I am 54 years old and my wife is 51 years old. She loves me so much. I only like her, not love her. We been together for at least 30+ years. I never had children with her but I did made love to her since I was 28 years old. She fell shortly to a terminal accident. I told her "I love you" so many times I cannot even count. I never fell in love with her. I didn't leave her because I wouldn't have someone to have sex with and she'll be heartbroken if I did left and i would have been paying for child support if she did got pregnant... and plus, I never fell in love with her so i didn't want to be very sad if she had died. If I did fell deep in love with her, I know I will be very sad right now, but good thing I didn't fell in love with her. I can imagine myself leaving her and not being sad. I don't feel bad at all for her death. I had to pretend to be crying on her funeral to let her family think that I am sad but really, I am not sad. I don't plan to ever fall in love but will date.
2007-02-27 14:48:16 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your an idiot who can't SPELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-27 14:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by rosiejac 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its a bit confusing for in the firsthalf of your question you talk ofher in the present sense like you talk of people that are alive then but i then you say she dies and that you had to pretend to cry so her family would think you were sadder than you really were but more than likely her family was too sad to pay a lot of attention to you or to judge how sad you were for real grief tends to isolate. Do I think you are pure evil Not Really-for you had enough feelings for her to not want to break her heart and now that YOU REGRET NOT Loving her enough perhaps you discovered after she dies that you actually did love her or your feelings were deeper than you thought for to be together with someone for 30+years JUST for sex is a bit too unblieveable-must have ben excellent were it to be so. Were you unkind to her, did you make her cry, did she ever know and her heart broke anyway-if the answer is NO , that you were indeed a good husband to her, that you were kind and fulfilled her life then you did a Good Thing.Only you know your life and how you were with her and you are the only one besides God that can judge how you made her life.I hope you weer good and kind and loving for if you you weren't I think you will judge and punish yourself the rest of your life.
2007-02-27 23:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not evil. I do feel sorry for you though.
I doubt that you ever truly appreciated what you had with your wife and i'm sorry that you were unable to return her love. It could have been a wonderful experience and would have lit up your life. I find it hard to believe after so many years you couldn't even cry. I think you stayed for the wrong reasons and i feel sorry for you that you never fell in love with what must have been an amazing woman. I also feel sorry for your wife because i believe that the dead know everything and now that she's gone i'm sure she knows that you didn't really love her and she probably feels very betrayed.
I think that everyone has a soul mate and i'm sorry that you wasted the years of your life living a lie when you could have found real happiness.
And be careful, nobody ever plans to fall in love. It might just hit you one day. i hope it does and i hope then you fully understand just what your wife felt for you.
Good luck.
2007-02-27 22:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by Alyeria 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You were selfish in several ways. You stayed together for many of the wrong reasons. 30 years of empty "I love you's." I'm not sure if you even understand what love is. She loved you with all her heart. You felt nothing. For 30 years.
If you're looking for someone to say that what you did was ok, I can't give that to you. But obviously you're feeling a little guilty, and you're looking for answers, seeing that you posted this question several times. Ask yourself why you're feeling guilty if you never loved her.
2007-02-27 23:05:02 · answer #4 · answered by Sam-I-Am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your story sounds fake. You don't sound mature enough to be 54 years old.
Even if all is true you are not evil as much as you would like to be. She probbly had a happy life thinking you loved her while you wasted your life just so you would have someone to have sex with. (although you didn't want her to be heartbroken either...no evil)
Good luck with the future.
2007-02-27 22:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess in a way you were doing the right thing...being loyal to her. But by lying to her and yourself you've lost the best years of your life where you could have been with someone else you did love. By not being upset at her funeral, it's probably relief in a way- you don't have to live a lie any more
2007-02-27 22:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by sharkgirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't leave because you wouldn't have someone to have sex with? I don't even know what to say. I just hope you made her believe you loved her...if any of this is even true. Not to sound offensive, but you need to work on your language skills. You come off like a 5th grader.
2007-02-27 22:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't think you are evil...I just think that you weren't a very good husband to keep her around and give her the wrong idea...by the way you have VERY bad grammar for a 51 year old.
2007-02-27 22:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by lovefromavampire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not evil. Maybe just a bit cold. Being with anyone for 30 years would bring about love. Sadly, you maybe cannot feel that way.
2007-02-27 22:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by theartisttwin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you just have not been able to get some connection with her. Bad mistake marrying her and letting her suffer in silence. in that perspective, Yes, you are kind of evil.
2007-02-27 22:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by undercovergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm...to know that you didnt cry at the funeral wether you loved her or not, you should have cared enough to shed a tear on your own. you spent most of your life with this woman and I think its sad.
2007-02-27 23:01:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋