Okay, i have had a major crush on this guy for about 4 months.. And my parents hate him, my brother hates him, and my best friend hates him. But he does things that make me wonder if maybe i love him. And I don't want to, because he tells people bad things about me, behind my back.. Like, "i don't care about Brit, i just care about getting her into bed with me" Someone plz help me... I'm gonna have a serious nervous break down! (if you want to know more about the guy, Plz read the other questions i have posted. There all about him) What i'm trying to ask is, How do i get over him? whats stopping me?
2007-02-27 15:13:23 · 15 answers · asked by Britt 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What's stopping you, is you. People choose the sort of relationships they want in their life. You simply need to choose to get this guy out of your life. Don't be fooled. Those things he does to make you think you love him, that's the game. The truth is what he says when you're NOT there.
Seriously, this guy sounds like a bad drug. You love it when you're on it but the coming down's really bad. You just need to choose not to be addicted anymore. The only person who can help you now is you. If you really don't want him in your life, stop thinking about him, talking about him, looking at him, talking to him. There are really nice, attractive guys out there who know how to treat a girl right and who're just waiting for you to come along. Don't get jaded and have your heart broken by this jerk before you know what else is out there. There are better options.
Good luck and i hope you make the right choice for you.
2007-02-27 15:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, I seriously don't think he's the right guy for you. I know maybe you don't want to hear it, but it's the naked truth, girl! If he's saying stupid things behind your back, especially that HORRIFYING quote about how he wants to get into bed with you, you would be much better off without him, sweetie. I would say just find a much nicer guy out there who cares about you. It will be hard to get over him at first, but if three important people in your life hate him, there must be something wrong with the picture. You will get over him over time, especially if you find a new guy to like. So just open up your eyes more around school, and see what kind of guys are out there. Love is blind, and that means when you love someone usually you don't see any misperfections to them, even though there might be much more than you or anyone else expected. If you really love him, go talk to him and ask him if he truly loves you and cares about you, or if he just wants to get into bed with you. One more thing: don't listen to what people say, unless they're really close to you, because they might be lying. For example, the person that told you that your guy said that about you behind your back. What if the person is just jealous, and wants you to hate him? Just throwing out all the possibilities here.....Good luck.
2007-02-27 23:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happy,
This guy isn't worth your time! Maybe if you felt better about yourself you would turn your back on a guy who treats you the way you said! You're better than that!
It "tells" you something when those close to you dont like him, so your GUT should be telling you to walk away!
There are better guys out there, don't settle for 1 who is a loser when there are many who want a relationship.
You need to get out more! That's how to get over this "backstabbing" guy you're hung up on!
get interested in meeting other guys! you will see!
good luck on this!
2007-02-27 23:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not state the things he does that make you think you maybe love him BUT what really bothers me is how he totally disrespects you to others-confront him and if its true then do not see him-if youre involved physically then you are mistaken physical stuff for emotional and love goes way beyond that but love has requirements and one is respect. Stop seeing him an you'll find everyday its easier to NOT love him-if this is hiw he talks about you now,if its so can you imagine how he'll treat youBe smart-move on without him
2007-02-27 23:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confusion between love and lust. Love does not harm (like telling people bad things behind your back). If you are under 18, please get some help before you have a nervous breakdown. And if you are over 18, same advise. As you probably suspect, this is not healthy for you. It's OK to seek help. We all need it sometime.
2007-02-27 23:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Over The Rainbow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fear of being alone is incredible. Find something to fill the time you would spend with him. Take up a new hobby. Make sure you don't have time to miss him. Anyone who would say they just want in your bed can't be good for you. Surround yourself with all the positive people you can find. You must love yourself. Don't let his foul attitude rob you of yourself esteem.
2007-02-27 23:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by mildred d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, let me get this straight. You would rather your parents, brothers, and friends all got mad at you for a guy you say tells untruths about you and is ruining your reputation? If you want to be that hard-headed and risk your other relationships, just so they can all say "Well, we told you so" after this guy uses you and moves on to the next victim, then by all means go for it. Just don't go crying to anyone after it happens.
2007-02-27 23:24:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR SELF-ESTEEM.
All the ladies on Yahoo Answers will give you support honey....
YOU ARE WORTH MORE THAN THIS!! it's that simple.
I don't curse anymore but when i used to back in the day my sis would tell me:
Mother made him Mother **** him!
And I don't want to hear about this person {cuz he's not a man} again!!
Finito
2007-02-27 23:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your family, they hate him for a good reason. All he cares is about getting you into bed? What a jerk. Think about someone else.
2007-02-27 23:19:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You like bad boys. That's why.
Now take a step back and read this post to yourself. He treats you like crap! Everyone can see it! You deserve someone sooooo much better.
Now start looking at guys who treat you nicely and are attractive. Start paying attention to them instead.
2007-02-27 23:17:26 · answer #10 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋