my boyfriend asked me to marry him about a month ago .. i want to get married in a year or two the most... now the problem !!!! he wants to get married in like 10 years!!!!!!!!! well not ten like 5 seems to me like 10 well how can i speed it up what should i do and how do i get him to change his mind or meet me halfways
2007-02-27 15:27:02 · 9 answers · asked by summer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First off, how old are you? Secondly, what are his reasons for waiting...money, school, things like that? Sit down with him and explain that a 5-year-engagement is a bit much to you, and that you would a. either prefer to remain his GF for a few more years, or b. see what you can do to move the date closer, whether it be helping save money or whatever else.
HTH
2007-02-27 15:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by Ames 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out why he wants to wait that long. The guy I dated before my husband wanted to wait 5-10 years to get married. The problem is: by that time, he'll be content with the way the relationship is and he still won't want to get married. Maybe he's not the one for you? I agree, and engagement to get married is just that: A date a year or less into the future and and engagement. An event that you're planning as the bride to be.
2007-02-27 23:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!! 10 years is a loong time from now. How old are you any ways? If you are in your early 20's I would suggest to wait a while to get married then. As for me I am in my mid-20's as well as my fiancee and we both agree to get married in a couple of years. I know what it is like to wait until that BIG DAY..."Your Wedding Day!" Also, I have been engaged for about 4 months now to this lovely guy. Maybe you should ask your fiancee, why he wants to wait that long?
2007-02-27 23:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by travel4christ1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting to wait more than 2 years to get married...But you need to ask him why he proposed to you if he wants to wait so long. It also depneds on your ages. Are ya'll in late teens, twenties, thirties. If ya'll are in mid-twenties or your thirties you should try to see why he wants to wait so long. Maybe he is getting cold feet...And that is a bad sign if he is this early. I could understand it if ya'll were still in high school or college...And if you two are then maybe it is a good thing that you wait more than two years. Communication needs to be built...You need to talk to him about the wedding maybe he is feeling insecure, maybe you should comfort him.
2007-02-28 00:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by djsbabygirl2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a commitment not only with both of you but with You, your husband and with GOD who initated marriage which is called a covenant.
Ask him if he is willing to be with you for better or for worst, in sickness and in health, in richness or for poorness till death you part? beacuse that is the marriage vow and if he says he does then it means he loves you..and if he loves you he will marry you at any cause as soon as possible.
Remember we wake up everyday with the risk of dying... make the most out of it for True Love's sake. Would you get married if one of you would die tomorrow?
2007-02-28 02:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by Saint777 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, girl, you aren't "officially" engaged unless you have a ring AND a date. I wouldn't be waiting five or ten years, especially if you have already been dating him for a while. If he doesn't get off the pot, time for you to split and move on.....
2007-02-28 10:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh, have you bothered talking to HIM about this?
Did he tell you why he wanted to wait five years?
Enjoy your engagement and save up for the wedding.
2007-02-28 08:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves you and wants you he just wants to do it in his own time my man was the same and then about 1 a year into it wants to get married with in the year ........
and congrats
2007-02-28 08:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by bandan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he loves you he wud marry u n the morning.he wouldnt need to wait that long.my fiance wud marry me n the morning but im trying to get it planned for august so i hav a little time to get everything organised.
2007-02-28 04:34:26 · answer #9 · answered by victoria 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋