Please tell me your story or just give some general advice on this topic.
Thank you.
2007-02-27 15:31:18 · 10 answers · asked by What gives? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I felt really perfect when he took me to downtown La Jolla to shop for clothes, shoes, jewelry, etc. Riding on his yacht, sunbathing, but he never placed any importance on the personall relationship, or my children.
He just treated me like one of his assets and (I told my friends jokingly like he had a file for me,) he didn't usually include my kids in his vacations. In fact, he didn't really interact with them at all, or me for that matter. I could sense his insecurities with people, he would rather command them around if they worked for him.
I had to say that he wasn't who I was looking for and even though he bought me many things, I offered to return them to him so that he could get his money back for them......he told me that the pleasure was all his and that he allready wrote it off as a business expense.
I'm not sure if he was telling the truth or not, but I just felt like money does not make right. Just because this guy could buy anyone didn't mean he had any qualities to making him a man.
On the other side, soon after that I met this really cute guy in the Navy that wanted just a pen pal when he was deployed......he ended up staying here for a while and I ended up giving him my "pager" number, if you remember what those were, then my phone number, then we dated, then he met my kids, and well, now we are married......He just had those personable qualities that make a gal like someone. He works hard for me and my kids, and we knew it was never going to be easy, but I truly do feel the committment from him, unlike I did the Mr. Rich guy.
I never settled, but it seemed like after I gave up that lifestyle I was more in tuned to what I really wanted in life, and that was a real man that had just himself to offer, and he has been so wonderful.
2007-02-27 15:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nobody's perfect and noboy should ever have to settle for anything less than what they truly want. As for the connection part, i believe that to a certain extent people make their own connections. If you're closed to the idea of making a connection then there will never be one and at the same time, some things ARE instantaneous. it depends on wether you want someone who is perfect and who you might need to work with on a relationship or someone who isn't right but who has an amazing connection. Personally i chose to work at it and i haven't regretted it a day in my life. I didn't have much of a connection with my partner when we first met but we stuck it out and now i can't imagine my life without him in it. I'm grateful for him every day and i'm glad i chose to work for what i wanted.
Good Luck.
2007-02-27 15:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, that's called "dating". I was totally blind to how one guy was actually treating me. Finally, all the lectures from family and friends kicked in and I felt like an idiot. Realized later I never loved him at all. Just didn't want to be alone. Now, I'm married to my true soul mate and I know what love is.
2007-02-27 15:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can they be 'perfect' when there is no real connection? Searching for love with your intellect isn't going to work. You may find a good business arrangement but you won't find love that way.
2007-02-27 15:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by megalomaniac 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it is shallow but yes. He was the best piece of eye candy I had ever layed me eyes upon but...............eventually I realized that looks aren't everything. I would rather have a average guy that I feeeeeeel something with than a guy that I have to force myself to feeeeeel something with.
2007-02-27 15:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by Dee Dee 24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. too tell you the truth i'm in a relationship like that right now....i feel he is perfect for me he treats me right and everything but it's like just not there. it's like one minute i love him and the next i find him really annouying which is bad but im still trying to make it work cuz i cant picture my life without him.
2007-02-27 15:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and it didn't work out
2007-02-27 15:34:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YUP, PRETTY BOYS THAT WERE BRAINDEAD! THANK GOD I'M NO LONGER IN MY 20'S!
2007-02-27 15:35:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. didn't work
2007-02-27 15:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by KID87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how could they be prefect then? I dont think they would be.
2007-02-27 15:34:05 · answer #10 · answered by john w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋