I don't know if i'm overreacting.But lately I want to choke my bf.
there's just some things he does that make me want to say "It's Over!" but then I think about it and I really dont kno what I's do w/o him. He mocks me and I don't kno if he does it on purpose but it hurts, and i've told him, but he does it a lot, or he criticizes me on certain things I do. Also, he gets really uncomfortable when I want to go out with my friends,without him.He doesnt stop me, or prohibit me from doing so, and I still go but I can tell he's not to happy about it, and sometimes he makes me feel guilty about it.I dont kno what to do...help? Maybe I'm just overreacting.
2007-02-27 15:12:03 · 20 answers · asked by lizm570 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you should break up with him because any guy that treats you like that doesn't really care about you as much as he says that he does. That is my advice, but it is really up to you.
2007-02-27 15:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by sunshineangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not overreacting!!! You know what you like and dislike and your doing the right thing buy communicating him and letting him know that when he mocks you, you dont like it. If you want to go out with your friends he should respect that, you shouldnt have to hide things from him if you love him, you shouldnt have to hide just to go out with your friends. Your only hurting yourself if you let this dram. I had a friend that had a girlfriend for over 8 years, they broke up because he knew he only was with her to be close to his family which he never had a close family of his own. So after realizing this he broke up with her and now he feels more free. You shouldnt feel trapped with someone you hate because no one is worth your time if they cant make you feel special or happy. It may be hard at first to be on your own, but maybe youll realize that youll find someone else thats more special then him or after time he will realize he lost the best thing woman in the world for being an idiot. Make the change to see what will come out of it then adjust your decisions based on the outcome, give it a try its better to find out now then to say what if and never know.
2007-02-27 23:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jimsenite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's never good to stay in a relationship where you get criticized or made fun of. I think you need to sit down with him and tell him that you have seriously had enough of his criticism and if he continues to make you feel this way, you will have to end the relationship. If he has a problem with you hanging out with your friends then set aside time twice a week to go out with your friends and make sure your b/f is aware of this. If your friends include others guys then you should let your b/f hang out with you guys to see that there is nothing going on. Good luck!
2007-02-27 23:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by Karma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no youre not over reacting.That sounds like the beginng of a controling relationship.Sit down and talk to him.Ive learned that communication is the best thing to have ina relationship.When they look in your eyes and see how serious you are about a certain thing they look at it differently.Dis you ever ask him if he wanted to go out iwth you?Maybe hes jeolous.But even so if you do stay with hm NEVER let it start where a man is controlling your every move.Just reassure him that you love him and you want it to work but theres just a few changes that need to be made and if he really loved you hed listen and act!!
2007-02-27 23:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing gets fixed without talking about it. I'm not sure how old you are or how long you two have been dating, so I can't really give you specifics on what you could do. A lot of couples will go on a break if they can't get their partner to get on board with them on working out problems, heck I've known a few girls who have even broken up with their bf and then when he came begging take him back and their happier than ever.
Maybe if you make it clear just what he'll lose if he doesn't fix these problems he'll stop doing them or at least take steps to fixing them.
2007-02-27 23:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by Advice4U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a guy who treat you like a princes. All jokes aside. you need a guy who will make you feel happy and will Love you. I dont see what he really is like but is he the kind of guy that you will want to live the rest of you life with? The kind of guy that you will want to follow in marriage? If you say no to these questions, you should not be wasting you time. another impotent one is, does he love you like Christ love the church? think about these and the YOU are the one that need to decide.
2007-02-27 23:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Thehelper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummmm...no. You're not over reacting. Sounds like he's got a little growing up to do. He obviously doesn't like himself too much. Miserable people usually have to bring the world around them down. You may not realize it, but overtime, he's put downs are going to wear your self esteem down. If you've already spoken to him about it and he hasn't changed...chances are, he won't change. You already have your answer...unless of course you agree with his comments?
2007-02-27 23:19:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, throw that smelly fish back in the sea. There's many more where he came from and one that will love and respect you the way you are. I know, I found one 32 years ago.
2007-02-27 23:16:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf need to grow uo and stop being childishly abused is abused and if it hurt it wrong Dont put up with it and if you want to go out you should that part of life and your bf may be a control freak so becareful
2007-02-27 23:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not overreeacting tell hi how you feel about it. And if that doesent work then, break up unless you want to lve a life that you cant do anything.
2007-02-27 23:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by Sid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋