our relationship is good! I moved far away from him and my mother but we talk and email and he comes to visit every summer and I visit him every Christmas. It just makes the time you do spend to together better. Just think of it this way, you wont have to be the mean big sister, you can be the one who spoils him lots and he cant wait to visit you again!

I too long for my life in a different place. I moved away from the only home i have ever known to a strange big city.
But that is what life is about, taking chances and learning new things about new people. It will only make you stronger in every way!

Dont worry too much about your plans they are just desires.... Live your life each day for that day and don worry to much about your plans because I can guarantee you only one thing your plans will fall apart, but sometimes its for the best honey you have to believe me when I tell you this.

In a few years this will all make sense to you.

Good luck and stay beautiful

Answer 4

U over thinking or worrying 2much now. If u don't like the country, move back home with ur family, I'm sure u'll find love there. (plus u probably just homesick) &as for the relationship with ur brother, the amount of effort u put in to make it work, is the amount u'll get out.

Answer 5

girl take one step at a time. don't worries about things that aren't there yet. live your life everyday. the connection you have with your family is something permanent that no matter where u will be it will stay the same. you are connected by blood. i am living alone now far from home. at first i was so lonely and miss my family but later on i realized this is the right time to prove to myself that i can be independent. that i can take care of myself. u learn to stand on ur own and i must say its a great feeling :)

Answer 6

Can't you go to college in your own country? That way you'll be around him more.

Answer 7

stop thinking