just started hitting and punching people in the face- how do i get him to stop!!
(he hits really hard too... i don't know where he would have learned it. no one hits anyone in my house and he isn't babysat!)
2007-02-27 14:47:48 · 13 answers · asked by lynn 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My 19 month old does this too. It's their way of communicating and get out their frustration as they can't say what they want or what is making them upset.
When my daughter does this, I firmly take her hand and tell her "NO, NO HITTING!" She usually pouts, but doesn't cry unless I say it too loud. If she persists, she gets a time out in her crib for the same number of minutes (not to exceed three minutes) that she has hit. Then, when I get her, we discuss the hitting. You need to be persisitent with this. Don't make it a game and don't laugh. If you think that it's funny, your child will think that it's OK. Maybe some books about hitting and how it hurts others' feelings?? I'm by no means, super Mom. This is just what works for me. Good Luck!
2007-02-27 20:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I know!! My son is going to turn a year old this weekend and he's found this new habit. I think it's just part of their developmental process.
When my son does it it's an instant time out. I've modified it for his age. I just look him square in the eyes very stern, cool, and calm and say NO. Then I physically sit him down. And, tell him "hitting is not nice". Sometime I have to do it a few times and other days once is enough.
2007-02-27 22:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey Kids pick that up what I did for my little boy was and i don't want to sound mean but time out was not working anymore so what i did and it worked really well was when he hit me i would do it back to him not hard or anything just to show him that it hurts and it makes mommy very sad and usally that will stop it and i'm sorry if this sounds mean in anyway... but i had the excat same problem what it is the child doesn't no he or she is hurting you they don't understand it they just know they get a reaction out of you so you have to teach them that it is hurting mommy...i hope this helps in some way
2007-02-27 22:55:04 · answer #3 · answered by chrissy o 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
For the spankers: How can you hit a child and then tell them not to hit??
He's doing it to see what happens, what reaction he'll get. It's perfectly normal for his age.When it happens, immediately remove him from the situation, get down on his level, look him square in the eye and in a low, calm tone say "we do not hit, it hurts". Then go over and apologize to the person he hit for him. It's good for him to see you empathizing with the person he hit. I used this method and time outs only for other unnacceptable behavior and it absolutely works if you are consistent.
2007-02-28 01:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take his hand and push it down and say hands down and hold them there for a minute. Repeat the process. If he keeps hitting put him in time out.
Keep a watch on this it could be early signs of adhd
2007-02-28 00:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever let anyone laugh at him thinking it is funny. Let him know very fast by grabbing his hands and saying NO, THAT IS NOT NICE! You may even sit him down at that point and tell him he is going to sit there for a few minutes until he can be nice and not hit. Don't worry, it is nothing you have done, it is typical of toddlers.
2007-02-27 22:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's been watching the Three Stooges!
Do NOT let him watch any TV and do things with him. When he starts hitting/punching - discipline him! He needs to know his behavior is NOT acceptable! STOP allowing him to do this!
2007-02-28 00:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a smack on the hand is doing it for me a this present moment!!!Once he works out that the smack on his hand only happens when he hits people he will get sick of that happening after about 1/2 dozen times & if its his brothers or sisters ,i call that pay back time!!! did you stop doing thing when you got a smack??? I DID !!!!
2007-02-27 23:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by Spanky the monkey !!! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This probly wont work but my baby did that once and I started to fake cry. She saw that I was "crying" and she must have felt realy bad because she started crying too and she came over to give me a hug. The only time she touches my face now is to grab my cheeks to give me a kiss, to make my nose "honk" or to show me where mommy eyes, nose, mouth, etc are.
2007-02-27 23:36:49 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
DEAR
PLEASE USE THESE STEPS LISTED BELOW OK
(1ST) TIME OUTS SIT HIM IN A CHAIR IN THE CONNER
ARE PUT HIM IN HIS BED AND SHUT THE DOOR
AND LET HIM CRY ARE USE THE OLD TIME STYLE OF PARENTING TAKE THE CHILD TO YOUR ROOM SHUT THE DOOR PUT HIM OVER YOUR LAP AND SPANK HIS LITTLE BOTTOM AND KEEP REPEATING UNTIL HIS LITTLE BRAIN SAYS WAIT HOLD IT BUD THIS IS REALLY HURTING SHE IS NOT PLAYING WITH YOU OK ALL TAKEN CARE OF FOR YOU TAKE CARE
2007-02-28 03:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋