i am married, own and run a successfull buisness, and want to have a baby. my parents have told me that i am too young and it will ruin my life. should i listen to them or follow my heart and have a baby?
2007-02-27 15:01:21 · 27 answers · asked by cat t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ALL things are best done young -- business success, playing around, raising a family. One has to make tradeoffs. I didn't make the right ones, and I'll never have children.
Be aware that having kids is a HUGE sacrifice, and then if you want to do it anyway, go for it.
2007-02-27 15:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. You are not to young and it will not ruin your life. It will only inhance it. Just remember you will have to find child care or to take time off to take care of the baby. If you are ready for that go for it. I was 22 when I had my daughter. If I had listen to my parents I would never of had kids. I now have three and have a sucessful business. So dont let anyone else ruin your life, listen to what they say and make up your own mind.
2007-02-27 23:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by janine b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gave birth to my daughter nearly a year ago and i am about to turn 24, i didn't really mature until i had Ella to look after. She was the best thing that ever happened to me. However when you decide whether it is right time to have a baby your parents do not come into the equation, you need to discuss with your partner whether he feels he is ready and work out the logistics of how you are going to keep your business running with a new baby, they are a lot of hard work but they are worth it. I hope you make the decision that is right for you and your partner not that is right for your parents.
2007-02-27 23:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by renygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very responsible, and it looks like you what your doing. I am oging to tell you that you will miss i a bit of work for labour, and then you'll want to stay and take carre of your baby, so that will take slow you down from going to work. If you feel that you can do it and you work can be put on hold, then have a baby. Its your life not your parents, they can be right here and there but over all i say maybe wait a little bit and then have one. Your on a roll and it looks like your starting a fantastic life for your self, so maybe wait a bit. But still follow your heart, not what i say, not what others say and not what your parents say. Good luck!
2007-02-27 23:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a kid is rough. You have to make sure you are truly ready. You will have to make a lot of sacrifices. It sounds like you are financially stable and your married so your baby would have a real family. If you want a baby and are sure you can make the sacrafices and deal with that changes having a baby will bring than go for it. Just make sure your truly ready! I am 22 and I have 3! I started having mine at 18. It's been rough and I wish i had waited. But you sound ready.
2007-02-27 23:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by dmstanley02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it's your life. If you and your hubby want to have a baby then by all means have one. Just make sure you can work it around your business because that little babe will be the most important thing you will ever do. As for your parents, ask them if their having you ruined their life? Besides, once that babe gets here they will become twitter-pated, just like I did with the birth of all 3 of my beautiful grandchildren. That's why they are called "grand!" God bless you!
2007-02-27 23:08:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart.
Just learn about what you want to get into.
Maybe pretend like you have baby and set aside the money it would cost if you just found out you were pregnat and wait a year and for the next year save.
So when you do have one you wont have to worrie about money or youll know you arent ready!
GOOD LUCK!
You are 22 and married they can only tell you how they feel! (not what to do)
2007-02-27 23:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by SARAH D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first baby when I was 21, my second one came 2 yrs later. 22 is not too young to have a baby
It is your life and not your parents. Your parents are not going to raise raise your baby, you are, so dont let them tell you what to do.
If you feel you are ready then go for it! Dont let anybody stop you.
2007-02-27 23:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by Nace 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow yr heart. use yr youth 2 yr advantage. u can grow w/the child as well but remember it will take alot of work raising a child & will take alot of yr free & spare time. make sure u r completely ready 4 parenthood. hang out w/young parents. spend a day babysitting. a whole 24-48hours will let u know if u r ready 2 swing the parent thing... BEST WISHES!!!
2007-02-27 23:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. San 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first at 24 which I thought was good - as long as you are mature enough to be realistic - changes babies instantly make to your lives and the demands of time they take, any age over 21 is good! Just make sure you want a baby for all the RIGHT reasons!
2007-02-28 00:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋