I feel extremely unhappy with how my life is...?

Question

I don't know where to begin as to how to change it... I feel like I am in a complete rut, and things just never go my way. I have no one to talk to about my problems and i feel so lost. I thought my life would be better in my twenties, than in my teenage years, but it is actually worst. How does one make the first step to changing things in their life, when they have so many things holding them down?

Answer 1

I can also very much relate to this question. Finding meaning and change in life is the journey we travel in life. Its a life long trip. I, personally, found my life to be very empty at a young age(about 14 years old) after doing all the wild things teenagers do. When I began to read the Bible, I found in it hope and a meaning for living, and a person whom I could walk through life with regardless of my many hangups. Today, at 43years old, I still have my struggles with what life is all about....but I have found in my relationship wihth Jesus Christ, a hope and reason to live and pursue life with all I have. Also, becoming a part of a dynamic church family has given me people to talk with about my many life matters, and hangups, and desires for change. Becoming a part of community, as in a church, I believe will open a world of life that you would never imagine could have come true. I can only encourage you to consider beginning a relationship with Jesus, and finding a dynamic relationship with God as given to us in the Bible, and to join a loving church family. Then, I would like to hear if you still feel so lost after having joined the journey of faith in Christ and a committment to a healthy loving church family. Hope that helps. I will pray for Father God to help you through this difficult passage of you life. We all must go through this many times in our life here. Blessings to you!

Answer 2

Changing your life - at least the day-to-day activities, your surroundings, your job - are all easy. What is not easy is figuring out what changes are going to make you happy, and revving up your outlook on life. As others have pointed out here, depression seems to be part of the problem. So, that's one place to start.

Treating the depression may be as simple as visiting the doc to get a prescription for an antidepressant, or maybe counseling is also needed. Exercise often makes a big difference in battleing depression, so maybe start walking every day at a park, or join a fitness club, spinning class, or aerobics class. Meet some new friends. Go out at night. Join social clubs, or volunteer. Do anything you want, but don't spend another day in a crappy lifestyle you can walk away from any time you want. -- All right - easier said than done, but you get the point.

Do whatever it takes to get on track. Think about the things you enjoy, and make those the center of your life. If you are living in a town you don't like, or all your close friends are somewhere else - move. If you job sucks find a different job. Your life won't magically get better - you have to make it happen.

Answer 3

I can totally relate to you...So I'm probably not the best person to give advice...but here it goes!

Try to figure out what exactly you don't like about your life and actually write them down on a piece of paper.
Once you have your list set up, take one answer at a time and analyze it: Is it really as bad as you think? What makes you think that? Is it society? What can you do to make it better? Can you go see a educational/ job/ fitness counselor? Once you know where to get the help, all you really need to say to that person is " I'm here and this is where I want to be...get me there".
Remember, deal with one issue at a time, Rome was not built in a day.

A little trick that you can do is to put 20 paper clips in your left pocket...and during the day, whenever you think of something bad about yourself or your life, take a paper clip and put it in your right pocket...At the end of the day count how many paper clips are in each pockets. Repeat this exercise for a few days until you notice that there are more paper clips in your left pocket than in the right one! The idea behind this is that you become aware of what you are saying.

Take another paper, and write things that are good about your life. They can be simple things but they still count!!! You can even ask your friends (family) you really trust what they like about you.

Make sure whatever changes you do, you do for yourself!
Good luck!!

Answer 4

Don't look at it like your being held down, even if you are technically financially, emotionally, and maybe sometimes physically held down.
You can control your mental perspective. Keep it optimistic and hopeful. Try to move on from the past and refocus not on how hard you life was or is now, but on how much you have accomplished, what you are good at, what your dreams are (no matter how weird or out there they may be), who you love, who loves you, what you can count on everyday to make you smile (ex: sunshine, dog, etc.), and set it into your brain that you want change. Do it for yourself, and really convert yourself from the inside out.
Don't get bogged down on the specifics. That is just too depressing to list. Instead, tackle one at a time, build your confidence, and slowly but surely change.

Answer 5

Talk to your friend. Even if they dont listen, just talk and spill everything. do whatever! it'll make you feel relieved because you're letting everything out.
* If you're angry, sad, anything at all, go somewhere and yell at the top of your lungs. go the the park in the EARLY morning and just scream!!!! yell everything you want to. it works. You can exercise too. with all the emotions stirring, you can also exercise your butt off and lose weight at the same time too.
*Even if you're sad, smile for everyone around you. Think about how good life is. At least you're still in it right? Tbere's so many people out there that are wayyyyy more unlucky than you, so cheer up and try to be a happy person. A lot of times, i'm pissed off and sad, but i smile for my friends because i know they care and they dont want to see me down. Do the same. For your family, for your friends, for everyone. You have more freedom now. Control it and make the most out of it.

Answer 6

Well, this is just my own way of thinking,but I'm a firm believer in people making their own destiny. I guess, I believe that the only one who can really hold you back is yourself.I don't want you to take this the wrong way,because I don't know you , or know anything about your situation. I'm just trying to give you a few words of encouragement. Don't get down on yourself,instead try to look inside yourself ,and find the positives in you!

Answer 7

lol...Fiona reminds me of Shrek. XD. sorry about that, but you sound a bit depressed there. if you don't wanna go to counseling, you should find a partner =] not a soul mate in general. just someone to hang out with on your free time. go shopping let stress go and just try and feel free for once. i know life is hard, but its good to dream once in a while isn't it? well if this doesn't help i hope you get professional help. after all I'm only a guy that likes to eat chicken =]

Answer 8

Get some help, any kind of help! Start with your family practitioner and ask for a referral, if you can't afford that apply for medicaid and then ask for a referral through medicaid, if things are really bad, find out which of your hospitals takes patients with no insurance and check yourself in for a short stay

Answer 9

You've got to seek some counseling. Call your county's health office and see about low cost counseling.

Things aren't going to get better until you talk about our problems with a professional.

The good news is that things CAN get better. Don't give up.

Answer 10

i comprehend what you advise to an quantity, yet to be truthful, i've got consistently been especially even-keeled. It takes lots to get me chuffed (in a manic, excited experience), and a minimum of as lots to make me fairly lose my cool. i comprehend what it feels desire to have factors of my existence produce inconsistent thoughts in me, however, to be chuffed approximately specific issues whilst being depressed or nerve-racking approximately others. it could actually bypass away you feeling...torn. the wonderful i've got chanced on i can do in such circumstances is in basic terms attempt to take the potential I get carry of from the beneficial areas of my existence and channel it into engaged on convalescing the unfavorable areas. that's an argument of concentration, fairly.