I don't know why, but I've always had a habit of telling people as little about me as possible. My boyfriend loves me and thinks he knows everything about me, but there are a lot of things I've hidden from him for no real reason. For example, I got a new laptop last year, a few months after I met him. He thinks I don't have one, and even mentioned once that I should get one, but I just didn't respond. It always starts out with me not telling him something because it doesn't seem necessary enough. Then as time goes on I feel like I can't tell him, because then he'd want to know why I never mentioned it before. I end up basically lying to him when everything would be fine if I'd just told him from the start.
It's not like I'm hiding some deep dark secret, but I have been dishonest to him, and I feel horrible about it. Should I be apologizing profusely and begging him to forgive me, or would it be enough to say something like "Oh, hey, I have a laptop. I'm sorry I never mentioned it"?
2007-02-27 14:53:35 · 5 answers · asked by bluie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, we have a long-distance relationship, and this is something that I'd be more comfortable talking about in person. Should I tell him as soon as possible over the phone, or would it be better to wait until next month when I can visit him?
This has been on my mind a lot lately, and the guilt is killing me.
2007-02-27 14:54:57 · update #1
The laptop is just one example. I also got a new part time job a while back and didn't tell him. It takes up all my time, but whenever he asks what I did all week I say I didn't really do anything. I don't know, maybe I'm a compulsive liar.
2007-02-27 15:09:41 · update #2
In my point of view, what is happening between two of you is quite normal. I also have a remote relationship with my girlfriend. We just couldn't shear everything while we live remotely. This is the nature of it. As you may notice, sometimes it is really difficult to tell or report everything on the phone or email. I believe you know pretty well the feeling while you and your boyfriend sitting face to face and talking tenderly.
2007-02-27 15:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by TZO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are totally funny girl, youve got to be very sensitive to let that kind of thing bother you that much. good grief people can know each other for years and not know things about them, those are very minor things and i would just tell him honey i dont know why but when you said i needed a laptop awhile back i should of told you i had one and laugh, and by the way did i mention i have a new part time job. and then stop doing that there is no reason is there that you cant talk to him?
2007-02-27 15:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is how being dihonest starts with anyone, it starts out with little lies, and starts to become a habit! You have to start being honest with yourself, yes you can start by telling him in person how you really feel about it, if your going to have a good relationship with anyone honesty is the best policy! Good Luck if he really loves you then by being honest to him he'll give you another chance! Stop being dishonest it's the workings of the devil.
2007-02-27 16:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know no reason to keep hurting yourself but it sounds like there is more here than just a laptop, what else is going on?
2007-02-27 15:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by Francis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know he hasnt been honest with you. maybe he got more than a laptop. dont sweat it. if you dig deep you probably will find more dirt on him
2007-02-27 15:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋