Should i be jealous if my bf checks out other girls?

Question

ok well, my bf and i.... he says hes alright with it whenever i check out other guys, and sometimes he does get jealous, but then wenever he tells me that he thinks some grls hot (*we go to diff skools*) but he doesn't "want" them in that way and that he just thinks their hot/cute, i still cnt help but feel jealous each time he tells me this, but he tells me that the only one he wants is me....so since he lets me check out other guys should i just allow him to check out other grls? or should i not? i dnt want to seem like a bitchy gf, help! please and thank you!

ok well, my bf and i.... he says hes alright with it whenever i check out other guys, and sometimes he does get jealous, but then ever since i got with him the only guy that ive got all eyes on is him....but then wenever he tells me that he thinks some grls hot (*we go to diff skools*) but he doesn't "want" them in that way and that he just thinks their hot/cute, i still cnt help but feel jealous each time he tells me this, but he tells me that the only one he wants is me....so since he lets me check out other guys should i just allow him to check out other grls? or should i not? i dnt want to seem like a bitchy gf, help! please and thank you!

Answer 1

it's natural. if it bothers you, ask him to be discreet- the more you monitor him, the more ashamed he becomes and it lends to his keeping secrets AND if it's wrong, it becomes all the more desirable for him to do.

i've never cared if my man did because as the lame saying goes "i know who he's going home with tonight" and as my husband says "i may be married but i'm not dead"

let him do it, no biggie :) he's with YOU, not them, remember?

Answer 2

I guess he may be teasing you for fun (in a good way). Maybe he just want to see your jealous side for him to see how much you care for him.

As long as this doesn't go over your boundaries and hurt feelings between you and him. You can try to talk to him in a serious way that this really bothers you and that it makes you feel upset. If he respect & love you, he should be improve his behaviour so that he will not hurt your feelings again.

But if he still doesn't change, I don't think this boy is good enough for you~! coz he doesn't respect you at all. Anyone would get angry if your own lover thinks other people is better than you in some way, doesn't matter if it is only for the looks.

I'd never approve any boyfriend in checking out other girls... even though we all knew he will do it anyways. I'll just tell him that I'll check out guys just like the same way he checks out girls.

I just think that he really needs to show some respect to you. Hope this is helpful. Good luck~

Answer 3

The fact of life is, there will always be someone more/less attractive than you. And, especially for the guys, its hard not to stare or have a double take when that real attractive female walks by. Even when you are with your partner. It is completely normal! But I dont recommend this to be "regular" discussion. I would say it is unnecessary to point out or even discuss when you think someone else is hot. That, in my opinion, would break a relationship. But I think it is crucial to understand that when your bf sees a hot girl walking by and he looks up, its OK. Its human nature (as long as he is not drooling and running after her). So once that is accepted and there is a common understanding, there is no need to verbally communicate what is already known. As long as he finds you attractive and shows you that he loves you, then you two will be just fine!

Answer 4

Ok babe its like this, you can tell a guy what to think see or say, we are not robots. We are humans, and we react to certain things in certain ways, but doesnt always mean we mean him. It sounds like you have trust issues with the opposite sex and thats ok, because you love this guy so much that you dont want to lose him. Im sure he feels the same way, there no way to predict how a guy feels and thinks all the time. But out of courtesy and respect he should keep those hot and cute comments to himself if he knows how you feel about them. As Im sure you can understand when you see a cute guy what he might think when you say stuf like that. Just remember theres a difference from fantasy and reality. The reality is tha he is with you and thats the TRUTH, the fantasy part of it is whether hes hot or not, hes not always going to get any hot piece of *** he checks out. So in that sense he should be greatful to have a woman like you and not take that relationship for granted when he makes those types of comments, but thats just my opinion, as a guy i can understand how easy it is to slip and get caught saying something stupid, so just cut him a little bit of slack and remember the reality part and not worry about the fantasy.

Answer 5

The Male mind and the Female mind are very different. Women respond to different stimuli than men. One of these stimuli for Men is a visual stimulis. Guys can't help looking at an attractive woman, it's buried deep in our subconcscience. Don't be jealous, as long as the policy is "Look but don't touch."

Answer 6

Its really your opinion. My friend's boyfriend used to check out girls all the time, and just cause he finds the girl attractive doesn't mean he finds you any less attractive for the most part. Checking out other girls is perfectly normal for most dating guys. Even husbands check out other women from their wives

Its really only a huge issue if it gets to the point where he is hitting on them.

Answer 7

Everyone gets attracted to other people when there in a relationship. It seems to be healthy because you two share that you get jealous... but your not hiding it. As long as your guy is keeping his hands to himself im sure a head turn once in a while is ok.. if it gets annoying do something to get his attention back on you, squeeze his hand, kiss his cheak... Its normal to be jealous but its not that big of a deal.

Answer 8

Of course you should feel jealous. You won't be judged,after all which girl in her right mind will allow this? Well maybe you should talk it over with him. It's not worth to spoil a special relationship because of some external people. Good luck! (:

Answer 9

If he goes out of his way to tell you that some chick is hot they yes he trying to make you jealous, then dump his a**. But if he doesn't do that then just let it be, after all girls are everywhere and guys are everywhere. But don't go out of your way to make him jealous, that's just playing games and you both don't need that if it's a serious relationship.

Answer 10

He doesnt in basic terms look into in basic terms huge boobs.. He exams out any boobs that come into his sight. adult men are in basic terms a touch greater glaring with reference to the huge ones because of fact they stare for an prolonged time lol. Dont be jealous, he's going abode with you later.. top? no longer her.

Answer 11

Eyes are for seeing and appreciating. As long as one has the gift of sight, one won't cease to appreciate beauty in whatever form. It is every person's right. No one can take this away. As long as your boyfriend just looks, there is no cause for alarm. When desire comes in, then you need to sit up and take notice.