Did,nt God understand how much it would hurt so many people to lose such a beautiful young women with so much potential for service to Him and others.Now what? do we stop praying? Do we give give up on God? Do we try to make it alone? Others christain families boast about how God bless their child to go on to college get married to the right person and be sucessful.We obey God just like the other christains families.
2007-02-27 15:33:38 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
death and unforeseen circumstance befall good and bad alike.
2007-02-27 15:36:25 · answer #1 · answered by Tim 47 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I too am sorry to hear of your loss. I too experienced the death of my nearly 17 year old daughter this last December. I think grieving the loss and being able to be thankful for the time you had is helpful. This is a time you need the support of friends. Our friends have been a real blessing.
It is a faulty view that says people die because the person (or survivors) are being punished for sin. I don't know why my daughter died during what should have been a routine appendectomy. God may never reveal that, and I'm sure the answer wouldn't be just one reason. My daughter Rachel wanted to be a missionary and like your daughter had loads of potential.
For me it works better to reflect on the blessings of the nearly 17 years rather than think about how much I have been ripped off. I have family members who focus on the unfairness of it all and they seem to be stuck. Then again, King David often ranted against God as he saw the good die young and the ungodly live a prosperous life. God can handle it when you or I or anyone else gets mad at him. My only hope is God. My daughter is with Him forever and is in a place of no suffering. For her, December 8 was a great day. It was a day of great shock and sorrow for the rest of us - and both of those things are true.
God truely understands the pain of the loss of a child - since He had his son Jesus die. I have found some comfort in reading the book of Job and in reading stories like in John 13 of the man who was born blind. Jesus responded to those who wondered whether it was the kid's sin or the parents' sin that caused the blindness and Jesus said it was neither one. In Job I learn that God is truely good and even when life does not make sense He can be trusted. I would hope to have a faith like Job's who, after his 10 kids died in a roof collapse , responded by tearing his rope(a sign of grief), shaving his head, and worshipping God.
I believe that out of the loss of our daughters that God will reach people that he otherwise would not have reached and bring them (eventually) to their eternal home with him. God is also using this in my life and the wife of my wife, my 15 year old, and those around us. What is God doing with all this? I don't know, but I do trust God. To where else would I go (if not God)?
I found a book by Jerry Sittser called "A Grace Disguised" to be helpful. In 6 weeks we will go through the first birthday without Rachel. I will pray for God's healing in you life and mine and our families and friends.
Email me if you'd like.
2007-02-28 00:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by georgiagolfer72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't work the way we always want him to. I'm sorry you lost your daughter, but if she was a true Christian, then she is in Heaven, and Heaven is a much better place than this earth. Also, Your daughter was part of God's plan, and his purpose for your daughter has been and will be fulfilled. If you will find it in your heart to still love and have faith in God, then you will show how amazing God is, because only a true Christian could keep loving God and serving him and others after such a tragedy. Don't loose faith or hope, God hasn't given up on you or your family, he has a great plan for you and he wants you to find it. Just pray and read his word. And if you're wondering, I have lost dear friends too, and my family has dealt with hardships and illnesses, but we still have faith, God will let his light shine even through the darkest of situations. I will pray for you, God bless.
2007-02-27 23:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am SO sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. I have 2 teenagers and I cannot even imagine what it is to lose a child. However, I know one thing- as humans we cannot answer why these things happen. But PLEASE do not give up on God- He will be there for you as you grieve, and as hard as it is too see now, He will use this in your life one day for His glory. For those parents who boast about how God has blessed their child- you never know what may happen to them in the future- your daughter lived a short life, but who knows how many people she may have touched in that life. Do not stop praying- God has not abandoned you. He loves you and your family- DO NOT TRY TO MAKE IT ON YOUR OWN- God is drawing you closer to Him throughout this whole ordeal. Whatever comments you receive on this site, know that the Lord has his hand on you.
2007-02-28 01:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about your daughter.
Don't abandon God now at this point. He is the only one who can comfort you. He will help you deal with this. You need Him now more than ever. God does not love other Christians more than you. He sends rain on the just and the unjust alike. It doesn't seem fair. He is the only one who can give your daughter's life and death meaning and I believe He will. Hold fast to God. I am praying for you. And I wish I could say the right thing to comfort but I know God is the only one who knows what you are going through and that He will comfort you.
2007-02-27 23:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you lost your precious daughter. I can only imagine the pain that you and your family are living right now. Your daughter is with God now, so, no it is not a time to give up on God. You can either trust God and let Him soothe your pain or ignore Him and become bitter. I truly hope you chose to let God love you through your pain. Not all Christian families have everything go perfectly, many endure hardship and live through some terrible troubles. God didn't promise us an easy life, He promised to stay with us. Again, my deepest sympathies to you and may you grow in understanding of the grace and love of God.
2007-02-27 23:42:00 · answer #6 · answered by angel 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry for your lost! bad things can happen to good and bad people they are a test the lord test us to make us stronger, he may have needed her there he has a different plan for her. God is merciful and loves all his children you can be a family forever and you will see your daughter again! don't lose hope keep praying just know she is in a better place and god loves you he gave you this challege to build you up not bring you down! keep praying and stay strong do you think your daughter would want you to give up ?
2007-02-27 23:43:22 · answer #7 · answered by lisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you lost your daughter and I know it is hard for any of us to understand or even explain. It says in the bible that "our ways are not the Lords ways" or something like and meaning we don't see things or do things as God would do them. Thus being it is hard for us to understand what reason God has for taking another. In your situation consider this: You've prayed for her safety and well being, in doing so your telling God to do what He thinks is best. Because we live in a world that the devil is in control of he has the ability to do what he wants with us, if he decides to kill us off so be it but lets say that in your situation what the devil did to your daughter was best healed by bringing your daughter to Heaven, if she was saved that is, so thats what God did.
Another way to look at it is what if you lived in proverty and because of the way you lived chances for your daughters survival were slim to none. What if say someone came to you and said they could take your daughter and bring her to a place where her survival was garuanteed, her happiness would be forever and she would be suddenly in a place like no other and given every joy in the world....would you allow this person to take your daughter?
I have a daughter who has had open heart surgery 3 times and each time she goes in for surgery I have to prepare myself for her death...this isn't easy but we have to do this. Even though I would feel horrible without her with me, I would know she is in the best possible hands and her life is better than it ever was, she is healed, she no longer has this birth defect, she never has to go through the pain of surgery, the pain of children making fun of her, the pain of being different, the pain of having limits......I don't want her to die ever, I want her with me always but if she can't be with me I would prefer she would be with God because someday I will see her again.
Other christian families can boast about how blessed their child is but how much more your child is blessed then to be in paradise having conversations with everyone who has gone before her and of course having conversations with God. She's not sad that she's gone, she doesn't feel as though she has lost anything, she has peace we cannot understand here on earth.
Ok, now I also want to say that this website explains it better than I ever can and I hope you will check it out. I will keep you in my prayers for peace and understanding and may God bless you and take away your pain!
2007-02-28 00:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kellie~Baby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Death is the result of all of man kinds sin no matter what the cause. Please remember that God is not the cause of death. It may seem like others are blessed when you are not but everyone goes through hardships in this day and age. God gave us the hope of the resurrection and the chance to see those we lost to death again. You need to keep praying that you'll see her again in the resurrection and remember that God is not to blame and in the future he will change things to what was originally intended...no death sickness or pain...just life on earth in peaceful society.We need to wait on God happier days will come soon.
2007-02-27 23:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately our children still have free choice. You do not know that all that you taught your daughter did not come back to her in the last moments of her life. She may have called out to the Lord at the last moment, just because you have prayed for her. It was never in vain that you prayed and believed and wanted her delivered. Perhaps this was the only way to save her, to take her then, you must believe God had his reasons.
2007-02-27 23:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by Godb4me 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
He does understand it would hurt but it was allowed to happen. I still don't understand why I gave birth to a dead baby. DO NOT give up on God.. keep praying for comfort as I will for you. You will not be alone, you have family, friends, church members that will help you through this. i used to get mad when i saw infants after mine was taken away from me... after my divorce, i hated to see happy couples.... hated it.We are all blessed in ways we don't understand. We have horrible things happen to us and will never understand. Please just stay with God and he might give you the answer you need to know... WHY did this happen.
2007-02-27 23:46:32 · answer #11 · answered by pink9364 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋