My sister-in- law is going with us on a sea cruise in the next coming months. Well she has been up and down if she is going or not, since all she does is fight with her boyfriend and it is really draining me with negative enegry. I am tired of hearing that he is going or not going on this trip. Then she does not return calls so I can get a final answer. What should I do? I am tired of dealing with an unbalanced sister in law.
2007-02-27 15:00:01 · 13 answers · asked by karen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Goodness I hate sister in laws! They can be so annoying but at the same time you can not ignore them. It is obvious she has problems with her boyfriend and it is affecting your relationship with her. I think that you should call again or email her and ask if everything is okay and from there I would just relax. She probably does not call you back because she is now getting along with her boyfriend. Keep your distance from her and if she needs someone to talk to listen to her sob story but don't make it a mission to solve her disfunctional relationship.
2007-02-27 15:08:41 · answer #1 · answered by ms_knowit_all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister in laws are difficult. They aren't a proper sister so you can't tell them to grow up and they're closer than a normal relative so you can't ignore them.
I think you should ask your husband to speak to her an stop stressing. This isn't just your problem. I think that if you want to go on a cruise, then book it for you and your husband. Give your husband the telephone number of the cruise so he can tell his sister that when she makes up her mind, she can book her own single, or double tickets. Failing that, buy the tickets and get the money off her if she doesn't come. Isn't a cruise meant to be a holiday?? Enjoy it! Look forward to it instead of all the stress. Tell your husband to give her a deadline and if you don't have an answer by then, you're going without her. If she's silly enough to miss out on a cruise because of a guy, then more fool her. Go and get a massage, go out for a coffee with the girls and forget about it. Make your own plans and if they don't suit her, then thats too bad.
Good luck and enjoy your cruise!!!
2007-02-27 23:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would personally tell her she has to make up her min and set a date and time. If by some chance she has not told you a definite answer, make up her mind and do not let her go. Then maybe in the future she will know you mean business and will stop using things like a trip over everyones head (if that is what she is doing).
My mother was doing the same thing on whether or not she would babysit my kids so i can go back to work. After 2 weeks or yes she will, no she wont....I told her I will put them in daycare if I have to, that she was not going to watch them for me. She got over it, and I have stuck with what I have said.
Tough Love....tough love
2007-02-27 23:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by sgtmouse4875 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her butt behind. The negative energy will probably follow her on the trip any way. There's no reason to ruin both vacations. Go and have a good time and stop worrying about her. If its a cheaper cost thing, invite someone else. Have a great time on YOUR cruise.
2007-02-27 23:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by Ofie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just book it for you and your hubby and don't worry about her. You are going on a cruise to relax and have fun not be dragged down by someone elses unstable life. Tell your hubby what you are doing and the reason's behind it i'm sure he will understand and as for your sister in law next time she rings up with her dramas just tell her that you have enough going on in your life lately that you don't need her crap on top of it or just tell her you are too busy to give a sh** at this moment, at least it will shut her up for a while.
2007-02-27 23:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how is she your sister-in-law if she has a boyfriend? just tell her your running out of time and you need a final answer and if she doesn't give you one don't let her go, her own fault for making it so difficult for you, plus you might now wanting her to go along if she has so much negative energy. Your going on vacation its a time of relaxation not of people griping an complaining.
2007-02-27 23:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren_Ann20 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have your husband deal with her or if she is your brother's wife sister let them deal with her ...If you cant get someone else to deal with her make one final call and tell her you need to know once and for all if Mr wonderful will show up as you have to let the cruise ship know by a certain date...Hopefully he wont go so you guys can have a good time w/o them fighting.
2007-02-27 23:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by starr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it chances are she's not going. she would like to go and she is probably telling people she is going but in the end right before the trip she will let you know that something came up and she cant make it. i have a brother the same way. good luck.
2007-02-27 23:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by bubba 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just remember this you are going on a cruise.....woo hoo! that is good times. dont let her bring you down..be straight out and tell her to get it together. can we say all you can drink and midnight buffets...man you are going to have fun.
2007-02-27 23:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by maria tortilla. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that you need to finalize your plans and that you need to know for sure now. And that's that. If she says no that's her loss, not yours. Then if she tells you she's changed her mind tell her what I always tell my kids, "tough!"
2007-02-27 23:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by dmstanley02 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋