In the beginning, he spent every possible moment he could with me. Gradually he'd start giving lame excuses to downright lying as to why he couldn't spend time with me. Knowing this, I'd ***** and cry to him especially when he'd fail to show at all. I feel his B.S. was totally disrespectful. Finally, we both discussed our relationship and I'd asked him what it was that made him fall out of love with me (which I doubt he ever loved me, he just used me) and he explained the reason was because I bitched too much. How can he say this when he clearly lied or wouldn't show as he promised? I believe my bitching is a lame excuse he gave for falling out of love. What do you think?
2007-02-27 15:11:12 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WHEN PPL GIVE STUPID REASONS FOR BREAKIN UP ITS USUALLY NOT EVEN THE REAL REASON.
MEN ALSO CANT DEAL WIV WOMEN MOANING & CRYING NOT SAYING THAT U DID, BUT MAYBE HE FELT HE WASNT GETTING TIME FOR HIS FRIENDS? HE SOUNDS LAME ANYWAY CUZ HE SHOULD'VE JUST EXPLAINED THE THING TO U. HOPE UR ALRITE
2007-02-27 15:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by tupac4evaa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you both started off well then things went wrong it is no use upsetting yourself when things went wrong it was because you were not well suited,he was finding something to much he blamed ' your as he said bitching ',that could of course been just an excuse ,perhaps he was frightened by how fast things were going or just had second thoughts ,who knows but the main thing is once someone wants out of a relationship let them go you never get them back by being clingy. Just make sure you look after yourself next time take it slowly . Good luck sweetheart we have all been there at some time x
2007-03-03 23:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by lucy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The more someone bitchs the farther you push someone away. You have to figure out different ways to talk about your problems in a cool way. If your reasonable then he can't give a lame excuse and blame things on you. Things must be deeper than that. But he will never give you the time of day if your hot headed. Trust me I know how upset one can get when it seems like the other one doesn't care.
Try a different approach if it isn't working one way.
2007-02-27 15:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Spending every possible moment with your partner in the beginning is a definite relationship-killer. My guess is that you got tired of him coming around so much,taking away any free time to yourself that you had left. It is a natural reaction to feel smothered.
Now, I cannot say whether or not you encouraged him to spend all this time with you, or whether it was solely his idea. My guess would be a little of both. Regardless, the problem was the same here.
He should have come right out and tell you that he needs his space, that he feels oberwhelmed, but he probably didn't because of how you would react. So, he chickened out here instead of confronting you.
But, when you confronted him, he told you one of the things that bothers him about you, but I don't get the sense that you are too receptive to hearing anything resembling the truth about yourself.
But you will have to listen to what he has to say and think about how you got to be where you are now.
2007-02-27 15:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that there are more reasons, and there is more to his story, but he's not telling you. It's practically impossible for a person to only have one simple reason, there must be some story behind it all. Ask him again, and tell him to tell you the whole truth, or at least elaborate more on how you bitching made him fall out of love. I'm sure he still cares about you, so he will tell you the truth as long as you're ready to hear it.
2007-02-27 15:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by julia 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well he might be right or you might be right . it is 50 - 50 . actually understand this ... you have the right to love someone but no claim on his love ... and anyone is free to fall out of love anytime without ascribing a reason ..... love plays tricks on the mind . it is like watching a movie , you love what is on the screen and when you are close to it you realise that the screen is not the movie it is just a piece of cloth and it was youer imagination which transposed your thoughts of your perfect mate on the nearest available male / female . breakup and disillusionment is a part of love as much as the boot is a part of the car . some cars dont have it some do ... move on ... btw i was given breakup message by my gf last week by sms so consider urself lucky that he at least spoke to you verbally . good luck and chin up !!!
2007-02-27 15:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by atmaram 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a totally lame excuse. But bitching or being a ***** will turn some one off...real quick!
2007-02-27 15:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You think your excuse is bas. I can beat that, My b/f said he didnt want to be with me anymore because I loved him to much??/ and he only wanted a casual relationship. This comin from a man I have just spent the past three and a half years with. I dont understand them . You either dont love and care for them enough or you care to much.
AND THEY SAY WOMEN ARE DIFFICULT TO LIVE WITH
2007-02-27 20:25:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right about the never and using. Remember this with your next relationship. If he is serious about you the things he wants will Wait, if he just wants to be a sperm donor he will be very pushy and demanding. Keep a clear head and choose your friends wisely
2007-02-27 15:18:52 · answer #9 · answered by Dalton K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the solution is that you have to,just have to ease out. being agitated and mad at him and asking/pleading him to tell you why he doesn't love you? -ain't gonna work. for heaven's sake you cant push love or rush love or make some one love you.
keep being your beautiful self and leave it at that. get busy with something else and when your focus ain't on all these issues you will soon find out that some one is in love with you. but don't go demanding it. that just never works. just cut out all the drama from your life. you will be more at peace and you may never know if there is some one else who will come along giving you everything you need emotionally. so break up if you have to but suffering and crying just SHOULDN'T be an option ! you have to make certain choices soon ,for you to be happier in the near future....
2007-02-27 15:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by spin spin sunshine 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say it, but you are kind of bitching about him NOW. For breaking up with you lamely. You won't get anything out of this, its over so let it go, instead of publicly bitching about him to complete strangers (like me).
2007-03-05 01:57:04 · answer #11 · answered by Insomnia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋